I am a single mother of two. Their dad is out of sight out of mind. I am hopeless that i will find a man to treat them like his own. Am i wrong? Is it possible that i could find someone that will want them to call him dad.
2006-10-24 17:37:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Of course you can. And if you end up not liking the ones you find, its OK. My mom raised me since forever and her and I ended up just fine. If your worried about them not having a father figure, you can at least in-roll them into Big Brothers and Big Sisters. It worked for me since I had no Father in my life. They will take your children camping, rafting, canoeing and other things that a father would. But never give up hope and stay strong for you so that you can help them. I'm sure your a great mother so keep at it and let faith in whatever you believe in be your guide.
2006-10-24 17:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by GrafikArt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as important, are you in the frame of mind to find a man to call you, period? If all your interested in is finding a father for your kids, good luck. When the little darlings are all grown up, and you find yourself sitting in a chair next to a man that you found for your kids and not you then what? I have grown kids myself, and believe me, when you find yourself alone, as long as you don't have an offensive oder or you don't run around naked, they couldn't care less. Find a nice guy for you and you'll have a nice guy period. If he doesn't want kids, you'll know the first time you have him over for 'movie night' with all of you. Let the kids pick the movie and be themselves. The movie won't be half over before you get your answer. By the way, I'm a male with grand children, so I know what I'm talking about.
2006-10-24 17:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible but keep in mind that your children may not want to call him dad but that is just a title if he treats them as his own and they feel the love from him that is what is important not who is being called what
2006-10-24 17:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up hope, your situation is not as unique as it once was, so kids are not as big of a "risk factor" as it once was.
But the worst thing you can do is focus on "getting a guy", because any guy will read that...it will scare off the nice ones and encourage the abusive controlling ones. Learn to be content in your current circumstance so that when the right guy comes along (not just the next one), you'll be in a better place to handle it.
2006-10-24 17:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course its possible kids are the greatest. my girls are teens and i so miss when they were young and thier biggest problems are which game to play today. i could fix thier problems with ice cream. my favorite time is b-days and xmas i love shopping in toy stores. kids don't worry about bills, laundry, or dishes. alot of the time they are easier to hang out with than adults. thier biggest lie is "i didn't break that" or "i didn't eat those cookies". the last woman i dated had 2 forms of communication with her 2 kids yelling or not at all, it made me so sad. i enjoyed helping with homework, we would cook together. u could see them learn.
sorry i don't mean to go on, but yes there are guys that would be happy to be with someone with kids.
my guess the ones on here that say no is because they are young. my last gf and i dated for 4yrs and she cheated so we broke up, but not a day gos by i don't miss the kids.
2006-10-24 19:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly speaking, its tough but not entirely impossible. It will need a long time trusting and loving relationship to even contemplate that. Beside, the guy might really love you, but that doesn't guarantee that he would love kids in general (then - Ur kids)
Sorry for being a touch tacit. Good Luck !
2006-10-24 17:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by life_is_rhythm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, some men like children. It seems so many women
are single mothers now. What a shame. Women are so
easy for men to get in bed now, men jump from one to
another. Make this dude pay child support. If you need a
friend e'mail me .
2006-10-24 17:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by CODY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible but by no means dont push that on them they have a lot 2 deal with already knowing their real father is not around so many confusing thoughts so i suggest you look for someone who will treat you and them with respect and just try to be their best friend believe it or not your kids probaly have this fantasy of their real father coming back you may know better but they dont
good luck and god bless
2006-10-25 00:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by OFFICER CAMPBELL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its entirely possible. Lots of people come to think of their partners children as their own. You just need to find the right guy.
2006-10-24 22:16:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is possible but it probally wont be easy.You will have to take your time and see how these men act around your kids and other kids to see if in the long run they will want your children to call him Daddy
2006-10-24 17:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋