today i got my heart broken in 2 ! the guy i had feelings for told me in an e-mail that he didn't want to continue a relationship with me.because he felt like it would be unfair to me to do so. and he cares to much about me to do that. i never had a relationship before. and yes i'm an adult i'm 31!
2006-10-24 17:16:14 · 17 answers · asked by ♥musiclover♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes
2006-10-24 20:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 20:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard I know but heres a cople things you should do
Don't call him
Don't have contact with him
First remove all the things that reminds you of him.
Be prepared to mourn him - when you break up you must go trhu all the phases a person that have lost somebody must go trough.
Be gentle to yourself and allow you to cry, you must let it out.
Stick on your girlfriends and family.
After a couple of weeks or the time you need don't allow yourself to listen to sad love songs, or keep on the crying.
Don't allow yourself to think of him... if you do.. it will never end.
Whenever you do catch yourself thinking about him, call a friend and go out.
Keep yourself bussy.
If you feel you are ready, start going out more and be certain that you will find someone who is totally right for you, that deserves you.
And keep in mind that you wont forget him, but you will eventually go on, and i promise you... theres something better comming for you.
2006-10-24 17:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by wishfullthinkingqueen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not worth breaking your heart over. I am sorry to put it so bluntly. If he was not man enough to speak to you up front, but rather using email, then it should tell you that he is not really ready for a relationship. What you need to do now is to get yourself a change over. That is, change your hairstyle, get some new outfits, find some fun places to go. Go out on group dating and give yourself time to heal by loving yourself and having confidence in your ability to succeed.
2006-10-24 17:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 29 and Ive been trying to mend my broken heart for almost 5 years
2006-10-24 17:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by kennyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel very lucky that he ended it, those relationships can be dangerous, you need to be out in the real world, join a singles club, they have a very nice way of meeting, you just go for the fun, if you end up meeting and dating that is fine but at least you have a group to go with and try it, this way you can actually see them and meet them and have a delightful time, also church is a great way to meet people! Move on life is short
2006-10-24 17:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It never truly mends.. but I really couldn't answer that. I have had a broken heart for 4 years now... and even though the feelings are gone, my heart remains the same.
Just be strong, that's all I have..
2006-10-24 17:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by JessicaMLM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least you can pat yourself on the back for attracting someone so genuine!!
Know that you do have the ability to attract honest partners...and keep looking, treat yourself to a great outfit, a manicure, hairstyle, and a good night out....wink at the single guy at the bar...better, send him one of your favorite drinks..and remember...you are WORTH the honesty that this guy who left gave you!!
(maybe he has commitment problems or something!)
2006-10-24 17:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by kat k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was the loser, trust me. Do some self healing to yourself & for yourself. Wake up every morning & tell yourself, it's a GREAT
day, (because you just got dumped by a loser) & you're gonna do ok. Everytime you start thinking about it, say to yourself heyyyy I'm ok. & I will do much better next time. I find this is helpfull to me in many situations. Try it & I hope it works for you, but you do have to believe it as well.
Good Luck
2006-10-24 17:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Music usually helps me get through hard times. However, always remember there are more fish in the sea, and I'm sure you'll find a better catch. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 17:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by babydiva3k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋