I am part of a Catholic family. Recently I found my brother watching gay pornography. He even had a few pictures saved of guys. He is 13 years old. WHAT DO I DO? Do I tell my parents? And if I should, how do I break the news? My head is spinning like a top...
Help me please...
2006-10-24 16:02:09 · 59 answers · asked by TroubledOne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You do nothing..this is your brothers choice not yours. When he is ready to let people know he will, and that is if he is truly gay. If he is only 13 he may just be curiouse. Give your brother space and time to figure out what he is. The only thing you can do is be supportive.
2006-10-24 16:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by ravenmoon76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not really your place to tell your parents. Just think about it for a second..... if your brother is gay... then your brother should tell them. At age 13 he might just be confused and searching for where he feels that he belongs. The worst thing that you could do if he is gay is to Out him. Be patient and maybe search the web for some help on how to talk to him. Don't threaten him but try and listen to what he has to say.
2006-10-24 16:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by shetaz5360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be ignorant !!!! Keep your nose out of where it does not belong.
This is something that only your brother will communicate to your parents. You have no right to invade his privacy like this and you could be jumping to conclusions. That would do more damage than the catholic parent knowledge that their son may be gay. So leave it alone and support your brother as a brother nothing more.
It has nothing to do with homosexuality and everything to do with respect for personal space.
2006-10-24 16:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your place to tell your parents. Many boys are just curious at 13 years old. You don't know that he is for sure gay just because he was looking at a few pictures. Only he can make that decision, and when he does he will tell everyone who needs to know. If you say something too soon, you will really hurt him, and possibly cause him and your family some unnecessary grief. If you are concerned then speak to your brother calmly about it, but please, please be discreet. Best of luck.
2006-10-24 16:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about talking to your Brother first, maybe you can help him with answers. He is young and needs you. If you tell now, it will forever cause your parents to look at him in a different way. Give him some time and if he tells you he is gay, then talk to your Mom and Dad.
2006-10-24 16:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH BOY.... Did you ask your brother does he like other boys? do you think he is just curious about his sexuality at this point? This coming out should be left to him in a way as well. If he is just curious about it then that's that. BUT it is HIS life alternating decision to tell your parents. Whether the outcome HE is going to need an UNDERSTANDING family member in his life. HOPE YOU WILL BE THAT MEMBER? Your parents are going to just faint. You ask them a fake question about their views on homosexuality first and listen to their reactions. catholic family OH BOY that's not good. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-24 16:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by ms foxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the beginning ur brother is a individual, he can make certain whilst he desires to tell ur parents. he would not prefer u to be a spokesperson. as a muslim are u attempting to get ur brother killed? heavily is that what u prefer for ur brother? at the beginning there we are all people till now we are muslims or gay or christians, so save that in the time of ideas and permit him stay his life. u honestly might desire to ideas ur own corporation greater in lots of cases, why have been u even observing ur brothers telephone?!
2016-11-25 19:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really concerned, why don't you confront your brother about it first? He is 13, going through adolescence - a very akward stage. It is normal to have questions and to be curious. If his questions aren't being answered, or if he feels ashamed to ask them, he is going to try and discover and "figure things out" for himself - whether it be sexuality, drugs, etc. which can lead him down a possibly dangerous and unhealthy path.
As the older sibling,( I assume you care about your brother or you wouldn't be writing this), wouldn't you want to help your brother in any situation? Most likely, he looks up to you. I would talk to him first about it. Let him speak freely about his concerns, thoughts and questions and don't judge. Tell him you are there for him and are concerned about his well-being.
If you love your brother, than approach him with Love.
2006-10-24 16:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by AutumnLilly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. He may just be curious. It is his job to tell your parents. You may push him in to being gay if you tell. However you can guide him some and if you get too worried ask your parents for help. Remember he may just be gay. Keep a wtch for chesters though. Maybe he was molested. OK let your parents know what you know and then bud out. Dont tel your bro you know though.
2006-10-24 16:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Susan P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you probably should not get involved in . If your brother is indeed gay and wants your parents to know, then he should tell them himself. Your becoming involved by telling your parents could have serious consequences to your brother's state of emotional well being.
2006-10-24 16:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by brooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋