Earlier this year, I used to party constantly with a bunch of friends at my side. We used to do stupid, amazing **** that was a lot of fun back in the day.
Now, I'm in a solid relationship. None of my friends are, and the desire to drink is pretty much nonexistant. I can't relate to my friends anymore, who are single and perfectly happy with the way things were. The only person I really hang out with is my girlfriend, and she's busy with her own things.
I know it's a huge mistake to rely on your significant other for everything, but I don't know how to break myself of the habit. I just feel friendless right now, and can't stop thinking about her when I make attempts at going out to do something else.
It doesn't help that we've both been under a lot of stress lately and I haven't seen her as much as I've wanted to. I just get really overemotional sometimes, and get really agitated/jealous when she spends her time elsewhere.
How can I make the necessary steps to fix this?
2006-10-24 17:10:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep in mind that my close group of friends really enjoys drinking alcohol and making out with freshman girls. It's difficult to relate to them for this reason.
2006-10-24 17:16:47 · update #1
Easy dude, I have the same problem. I got married at 22 to a wonderfull girl I meet in japan, her and my friends have nothing in common and I really dont feel the need to drink or go out. But your right it does get lonely sometimes without friends of your own, for whom you can relate. You need to find couples like yourself that are also in serious relations and then you will have someone to relate to.
2006-10-24 17:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by templarfound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try planning one night out a week with the guys. It will help you get reacquainted with old friends and maybe make some new ones. Also, planning activities away from your girlfriend might help you to not feel so reliant on her for everything.
2006-10-25 00:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT JUST SOUND LIKE YOU NEED TO MAKE SOME NEW FRIENDS, SO THAT YOU WONT DEPEND ON YOUR GIRL
FRIEND TO GIVE YOU WHAT MESSING IN YOUR LIFE. NO
ONE CAN GIVE YOU THAT, YOU NEED TO FIND THINGS
THAT WILL GIVE YOU THE PEACE THAT YOU NEED.
OTHER WISE THE REALTIONSHIP WILL SUFFER FOR
IT. START LIVING YOUR LIFE, GET A HOBBY. START
DOING THINGS THAT YOU DO TO MEET OTHER PEOPLE
MAYBE OTHER COUPLES.
2006-10-25 00:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋