My friend is "going out" with a girl that lives in a different state. He is 15 years old and has never met this girl. He talks to her on the phone and emails her. Those are their only two sources of communication. No one likes that they are going out, even his mother, although he says that he "loves" her and wants to be with her forever. What do we do? How can we explain this to him and he needs to move on?
2006-10-24 16:20:44 · 12 answers · asked by jacob6493 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's living a fantasy
2006-10-24 16:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by John Scary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be able to explain it to him at all. He may be so stubborn that he wont get the picture until he meets this girl and figures out how hard relationships are. He is 15 and has his whole life to fall in love. I doubt this is love at all. Try to sit down and talk to him about it. If he doesnt respond well then he will have to find out on his own.
2006-10-24 23:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now he has the most meaning full relationship ever because it is not based on physcial actions. I don't think you need to worry about doing anything now, as time goes on and high school comes chances are that his hormones will get going and he will desire to be with someone that he can see and spend time with but as for now there is no harm you may cause more damage in your friendship with him putting to much energy into trying to get him to break up with this girl.
2006-10-24 23:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by ypierre77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are never true on the interent and the phone. tell him you never know if she is lying or being a fake and having a fake identity. he has to meet her to know her and like her. he is technically not going out with her. dont worrry it wont last long because either one of them is going to lose fate in each other. also he doesnt know if that girl has another boyfriend that she sees in the state or another online bf. you cant trust people.. plus hes 15 he has a loooooong way to go.
2006-10-24 23:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by slambook5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is about living and learining through ones own mistakes. You have to let him find this one out on his own. He is still young so he has plenty of time. Just be there as a friend and see what happens naturally.
2006-10-24 23:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by DBL L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like my sister n her bf gary theyre goin out but their only sources r 2 text message message each other on myspace n 2 call every once in a wile i think their relationship is dumb cuz he keeps tellin her he luvs her wen im sure he doesnt even kno wut luv is i just dont want my sister gettin 2 close 2 sum1 who doesnt really care 4 her he told 1 of his friends (wich is also a friend of my sisters) that he wasnt textin her lately cuz he wanted her 2 think there was sumthing wrong with him n 4 her 2 worry bout him i thought that was crappy n disrespectful cuz she worried her ears off lol jus explain wut i just did 2 u 2 ur friend maybe hell realize that relationships that arent even actual may end up jus becomin sumthin that confuses u my sister saw on 1 of garys (the guy) friends profile n the girl showed a pic of gary that said gary my bf taylor got upset n she got mad @ gary as well he could be cheatin on her n shed never kno it this girl could be lyin 2 ur friend about her age or anything like that she could be cheatin on him just like gary was my sister u need 2 explain that 2 him
2006-10-24 23:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them together!! Usually what is on-line and on the phone is two different things.,,, I bet they have blown their expectations of each other by living in a dream world,, so break the dream!!
2006-10-24 23:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships have a very low success rate. you just can't get to know a person very well over a great distance. The worse part is if one decides to move on, sometimes they tell the other sometimes not. Can be very devastating!
2006-10-24 23:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, she lives in another state AND he's 15 this will blow over on it's own.
2006-10-24 23:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ericka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll pass in time, don't worry about it...he's not "going out" with anyone...it's an internet crush and at least y'all don't have to worry about him having sex or any other inappropriate behavior for his age/maturity...
Let it run it's course...he's infatuated with who he thinks she is...someone in 'real life' will catch his eye eventually, and internet girl will be left behind (or someone will catch her eye, and she'll dump him)...
It's all part of growing up in our age of technology...nothing to worry about...
2006-10-24 23:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋