How do you feel about young mom and older moms?

Question

What's the real difference? Give me stories about young moms and older moms

I don't want any comments about older mom being more mature, because my mom asks me questions about children. My 38 yr old neighbor took a newborn out into the freezing cold with no hat on while it was drizzling. Her daughter was wearing shorts and sandals, Every mom is different, but I just want answer not about who is more mature

Answer 1

How young?

Your body isn't really ready to have children until you are in your 20's.

And having babies after age 35 raises risks.

22-30 seems like the perfect ages to conceive. You are still young enough to run after them, and your body is able to bounce back faster.

Answer 2

I consider my self to be both. I have 4 children. I was, 21, 22, 24 and 32 when i had my children. With my last I was much more relaxed, and grew up a lot from the time I had my first. It all depends on the person. I would not recommend having a child until you feel you are totally ready for everything motherhood entails. I know alot of great younger and older mothers, and of course there are a lot of bad older and younger mothers
In my gut I feel that if you are asking this question you probably are not quite ready. You might want to think about taking some time to really decide for your self where you want your life to go and what truly makes you happy. In the end you can always split it down the middle enjoy yourself for until you are in your mid to late 20's or even early 30's, much later than that you may be looking at potential complications

Answer 3

I can't answer for anyone else, but for me it was better to wait to have a baby. I was 32 when my daughter was born and I just wasn't ready before then. My husband and I had been married for 7 1/2 years and enjoyed that we had time to travel, were able to buy a house and just spend time doing what we wanted. Now, it's all about the baby! I can't say that maturity has anything to do with being a good mother for me. I believe that I was fairly mature at a young age. The hold up for me was that I was just selfish and wanted what I wanted. Had I had a baby when I was younger I probably would have been resentful. I can truly say that I'm ready to give everything I've got to being a good mommy now and my daughter is my world. I don't know how fast it is that you think people age, but I feel that my husband and I have and will continue to have plenty of energy to take care of our daughter and give her the kind of life she deserves.

As far as being a younger mother or an older mother, I don't think it really matters. It just depends on the person.

Answer 4

I honestly don't think it matters if you are a young mom (I am) or an older mom. The maturity argument is not always correct- like you said, your older neighbor make not so sound choices. No matter what age mom you are, you are going to make good choices and some stupid ones. All that really matters is that you are there for your child, you love your child with your entire being and you teach them everything you can.

Answer 5

My mom was older when she had me. Not severely older, but she was almost 30. When I was in school, all my friends' moms were like mid thirties and my mom was mid 40's. I really felt left out. By the time I was old enough to do stuff like school shopping and stuff, my mom wasn't interested like the other moms... but I am on the opposite end of the spectrem. I was 18 with my first child and 21 with my second. However, because I don't yet have my life together, I miss out on a lot. I can run around with my kids though better and be more creative and energized to engage with my kids though. I think the best age, however, is somewhere in between. Definately later than 18!

Answer 6

Well... I guess I am a young mom (first child at 20 years old). I think young moms have more patience with young children (NOT *all* the time... sometimes the reverse can be true). I think young moms have more energy as well. I like the fact that when my daughter graduates high school, I will just be getting close to 40 years old... while there will be 40 year old women just starting to raise a child and will have to do it until they are close to 60... and by the time I am 60, my daughter will have her own family (maybe) and I will already have grandchildren (some who may already have children... making me have great grandkids.... that is... if everyone has children young though...)

I will be able to start my career later in life. I won't have to have it "interrupted" by having a child. I will go to college (already took two years...) and I will get a degree in whatever I choose. It's not like I am going to be a stay at home mom forever. I will get to party... when my daughter moves out of the house. I will be able to go out every weekend when I am 40, with my husband and not worry about "the kids" because she will be grown. I'll be able to get drunk if I want without later worrying about finding out I am pregnant and then stress over whether I gave the baby Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (I would have my tubes tied by that time).

As for being an older mom.... I can't really tell you... but I am so glad I am a young mom.

Answer 7

My mom was 20 when she had me, and she was too young. She still partied alot, and I spent alot of weekends with my grandparents. My mom was an excellent mom, though. I remember going for alot of road trips, going skiing, and to the lake alot. She always made sure that I was taken care of and that I never went without anything I needed. She and I have always been the best of friends!!

My mom had my little sister when she was 30, and my little sister is such a spoiled little brat!! My mom was too old when she had her. My mom doesn't remember much of the first few years of my sister's life because she was so exhausted all the time.

I was 22 when I had my first, and I am so glad that I am as young as I am!! I had 3 kids in 2 years, and I don't think I would be able to keep up with them if I was much older.

Everyone's time is different. My mom wasn't ready at 20, and too old at 30. I was definitely ready at 22, but my sister in law is 27 and still not ready for kids. If you feel you are ready, then go for it!!

Answer 8

Im a young mum, I had my daughter when I was 17! She is about to turn 3, and Im also 8 weeks pregnant with our 2nd baby. The only difference I see between myself and other young mummas and older mummas is that we get discriminated against. No one really looks into the whole picture, and just thinks we're drop out with no future, which is not true. My fiancee works, and Im studing to become a Neo Natal Nurse.

Answer 9

I think you can be a good mom at any age but the older a woman is the more health risks are involved. I don't think age matters although I wanted to be a younger mom so I can keep up with my kids. I am 21 and 20 weeks pregnant with my first boy.

Answer 10

Young moms are just starting their life earlier and that doesn't mean it's a bad thing and it certainly doesn't make you a bad person. If you are ready to start your life(marriage and a baby) at 18 then that is just fine and if you wait until you are 30 that is fine also! I love being a young mom, I know I will be able to play with my kids and hopefully be a cool/sexy mom :)!!!

Answer 11

I am a young mother and I feel I can relate to my daughter a little better than if I were say 10 years older. But that doesn't mean someone who is older can't be a good mother.