I am a 22year old white male. I am a college sr. majoring in psychology. I get alot that I have the maturity of a 25yr old. I am not really into girls in their teens and early 20s. I like girls who are 25-33. I know this one girl who I want to date she is 29 and has a son that is 9 and a daughter that is 5. She is a RN at this hospital where I am an intern. I really have a big crush on her. What do you think? Would you go out with someone like me if you were in her situation? Do you think I should go after it? I need advice please.
2006-10-24 17:54:37 · 19 answers · asked by Trojan8408 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go for it, sounds like you have a lot going for you right now, so she will be okay with your age if she likes you. you are not a baby and she will know you are responsible. kids are a challenge though. you have to be willing to win them over too.
2006-10-24 17:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by L.J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I feel weird dating a guy that's younger than me, but I think that's just some weird stigma that I've had in my head, since my mom is younger than my dad (you're a psych major, maybe you can analyze me!)...but if he was younger, and was the same maturity level as me, and the attraction was there, sure, why not? So I take it that you talk to this RN a lot? She knows you exist, right? :)
Why don't you try taking it slow, and see how things go? Grab a cup of coffee or hot chocolate or whatever at the cafeteria during a break, share Jell-O, etc.! See what happens. Good Luck!
2006-10-25 00:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by ucd_grad_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this woman is single with w 2 kids, probably u have a greater chance of asking her out...considering she's not married after all... but u may have to think twice first before making any move to her. u have to consider many facts concerning ur plan of pursuing her since she is older than u and she has 2 kids already. ok, are u ready to shoulder this big responsibility? would u be able to provide for her as well as her son and daughter? if, u have the capacity, then u have the guts to get to know her.
u have to show that ur interested in her as well as her kids. that's the basic thing.
about ur age, it matters but it seems that capability and maturity of the person is much more worthy to value than age at all. if u seem to fully understand the matter u are going thru, then good luck to u. hope this helps :)
2006-10-25 01:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by kazzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 26 year old woman and if I had a younger man interested in me I would be flattered. But at the same time- I have children as well and I would find it quite akward to date someone so young who doesn't have kids. But that is just me. I would suggest that you take it slow- get to know her as a friend first and maybe things will work into something more. She's a single Mom so she will be very cautious about any man with her children. If she isn't very cautious- I would be concerned.
2006-10-25 01:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to then, yeah go for it. But you should probably think about those kids. You've got to decide whether, if it got serious with her, you'd be happy stepping up as a father figure for the kids. That is a big responsibility for a 22 yr old in college. But if you're fine with that then I say go for it! What have you got to lose, the worst that could happen is that she might say no... so what?
2006-10-25 01:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might take you as a kid and think that you are just kidding at first.. telling you to get a girl of our own age... be prepared for that...
But if you are very sure of your feeling.. you can tell her seriously and even ask her out, well you can be a bit persistent in a cute way.. just tell her that you have a crush n all. i think she is matured enuff not to panic.. once u r her friend well it's upto you how u go about the whole thing....
all the best...
2006-10-25 01:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might go out with you but don't expect to meet the kids. It a big thing when a single mother introduces her kids to a man.
You'll never know unless you try
good luck
2006-10-25 00:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by BabyBella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My motto is "If you don't ask, you can't get".
Take the chance and approach her, the worst that can happen is she says no.
Just keep in mind that she will be looking for something stable for her children and may not want to chance someone younger. It may not be a reflection on you, but on younger guys in general.
Maybe try getting to know her as a friend first and let her get to know you.
2006-10-25 00:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by slow_play69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never believed age to be an issue in love. If she's single, I say ASK HER OUT!!! The worst thing that can happen is she'll say no, you'll be hurt for a little while, but if you don't ask her you'll never know what she might say, and that hurts even more!
2006-10-25 01:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by VIP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a relationship that curtain people don't approve of either and I have to say from experience that it DOESN'T MATTER what you are it only matters what you can bring to the relationship. So what if she's older and you're younger, you'll never know if you don't at least try.
2006-10-25 01:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by signalfirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋