Ok well I've been seeing my boyfriend for 3 and half years now... I really care for him so much. Like a toooooooooon. But a couple days ago we had a talk. He told me he used to be a female... I was shocked when i heard this. I thought he was kidding but he really wasn't. What do i do?? Please help i really care for "him". Does this make me lesbian in any way!!?? Help me!!!!!!!
2006-10-24 16:14:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No! You see, you ARE ATTRACTED TO MALES. Your boyfriend represented him/herself as a male to you, so this experience shouldn't be one that defines you as anything but heterosexual.
I DO wonder about why your "Boyfriend" took so long to share such an important truth about himself with you. I think that he showed a lack of faith in you, & he was also very selfish to withhold something so very important. In the meantime, you have a horrible dillemma before you. I can well understand the strong feelings of affection that you have for this person. Are you going to let the fact that he was once a she affect the future of your relationship? Or are you going to put more weight on the fact that he lied to you right from the beginning, & perpetrated this lie on you for a full 3 1/2 years?
Don't worry about the kind of person you are because of this. I don't think that there is any reason why it should change who YOU are. But what kind of a person is he, & is there anything else that he's holding back from you?
2006-10-24 16:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I question your story? With female to male reassignment surgery, it is visibly obvious?? The only way you would not have know is a) you have not had sex with this person or b) you have never seen him without clothing with the lights on or c) you are extremely naive and have not questioned why there are scars to remove breasts and also why there is a penile implant and finally d) you have never seen a man naked before, therefore had no point of reference???? Male to female surgery… well, that can be missed.
2006-10-24 23:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not... He was born a female, but he ask like a male.. So you are attracted to males, there was no way you could have known,. ALso if you r attracted to guys ther is no way you are a lesbiain
2006-10-24 23:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Laura K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You liked HIM. We all have two parts to us. The "us" and the "us trying to be cool". Some people like the "us", while others like the "us trying to be cool". You liked the "us trying to be cool", because ...errr...he wasn't really being...herself?
2006-10-24 23:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course not!
2006-10-24 23:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by music143007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this only makes you bi, if you were sleaping with him before the change, which you were not
2006-10-24 23:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by head_banger_yyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋