One of my very best friends happens to be a guy. When I first met him last year, I had feelings for him but then they sort of went away and our relationship was more brother and sister. But now I've realized that I still have very strong feelings for him. I don't know what to tell him because I don't want to lose his friendship and I don't want things to get awkward with us. I am also wondering if these feelings just came back because I haven't been able to see him everyday now like I used to last year. Is it that I just miss him and when I do get to see him I crave the attention and I just think that I like him? Please help me!
2006-10-24 18:01:51 · 16 answers · asked by universitygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let out subtle hints. If he picks up on them, he's probably been watching for them... and he probably likes you, too. If he picks up on them and asks you about them and seems kind of freaked out-like... say something like... You have a huge crush on someone and you aren't able to show them completely how you feel, so you're expressing yourself with someone of whom you're comfortable with showing them to. Okay, that was a bit lengthy... but, hey... I'm just a random chick answering your question. If he picks up on the hints and he likes you, you'll know. If he doesn't pick up on them, don't worry about it, but don't form your whole life around him. Good luck. Much love.
2006-10-24 18:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Acrixia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if hes dating anyone at the moment. Try asking him things that get him to say positive things about you and then work it somehow into a question of how come you 2 never went on a date...do it jokeingly so if he has an interest you can both ease into the relationship and dating, and if he isnt interested ,then thers no harm done because it was "all a joke anyway" .... lol and were the bestest of friends......
2006-10-24 18:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him, and he doesn't feel the same way, it's a chance that you're going to have to take. It may make the friendship so awkward, if he doesn't feel the same way, that you or he may just want to end it. Your call!
This happened to me and I told my now husband now I felt. We've been married 6 years and have a 15 month old daughter!
2006-10-24 18:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. The feelings don't seem important because you don't know why or even whether they are there. When people are ready to commit themselves to good relationships regardless of come and go feelings, then they've got something to talk about. Feelings can be a bonus but they don't make a relationship.
2006-10-24 18:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if you think that the risk is worth it. Really examine your feelings for this friend. Chances are you are just missing him. See what happens when you spend time with him, like you used to.
If you find that you really cant live without him then tell him because it is always better to know for sure.
2006-10-24 18:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing you could do is ask him if he wants to go out for dinner(as friends) and bring up the topic of relationships, get him to talk aobu this theorys on it, adn decide if you like his personality, or if you do just crave the attention.
2006-10-24 18:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a situation like you.
I have a best guy friend. I met him several years ago.
Yes, I like him.
But I will never told him about this before he will tell me.
I think if a boy really like a girl, he will tell you as soon as possible.
But if not that. He maybe not in love with you.
2006-10-24 18:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by Love Love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest and tell him how you feel. Otherwise, you'll never know what might've been...
...and who knows! Maybe he has been feeling the same way about you. I think it's best that you get this off your chest or it'll keep bothering you.
They say that "absence makes the heart grow fonder"
-Goodluck-
2006-10-24 18:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kendra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in a similar situation maybe u should tell him if u really do know that u like him. But then again u juss might regret it so i'm not sure. sorry
2006-10-24 18:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by monkey b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My dear, you haven't seen the world. You need to see who else may have a loving desire to be with you. Give yourself a chance to live first.
BIG DOLLARS IN THE MACHINE
2006-10-24 18:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋