Yes... i have a big crush for my teacher... you will say i'm obbssesed...i don't know... i guess i love him to much and he attract me so much... The problem is that I don't understand what he want from me. Now he is all smiling seeing me, next he is all angry he tells me hi like he wants me to go away, than he doesn't know what to do to be around me and talk to me , next he pass away near me not evan looking at me....there are like all these body language signs that make me crazy. I actually behave the same like him, but we are in contrast, when i'm nice he is mean , when i barelly say hi he wants to talk with me. I have all my classes in the same building where he teaches and i get to see him like 3 or 4 times , but he is no longer my teacher, but i still feel like a fire going inside me and also stop me thinking and talking with him. Usually he makes fun of everybody , i was the only one who said the people around us that i'm a special person.He aware somebody to not stay around me.
2006-10-24 16:02:55 · 9 answers · asked by cuttiegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm aware that he can loose his job so of course i'm not thinking at an affair with him.But if i would have known that he really likes me i was a little more relaxed ... and not just running the hallways to see him one more time , trying to tell him something and than i runaway cuz i'm afraid to let him know what do i feel.
2006-10-24 16:15:40 · update #1
Oh yeah and he is 25 years old, not married , no kids, no girlfriend, not gay...
2006-10-24 16:18:22 · update #2
So do i do wrong sitting in his sight trying at least what he thinks about me and also not let him know that i don't give him more attention than i really do, that i let him know for me is like all the others teachers that i respect him? how should i find out his feelings for me?
2006-10-24 19:35:22 · update #3
So do i do wrong sitting in his sight trying at least what he thinks about me and also not let him know that i don't give him more attention than i really do, that i let him know for me is like all the others teachers that i respect him? how should i find out his feelings for me?
2006-10-24 19:35:23 · update #4
No, it would be a career destroying move for him to kiss you or date you or anything. You are in the same school, you are in the same grade level at the same place that he teaches.
Even though you are 18, it is still not okay. Even if it might be legal for him to date you, it would not be ethical and it would be considered unprofessional. A guy can still lose his job for something that is not illegal.
The same rule applies to colleges. There, almost everyone is over 18. Nevertheless, it is almost never considered okay for a professor to date a student - especially one of his own.
Parents send their kids to college - and high school - for an education, but only a certain kind of education; not that kind.
Also, if your teacher is married, then it is not okay or legal.
Wait until after college. If he is still single and you are too, then you could ask him out on a date or out to lunch and it would probably be okay, if you were discrete.
You would be older and less under the influence of a crush, not attending the same school, and not at the same age level as his students.
If you really are interested in him, you can wait a few years. If you are really interested, try looking up the teacher codes of ethics or NEA guidelines on the subject of dating, and stuff like that. That will give you some ideas of the boundaries of right or wrong.
It sounds like he knows what they are, and he respects them. If you respect him, you will do the same.
2006-10-24 16:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by John C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do not tell how old this teacher is. But wake up. He is bad news. You want a relationship with this man but he can lose his job if he does. You are young. There are many fish in the sea. Test yourself. Date other boys. After you graduate and are free and clear of rules that can harm the both of you, check back. See if he can honestly say he is attracted to you. Odds are you will find someone that is better and more your age.
2006-10-24 16:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by sally_little03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All that glitters is not gold. The mixed signals are enough for you to know that he's playing games. Why put yourself through a bunch of drama. Truth is that we are so used to having things come to us by fighting for it that we don't understand that nothing should be that difficult. Finding compatibility is a natural, smooth, easy feeling -- that's when you know you have something worth pursuing. You're reading too much into it. Be careful, you may get what you want and you may not like it. He may only want to have sex with you, so, so many men play this cat and mouse game.
2006-10-24 16:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by indepwman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it ... but what I think is you should leave him alone ,let him do his job or else he'll be out of a job or you and him will be on some talk show talking about how you should have left him alone in the first place . he's your teacher for crying out loud not some silly boy your age who you can expect these mood changes from. concentrate on your studies instead of your teacher's private parts. think about if you would want your daughter someday to have an affair with her teacher....
2006-10-24 16:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by No 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is he your English teacher? If so, you must have been daydreaming and missed the class. Seriously, if you act on your feelings, the teacher can loose his job and teaching credentials, not to mention his family if he is married. Find a boy your age or get involved in school activities. You will have many "loves" in your life before you find real love. That's not to say that what you are feeling is not real, because it is real to you. It's OK to fantasize, just not OK to act on them.
2006-10-24 16:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by LINDA V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
er..i doubt your 18 cause girls your age shouldnt be getting crushes on teachers you should relize he's prob merried and just being nice cause your a student..dont act on your crush it'll be the biggest mistake of your life. check out all the kids on tv getting there teacher in trouble cause a crush went out of control repect your self and wait for someone else chick
2006-10-24 16:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is attracted to you, but know a relationship between a teacher and a student is not appropriate behaviour for a man in his position, or maybe he is married, ever think of that???
I am 99.9% POSITIVE you are not in love with your teacher and are in fact infactuated with him, and that is all it is.... leave it be, you can get him in trouble, not to mention yourself.... but mostly him!! STAY AWAY!!!!!!
2006-10-24 16:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Romy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to model. But this crush of yours, isn't appropriate.
2006-10-24 16:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell someone
2006-10-24 16:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋