My boyfriend and I have sex very often, and I love it, its special, and sometimes I feel dirty, which I kinda like. I definitely notice that he puts a good 97% of the effort into what we do. Honestly When I am on top I feel so lost and almost mildly retarded at the same time. He's been the one person that makes me feel comfortable with my body with the sexual positions we do. (I just feel insecure sometimes, even though I am extremely fit) I have a jist of what Im doing but, I want to be so much sexier, and do different things and in different places. Does anyone have any advice for a college girl, with a great guy. Have any ideas for different things, or help with what to do, or different places, something crazy I can initiate.
2006-10-24 17:28:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wear something hot, it may give you a little more confidence on top. Hold his shoulder while you do your thing, it makes it easier. Also, my husband says to buy a pair of fishnet thigh highs...it worked for us!
2006-10-24 17:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by tortasinqueso 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have two options that you can do, each taking on a different aspect of the areas you want to improve.
First of all, you said you want to be sexier. It's a great start that you are pretty fit and even better that you are willing to even be on top. Some girls flat out refuse! 2 things you can do here. One, make a little noise. No matter what position, if you moan a little, it will drive your man nuts. That in itself will make you seem sexier. Second, rent/download a few pornos. Preferably not the really cheezy ones. Watch how the girls move and how the act when they are one top. Guys usually find this sexy.
Second, it's a big part is in the technique. Unfortunately, we are not born with with knowledge already in our heads. Again, watching porno's can help with different positions and techniques, or you can even go to barnes and noble and find some books about sexual positions. Try them out on your man. Maybe the internet will have some stuff too. Don't be afraid to experiment.
Different places are always fun to do. Don't restrict it to the bedroom. Get some passion going on in the kitchen, living room, anywhere. If you're really feeling risky, try to do it in a public place...not actually IN public but somewhere where people are around and there might be a slight risk of getting caught. Start in a parking lot in a car and work your way from there.
Good luck!
2006-10-25 00:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, you don't want to "just lay there". I had the same feeling when I was on top, but that feeling leaves if you just take things slow and close your eyes and tell him not to move (he can put his hands on your hips, but that's all). You might feel a bit self-conscious at first, but just do against him what makes you feel good until you're done, then he can flip you and finish it. Pretend he's your doll and that joystick of his belongs to you, and use it in the most selfish way. Once you get the hang of it, you won't have to be so slow (sometimes guys don't like slow). Trust me, guys get turned on when they see their partner turned on. Pay attention to how every move you make feels, and adjust your hips or your legs to how you want them to be, find that spot where it counts, and go. Personally, I found that once I found the right angle/velocity/whatever, I would come very fast, and I could hardly keep myself up.
Happy juicy times!
2006-10-25 01:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl get yourself down to a BOOK store immediately ! A love shop too has numerous books for this kind of thing. They also sell little inexpensive toys to add to the excitement. Go take a look !
I gather you're of age being in College ?
Good Luck
2006-10-25 00:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got all the stuff you need but you are afraid to do anything with it. Go take a long walk by yourself and think about why you aren't willing to express yourself. If you need source material - hop onto amazon.com and order a pile of books.
But the problem is more likely your own fears and you need to haul 'em out into the light and decide what you are going to do with them.
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2006-10-25 00:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try wearing sexy lingerie and make a romantic environment. When your on top, make sure he gets a good view of your boobs and can get a mouthful when he wants, let him bounce you up and down so that it feels good to you both. Also when your on top, turn the other way w/ your back to his front and ride him, it's a new feeling and you control that intensity. Good luck .
2006-10-25 00:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a xxx video at a liquor store or pay per view watch alone or together . discuss his and or your fantasies or experiences and everything will happen from there. Hold off on actually sex during the xxx just foreplay and discussion. when the movie is over then engage in sex.
2006-10-25 00:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by jason m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, location sex is always a turn on....getting physical in places that you wouldn't necessarily think as sexy...such as the kitchen, the back yard, the hallway at 3 am...those certainly spice things up...
2006-10-25 00:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say is ask him what he likes and what he like you do do to him. To be sexy use total body movements,teaseing, caressing and what make him happy and you will keep this going. As i read i can tell you girl and you are very good in bed.
2006-10-25 00:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by shirley p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need sex in order to feel secure - you're going to have major issues down the road. Maybe now is a good time to stop sex and rediscover virginity....
2006-10-25 00:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋