2006-10-24 17:12:46 · 15 answers · asked by teagan m 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Teagan, I don't know how old you are but honey, I was 32 when I had my only child and I was scared too at that age. I was told I could never have children and what a blessing my son has been to me. He is the joy of my life. Everything will be okay. Just talk to your parents and I hope you have some good parents who will help you. If you don't, please don't have an abortion or you will regret it later on in life. That is a human being you are carrying.If you feel that you just can't handle the responsibility, then you may want to give the baby up to a family member like a favorite aunt and uncle, this way you can see that the baby is being well taken care of.. if you need to talk you can email me at mysticmoonprincess01@yahoo.com. good luck
2006-10-24 17:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are more than 100% sure that u don't want the kid just either have an abortion or put it up for adoption... I'm pro-choice, however, I do know of a lot of girls who have had abortions and regre it a lot later or it stays in their conscience for the rest of their lives. If you are cold a bout those things then go for it but if u know that eventually it will bother you then have it and put it up for adoption and for that case I also have seen a lot of girls fall in love with their kids after they have them and if they put it up for adoption before they gave birth then that's the pain on the back cuz if they back up then the couple that wanted teh baby gets crushed or you get crushed when u have to give up your baby. It's truly up to you... noone here will be able to tell you the best answer because we wouldn't know unless we are YOU. Even if people have gone thru this before we still don't know how you feel or are gonna feel after this... I say think about it really hard and pick the best option, something you are gonna be happy with for the rest of your life. Kids are a blessing though and they do deserve the best so if you feel you can't give yours that then let it go... think about the baby too. I wish you the best.
2006-10-25 00:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by lil ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are scared. This is definitely a time where you need help from supportive people. First, tell your parents or at least another trusted adult. Most of the time, parents will want to help you and you might be surprised about how your parents come through in a tough situation like this one. For sure, you don't want to go through this alone.
Second, get help from people who deal with situations like this all the time. I recommend LDS Family Services. They can help people make rational, helpful choices about unplanned pregnancy. They will help you learn about other options that are much better for you and the baby than abortion. Here's a link that will help you contact them:
http://www.providentliving.org/ses/birthmother/wecanhelp/0,12266,2181-1,00.html
2006-10-25 01:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The female has a challenge in life but her rewards are great. Some females who were scared of becoming a mother of the universe starved their bodies so their periods went away and they all died. Some females being rushed into sex began to cut after a mental breakdown. Most females struggle through it even without Mom's help. Sex is made to be wonderful so you are willing to go ahead but sex has made hell for so many too.
2006-10-25 02:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you know your having it so you've already made you decision you just need to start planning give or take you have a little less than 9 months to do so. You need to figure out financially how you can better prepare yourself. Most states have assistance programs for children as far as health insurance, food and even sometimes utilities and rent depending on your state. there are a lot of factors. If you wanna talk e-mail me.
2006-10-25 00:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by BabyBella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister was scared too and now she is one of the best Moms I have ever seen. She totally changed her mind once the baby was born. Look to your Mom and other friends with kids for help...it is natural to be scared but you will do great with a little guidance!
2006-10-25 00:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious, you can put the child up for adoption so he/she will have a good home, or, ask a family member, to look after the child, until you change your mind about parenting. It's a difficult and time-consuming job. The main thing, is to do what is best for YOUR lifestyle.
Best of luck.
2006-10-25 00:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know how that happens right? I can tell you it is normal to be scared its a life changing event. It is a huge responsibility. I know how you feel. I can honestly tell you a child will change your life for ever. Stick in there everything happens for a reason and i bet it is going to complete your life. Your life really has just begun enjoy it and think positive. Good luck. DONT LISTEN TO STARRWOOD.
2006-10-25 00:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
having a kid is not that bad...at first it may seem scary but once you feel the baby inside of you then you can't imagine a life without the baby...it is a special bond...it is normal to be scared at first because you know everything is gonna change but this is a good change and trust me, having a kid will give your life a clearer direction, purpose and meaning...good luck.
2006-10-25 00:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Modelizer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a boy when i was 17, it was the hardest thing but it was so worth it. I grew into an independent woman because of it. Talk to your family they will take it better than you think. Ask for help if you need it. And your very grown up to come on here and ask for help. good luck!!!!
2006-10-25 00:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by lynn s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋