Hey,
Ive jsut recently lost my virginity to a friend of mine on the football team. Problem is that i've always been known for my innoncence, and i know im going to be razzed by everyone and looked at differently. I dont want that kind of attention but i also dont want to be anti social and avoid people. I just don't know... whats the best way to handle my situation. Advice anyone?
2006-10-24 17:57:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm sure he slammed your *** good and told the whole team, ha ha
2006-10-24 18:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by danny5631 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just passed a huge milestone and it's OK to feel anxious. Yes, people will find out and may talk, but I'm sure you're not the only one who has 'gone there'. Hold your head up, smile and don't let anyone 'get to you'. However, at the same time, don't brag or discuss the encounter with anyone. If you've told your girlfriends, I hope you didn't share personal details. Be respectful, act like a lady, and try to change the subject..... It's the beginning of a new life for you so take the 'high road'.
2006-10-25 01:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every young boy or man would like to brag they lost their virginity even to the extennt of lying to there male friends .girls or woman on the other hand want to keep it quiet as they get scorned at and as you say talked about .You made 2 mistakes .......
1.Morally giving up your viginity at the wrong time.
2.Giving it to a football team member .We all make mistakes and I would bet that your not the only girl in your circle of friends that has done this but they perhaps were a bit smarter who they gave in to .I would try to avoid the football team if you can find other male friends and dont be easy in giving sex to them .As for the girls just be your normal self if they call you names they are not good friends .If you are at school or college concentrate on your studies time heals eveything at some stage so realise you made a mistake we all make mistakes .if your girlfriends call you bad names just ignore them if one or more want to talk about it in a small group or privatly be truthful you made a mistake and you hope by listening to your side of what happend encourages them not to make the same mistake .HONEY IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD you still have a long life ahead of you to be the best person you can be learn form this and move on with your life someone special will find you oneday and he wont hold your past against you because he loves the you who has developed into a great human being .
2006-10-25 01:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex when you know you aren't ready for the consequences. I can tell you are immature, because no adult would be worried that so and so is gonna talk about me having sex! Why would you have done that anyway knowing the whole locker room would be informed? You act like you saw the turn out of the situation before it even happened. Deal with it!
2006-10-25 01:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he your boyfriend first of all!? if he is, then he should be man enough and have at least as much respect for you NOT to tell everyone. if you're so worried about it, talk to him and let him know that you trusted him to not spread your encounter around school when you consented to have sex with him. be firm with your decision because ultimately, it could ruin some relationships if he doesn't listen to your wishes. if he cares about you, as he should if you had sex in the first place, he should understand and be totally agreeable with you.
all my best of luck!
(and keep your chin up. don't sweat it. you'll be fine, and your friends will stand by you whatever happens.)
2006-10-25 01:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grin and bear it...take it on the chin. This will help you when you get older. We all do things that are wrong and embarrasing. Just say "yeah, I did it...I admit it...and I will probably do it again, so what?"
2006-10-25 01:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Chris C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youare still who you are, if you felt good about losing it with your friend, just eb the same, you cared about the person, if not adn you feel depressed or just emotionaly distraut, talk to a close friend.
2006-10-25 01:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by irishthunda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up to everyone. That way, nobody can look down on you for it!
2006-10-25 01:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by wildraft1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well how will anyone know except for you & him??? just keep quiet about the whole thing & keep it to yourselves.
2006-10-25 01:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its part of growing up to deal with what u have done...u knew sooner or later u would have sex...and sonner or later u have to deal with what comes with that...simple as that
2006-10-25 01:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by o1xtroublex1o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋