The reason is because they do NOT plan to marry again anyway. This is understandable reasoning. Why go thru it and lose property and money? The marriage is suppose to be over but the spouse wants the person to come back. Is this too risky?
2006-10-24 16:18:05 · 19 answers · asked by wondering 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOPE!
2006-10-24 16:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to date this person knowing the information you know already. You will find yourself hurt and very lonely down the road. If this person is telling you flat out that they don't plan on getting a divorce then why do you want to waste time being there??? The other spouse wants this person back and could easily get this person because they are not divorced and don't plan to be. Why put yourself in this situation??? I think this is very risky, and you will get hurt if you two got really close. You would be looking for more, and this person wouldn't be able to fill that void. Move on and find yourself someone that is available. It's ok that this person doesn't want to marry again, but it's not right that this person dates you and stays married at the same time too. Your worth more than this. You don't want any regrets. I hope you will make the best desicion for yourself.
2006-10-24 16:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds way too risky. I would stay away. Besides if the one wants to work it out they should give it a shot. What they entered into when they got married was a holy union and in God's eyes there are very few things that should be allowed to break up a marriage. Especially another person. Don't mean to be rude just answering the question best I know how.
2006-10-24 16:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It "might" be understandable reasoning, for you, but I'll bet it's not true. Who made that excuse, you or him? All it is is an "excuse" so the male could cheat or continue to cheat, or maybe you're being used to encourage the divorce. That's a tough position for you to be in.
Separated does not mean they are divorced, what it means is time for them to see counselors and to try to work out their marriage. What do you mean the marriage is supposed to be over? How do you know that, you're not part of the marriage.
Sure it's too risky, because you're the rebound, and rebounds don't work.
2006-10-24 16:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that deep inside, you already know the answer. If he or she is going to stay married and see you, YOU are the one who will be hurt. Let he/she get their own life straightened out first. Sounds to me like he/she wants a little "break" from being married. Hope your not in too deep already! Best of luck!
2006-10-24 16:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Janni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? No way. Even before I get into the whole moral issue, why would you want to put yourself in the middle of that drama? What if their *separatee* found out? Would you feel bad? I would. Personally, I would want to let them work it out, and then if they get divorced, wait a while and then maybe date if they want to later. And there is always the moral issue. It's wrong. It's called adultry. And really, if you think about it, it's just so much hassle to be in the middle of.
I hope that helps you.
2006-10-24 16:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by juliefan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not "understandable reasoning"...it's a BS line to hang on to their marriage/security and get some booty on the side...
No, I would not date a separated-and-not-getting-divorced person...in fact, I'd probably not date someone separated but planning to get divorced, until after they had that paper in their hand...
2006-10-24 16:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After the breakup of a couple, people tend to be on rebound.
They are not thinking rationally. Rebound realtionships have a less chance of working out. The choice is yours ? Do want to take a chance ? Good Luck
2006-10-24 16:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by Cutie1524 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a quack lie. Lying to themselves and others. This isn't fair to anyone involved. It's obvious that this person is not ready to let go, whether it is emotionally, physically or materially. It's way to risky. Someone will definitely get hurt. And it may be you.
2006-10-24 16:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ready2hearthetruth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is, would you date someone who is MARRIED... because that's the flat out fact, though they are trying to obscure the fact with complicated excuses, they are married, period, end of story.
2006-10-24 16:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by zmj 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would not go there at all. They are not wanting to cut those ties and that means they are still married. Too much heartache for you.
2006-10-24 16:23:18 · answer #11 · answered by alilovespete 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋