I'm just not happy.?

Question

I'm 16 attend highschool and I just for a lack of a better words "am not happy".I'm always busy,tired,I always feel like there is a burden on my shoulder when I go to sleep. I'm always worried about my schoolwork.It just seems like everyday is getting duller in a sense and i'm getting to the point where I say"what's the point".Bottom line I feel like I have no free time and its getting to me.I rarely have time with my friends outside of school...and honestly I feel like there are things i'm missing out on.Serious help please.

BTW I'm not a social loser...I do have plenty of friends...but it seems there having SO MUCH fun(dating,going to parties,etc)...while i'm in my room studying for tommorrow's test.

Answer 1

Look you are just 16 and there will be plenty of time for you to party and date. I am not asking you to stop them completely. it is human nature to want more always specially fun. and at your age fun is something most people want more than education. Believe what you make out of yourself will only make you more confident and eligible than any of other people who are wasting time in garbbing all the fun neglecting studies. Make a time table for yourself. you have weekends when you don't have any school . try to finish most of your work during the day and in the evening you can have some quality time with your frnds. remember not every one is born with extra ordinary brains, that they get it w/o hard work. Even the biggies of the industry, though not completed their education, have had to slog to get to this level. They missed on a lot too, but they still focused and worked hard. Time management is a very effective way to having both.

So good luck hope you manage your time in way that you become successful and have fun

Answer 2

I think that you need to literally and figuratively stop and smell the roses, you say that you are 16 and in high school and has to worry about school work you do not want to even think about the amount of workload and stress that college offers. Try to manage your time so that you can do something that you really enjoy. I do not know what you like to do, or places that you like to go but try to release that tension in a positive way. What about dating? I know that you have friends or even a friend, so spend some time with them, laugh, play and enjoy life, I wish I was sixteen again, well enough about me Just wake up 2morrow and finally do something 4 YOURSELF, even if you can't have FUN EVERYDAY make your stress-free day at least once a week doing what you like to do.

Hope this helps!!!!!

Answer 3

first of all, I thinks it's really great that you were brave enough to confront your problem seeking for advice, even if it is online infront of total strangers. that shows a great deal of maturity that you've developed. because of that, I'm sure you'll do well in your future, I can tell you're smart because you take on matters troubling you rather than letting them build up, that shows true wisdom.

but don't worry, you really just need to change the little things in life because those are what affect everything in our lives including our moods. Don't look at the big picture but instead look at the little things that contribute to the big picture and work with them, this could litterally be ANTHING, even doing laundry or buying a candy bar.

also don't forget to relax, we all need it and it helps us. you seem really stressed and tired of the same redundant lifestyle and I don't blame you, it's feels like you're just running in a herd in an ocean of thousands of other people right? well you have to stop running and eat the grass once in a while and forget the race, I'm not telling you to neglect your work, I'm telling you to neglect everything that makes you "unhappy" and spend some time on your own

go find yourself, and play hide and seek alone.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. As a teenager I was not happy. You are stressed. Look at your life. List the pros and cons. You may have too much on your plate. If your cons outlist your pros get rid of some of them. Your school work comes first. You can't get a job without a diploma. Get your head on straight. Don't let life control you. You control your life. Do things that you enjoy. It don't have to be sports. Something simple that makes you feel good. It may just be talking to your grandfather on the phone daily. You have just a couple more years of school. If you don't go on to college, jobs out there can be very demanding. Enjoy life now. Once you are graduated life can be a whirlwind.

Answer 5

Well, I hate to say it but maybe it's time to cut down on the extra stuff you're doing.

Yeah it might suck, but putting your education first and everything else on the back burner is proly the best thing you can do for yourself.

If your involved in extra curicular activities or spend a lot of time with your friends, I would suggest cut them back to only the weekends and try just doing your homework after school and sitting back and relaxing by playing some board game with friends or watching a movie.

Relaxing and taking time for your self is a lot safer than running yourself into the ground to make appearances look good.

Answer 6

This sounds like someone I know all too well. You are what your experiences have made you and even at this age you can change but little now. Just dont ever feel left out when you see what the winner-players are doing. I suggest you stay with the outsiders to date for love so life will be easier on you. I will never love a winner-player again.

Answer 7

Well as important as high school is, it's just hardly ever fun. I know that it seems stressful sometimes, but I promise it will all be worth it when you graduate. I suggest you find a hobby or something that you do just for you. If not a hobby, then maybe you need to take a day every week that you don't do anything that revolves around school. I'm married with 3 kids, working a full time job and trying to go to nursing school, and I know how stressful it can be. But I always take Mondays just for myself, I send my kids to school, my husband to work, and I just veg out all day. Sometimes you need to be a little selfish sometimes just to deal with the stress, if not then you will burn out.

Answer 8

Maybe it would help to go talk to a councilor at school. You can vent your frustrations to them, and they may be able to offer you some relevant advice. And as for studying when your friends are out partying, remember, you'll have better grades, get into a better college and have a better life. If they are truly out partying all the time, they'll burn themselves out eventually. A happy medium is needed for sustainability. Good luck with everything.

Answer 9

Jeff, you are just going through a phase. Look, education is very important nowadays so you have to stay in school. If you are tired because of school work, then maybe you need to have a tutor to help with the grades.My son has problems with school work to and he stays after school with a tutor. Mon-thursday is schoolwork night. Friday, Sat. and Sund is for friends and things he might want to do. Sun. morning is for church and he might start working so his sat. and sun's will be taken and he is only 15. He wants to work to earn some money. Maybe you can get a little parttime job on the weekends which will help you socialize. If you need to talk to someone, see your counselor at school. maybe there is something that is really bothering you that you need to talk to someone. don't be shy, just do it... god bless...

Answer 10

its very natural to feel this way. Being a teenager is a very odd transition. Everything is changing: your body, your relationships, your responsibilities, etc. Its natural to feel pressure, out of place, etc. But if you are really having difficulty coping I would suggest talking to a psychologist. You may be clinically depressed - also common in teenagers. Or..perhaps you just need someone to talk to. You can tell a psychologist anything and it won't leave the room. You'll get a sounding board and guidance. Trust me, I needed one too when I was your age.