How do I get over a break-up?

Question

She's now married and I am trying to forget...It is painful ! We're both very much in love with one another, but I guess living in this material world, money does play an important part in any relationship.

I left out some important details. We're still seeing one another from time to time. I guess my question really is should I continue to see her or should I just forget and move on? She doesn't love her husband, but I know she's chosen security over me, even if she's denied it repeatedly. Yes, it is indeed painful just thinking about the one you love is with someone else, and it starts with every morning I wake up.

Answer 1

you bet,but if she would marry another just because of money, count your blessings your not married to her. be happy you won't be going through some ugly divorce in a few years because you couldn't meet all of her wants. you can tell what someone's true character is in a time of problems, or not enough money. this is who she is unfortunatly and good thing she showed her true self now than later on in life when you and her were married and had children.you might have been very much in love with her,but she wasn't with you. start dating others, you have to help yourself first, it does take time to get over these things. but it doesn't make you a failure because you don't make the money the other guy does.

Answer 2

Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes

Answer 3

I know the feeling. But what u need to do sweetie is get out in this big world and found u another girl who will not get married on u and leave u hurting.

Ur former friend who is now married to another has moved on so should u. Staying back hurting over it is not good for u, she knew how u felt but she married another guy anyway. So that says that she didn't feel as deep for u as u for her, so move on( wish her well) and move on until u find a girl u can love and will love u back.

The downside about her being married is she has to be married to someone she may not love all that much( poor guy I wonder if he knows) she's in a marrige that may not be true blue.

The upside about u being single is u get to date as many women as u want until u find the girl of ur dream.Enjoy the freedom, live life have fun and don't think about " whats her name"

Answer 4

I went through this same thing myself so I know how you feel. Like others have said, time helps but even better is finding someone else. Date, not necessarily to find your mate for life the first time around. But there are great, wonderful women out there-better than her if she left you for money. While you are waiting for your forever lady, one of the best ways to quit dwelling on yourself is to help others who are worse off than you. Volunteer. Shovel the elderly neighbor lady's sidewalk. Answer a whole bunch of questions on Yahoo! answers. Or take a class- dancing, learn a language, learn an instrument. You'll feel better and be much more interesting for the next lady. And SMILE!

Answer 5

So you're suggesting she married this guy for money? That is so lame and shallow. It's easier to move on if you just stay out of contact, staying in touch is like picking a scab, it will never heal until you just leave it alone.

Answer 6

unfortunately there is no remedy but time. Time heals all wounds. There will be one day where you will not wake up thinking of that person or when you do it won't hurt as much as it does now. You just have to ride it out. I've been there I know.

Answer 7

There's really no formula to getting over a breakup. You'll just have to learn to cope with it. Do things to distract yourself. Good luck.

Answer 8

The best way to get over someone...go out with somebody else

Answer 9

there is only 3 things can heal a broken heart..
One.. time.. and its the best..
Two.. finding someone new make u forget that old one..
Three.. killing that money freak!

Answer 10

if she's married - forget her! seriously - it will only lead to tears (probably yours). try moving away, go travelling, go out with your buddies...
u just have to move on with your life and forget the past...