ive been with my guy for about 1yr and half now but things havent been going so good lately.we are always fighting over dumb little things and sometimes he frustrates me soo much that i dont know if im really in love with him.i care for him but there is something missing.we have tried to start over soo many times but each time it fails.it seems like he tries to make things better but then he just goes back to his usual ways -he is jeolus and and has a bad temper-he doesnt hit me or anything like that he questions me and acuses me of cheating...i dont know what to do it is hard to just let him go but im not completely happy with him and i dont think he is happy either.i keep thinking our relationship will get better
with time,any advice?sorry so long!!
2006-10-24 16:49:36 · 14 answers · asked by morenita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a Drama Queen. Ditch him for a real man first chance you get. Don't dump him before finding your back-up man first. Basically, I'm telling you to cheat on him because he thinks you're already cheating on him. If you are going to be treated like you're cheating, then you might as well actually be doing it.
2006-10-24 16:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bmenace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you enjoy such deep pain. Being with someone who is not compatible with you is such a sick attitude. It is not about who is blame. Relationships is about courtships and learning about each other. If the both of you lack the spine to call it quits or a temporary separation and the chance to date other, how can you measure a loving relationship.
Take the plunge and show some ovaries and give him his kiss on the upper cheek and a wink, good bye and a handshake. turn and run inside your home. Avoid any eye contact, for the shock look on he face may weaken your knees. Avoid any calls from him. Time is the only healer.
Grandpa
2006-10-25 00:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two parties to a relationship. Starting out, you two are bound to have differences till up to a point that you thoroughly know each other's boundary and have reached a common ground. That goes for any romantic relationship.
If each of you is good enough to live together, go to bed together and do that thing, then you should be good enough for marriage. Shacking is not a good idea, takes respect out of the relationship ---should you ever get married to each other some day. My advice is for you to maintain a wholesome relationship till you two are married. Marriage then qualifies him to drink water out of his cistern (you) only. Don't settle for less and don't mix up stomach gas with love. If the following checkpoints are positive for you, then you are in genuine love. Else, you are not; then pack up and live and return respect and honor to yourself. The right person will come along if you wait for God to give; instead of taking woever the Devil throws at you. Check mark for what love is include: long-suffering and kind, Love is not jelous, It does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interest,does not become provoked, does not keep account of injury, does not rjoice over unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth, it bears all things, believes all things, hope all things and endures all things. Both have you have to meet all the checkmarks; not one without the other,
Finally, remember what your mommy/grand mom/aunties if wise, admonished you about relationship. Draw close to God and God will draw close to you. Best wishes.
2006-10-25 00:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by JoeJames 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I spent 12 long years in a similar situation. I refer to it as my bad habit relationship. LOL!!! I kept thinking that it would change somehow, but of course it never did. It was a tough decision but I left and have met a new and wonderful man that treats me with respect. This is not a perfect relationship either- we live 10 hours apart. All in all I am so much happier now and was even happier alone than with my ex. Good luck - love can be difficult, but also soooooo wonderful.
2006-10-24 23:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect someone will change. The only thing that's under your control is you. Can you really accept his flaws? If this is a serious relationship, you have to think whether you can accept him for who he is for the rest of your life. If you're not happy and cannot change yourself to accept who he is, move on. There are many guys out there. The emotional investment has already made and you should get out before it becomes a total lose.
2006-10-25 00:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Chicagoan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only effect time will have on your relationship is making it harder for you to let go. If you're both so unhappy, why do you bother? Because you're afraid to be alone? Honey there is someone better out there for you. Forget about him. Spend some time doing something just for you. Be selfish. Pamper yourself. Catch up with your friends. And whatever you do, don't answer your phone when he calls! Go cold-turkey.
2006-10-24 23:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Peaches M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you need a little trust in this realationship. If neither one of you has any reason to not trust one another then you guys need to trust one another. A little time and patience will do both of you good. Also try a special date with just the 2 of you a little romance. ahhh LOVE. have fun
2006-10-24 23:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by sunnietiffin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have your answer if you just reflect on your future with him as his wife.
Ask yourself if you are willing to live a life with someone whom you have just described. The current relationship will be the preview of what's to come if you continue.
My forecast would be that the relationship would be the same, maybe more issues might arise as you live together longer. Don't even hope that you will be able to change him to suit you after your marriage!
2006-10-25 00:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you should really have a heart to heart talk with him. just be honest and real. if you both are unhappy maybe its best to let go. but i know its hard to just let go. if you don't think the relationship is going to get better and you really gave it a second try. you have to know if you are really in love or not. if not its time to move on so you both can find love and be happy. good luck,
2006-10-24 23:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that this relationship is worth keeping, then maybe try to remember how you guys got together in the first place. What is the common ground and if that doesn't work, maybe try something new. Maybe cook together or get a puppy.
2006-10-24 23:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋