I know that is usually the tradition :) However, does anyone think it feels weird to think that all these people at the wedding will know the night you have sex. Most people don't usually know when you have sex, for sure, but on this night they do. Does this make anyone feel weird, now that you think about it. I know this sounds a little out there, but I was wondering what you all thought.
2006-10-24 15:46:52 · 35 answers · asked by Sage g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, it is kind of weird for me too, even though it's tradition. Plus, I would be mortified if anyone asked me about it afterwards.
2006-10-24 15:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by marij 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not weird...only because it's expected that people expect it. It's so common, that it isn't something to blush over. Not to mention, it stops people from bugging you on your wedding night, lol!
The whole thing started WAY back when, when a couple wouldn't dream of having sex before marriage. Once married, until you 'consumated' it...it wasn't legal. You wouldn't believe some of the really old traditions. It used to be that there had to be WITNESSES! Some traditions were that the next morning, the best man had to strip the sheets and hang them over the balcony so the guests (they stayed for days for weddings) could see the blood and know the marriage was consumated. So...letting people believe you're having sex that night, is MUCH better than having to prove it, lol!
2006-10-24 15:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I was married a few weeks ago. My husband and I were given the honeymoon suite attached to where the reception was held. There was a spa, strawberries, champagne etc. Honestly, we were that exhausted from such a big day, we fell straight to sleep.
We did feel strange the next day when people were joking saying 'We know what you were up to last night'. We didn't have the nerve to tell them that we had both fallen asleep fully clothed!
2006-10-24 23:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought about it and really it should not bother you, it does not matter what other people expect or think. I am getting married and on my wedding night I am only going to try to think only about my Husband. So enjoy you new Hubby and forget everyone else. Your new Hubby and you are not going to get many chances to be left alone and enjoy each other so make the most of it and forget other people. When it comes to your wedding night only you and your new husband matter no one else.
2006-10-24 15:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not weird as it was known that sex will happen way from days back at weddings as many stayed virgins till their wedding night. Getting married goes hand in hand with sex and if at a wedding without prudes...the brunt of jokes all that day/night is all about them having sex.
2006-10-24 15:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by any1on 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is an ancient Jewish tradition where the bride and groom leave immediately after the ceremony so that they can consumate the marriage and have their bloody sheets paraded around the guests as a proof that they bride was a virgin....does that make you feel any better? Talk about wondering if the couple is doing it or not??!~
2006-10-24 17:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by hollyberry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, you and your new husband having sex is the LAST thing on the minds of your guests...they are out having a great time and drinking up a storm while dancing and they don't care if you are going to have sex or not...my husband and I were so tired (and drunk) that we ended up cuddling and watching a movie before going to sleep...save the sex for the honeymoon!!!
2006-10-24 16:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may suspect you are having sex, but the reality is you will be too tired to have sex the actual wedding night. Now the NEXT night, whole different story!
2006-10-24 15:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People told me 'good luck' on my wedding day and now that I think about it, it's a little weird. Probably the only polite thing to do is include a comment in the thank you card indicating how it went (quickee, sensual, were boots involved, etc).
2006-10-24 15:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think people do it, not out of tradition but because they haven't yet, in others eyes. It is talked about so much that you have to wait until you are married, so people have an idea of what you will be doing the first night you are married.
It is called a CELEBRATION, not tradition.
2006-10-24 15:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider this; You wouldn't worry about what people think of you, if you realized how little they do. If you have nothing better to do on your wedding night than think about what other people are thinking about, you may as well soak you dick in liquid nitrogen.
2006-10-24 16:00:23 · answer #11 · answered by GORDO BLAKHART 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋