i cant believe this..?

Question

i really need help and advice right now. i can't eat or sleep or even work at work to my best abilities because i'm so torn apart.

my bf and i have been together for almost three years. saturday i chose to be the designated driver for him and his friends. well i was 10 minutes late and i figured well there was no set time to get to the party so it will be okay. my bf flipped out on me and i took him to the party anyway and he didnt speak to me the entire night. i took him home and we just argued..he wasnt drunk when i took him home. he said i dont care about his feelings because i make him late all the time. even if there isnt a set time he wants to get to things early. well he is refusing to talk to me now. its been almost 4 days and he never ignores me like this. he wont talk to me about it. i do care about him deeply and about his feelings..i just dont know what to do. i've tried talking to him i have sent him letters..he said he read them...but he still can't make up his mind

he called me last night telling me he doesnt know what he wants anymore..he needs to think about things and needs to think if he wants to stay with me or not. he needs to understand that i was brought up this way. my family and i were never on time for anything..his family is opposite. i told him i've changed for the better and he said that's the problem that he needed to change..he just wanted me to be on time. i told him i will be but he still wont talk to me. i dont know what to do anymore. im sitting here hurting wondering what his final decision will be. he talks to me like we are just friends now and i hate it. he bairly talks to me at all.

others say it's an excuse to break up with me...that i was late..and there is another reason but he is scared to hurt me with the truth. i really need help i dont know what to do!! i love him so much and i cant lose him. i told him i would change my ways so everything is the way he wants it...why wont he give me this chance?!??!

Answer 1

In the large scope of things this whole subject of being early, on time, or late, is petty on his part. The old joke is that women always make men late but it sounds to me that if he gets this upset over the party then he was looking forward more to spending time at the party with other people than he was with you. If there was no set time, and we are talking 10 minutes, then he is out of line. You are willing to be the designated driver so that he can go get crazy or whatever, and then he treats you like this? He is so full of himself, he is not worth it. While he spends some "time" do decide if he wants to be with you I would kick him to the curb. You deserve better than this wannabe frat boy! Hand him his walking papers.

Answer 2

WOW, that was like a novel and a half!!!
Well personally i think you are being TOO agree-able, and i think he is being just a bit TOO picky, this sounds to me like he is looking for excuses, there should be know reason for him to be this pissed off at you, for something as stupid as this, i mean he has been with you for 3 years u said, so he knows how you are, he know you are a procrastinater, so he should think of a better excuse or even a better reason to break up with you if thats what he is doing!! If this is something that bugs him THAT much then maybe he needs some help, maybe he has obsesive compulsive disorder, you never know!!
But i think YOU need to not be so obsessed with someone who could treat you this way and toss you aside like you dont even matter to him, keep your head up, i mean show him that you are your own person too, you dont wanna be one of those people who does everything their man tells them to, thats just pathetic... I Think anyway!!

Answer 3

Well your friend's could be right, it is possible that he is just using you being late as an excuse to end your relationship. Or he could be telling you the truth. If you care about him as much as you say you need to give him the space he asks for. if he loves you as much as you love him, you'll get through it and be better off for it, it not the relationship will end but at least you will know you did the best you could and maybe he just isnt the one you're meant to be with.

Answer 4

I was kinda in that same situation, with husband, the best thing I can tell you is to keep your head up, keep trying to talk to him, keep praying for him and yourself. I kept praying and I started hanging close to my family members that I could trust that would not judge me or him. But was there for support through our hard times. I was so hard for me I cried night and day, I had to go to work feeling this way. It felt like everyone at my job knew what was going on, and were laughing at me. A word of advice tell only people you trust, not everyone is your friend. I had friends and family members tell me I should leave him, he's not going to change, that he is a man, that he is cheating on me, that he was on drugs! Crazy stuff! I knew my husband sence 96, we have been married since 2002. But I prayed, and prayed and God put everything together and he came and talked to me, and told me that he was under alot of stress, from work, him family (mother, father etc.) finance. And he didn't know how to tell me or handle it. What I am saying to you is that he might be under stress or anything. Just keep trying to talk to him and pray for him. Because everything you are going through I went through, it was crazy!! And I thought I was going to go crazy! But now we are going strong and doing well!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I think he is DIFFERENT and he expects you to be same level with him. Quite a demanding person. If I were a girl, I would think he is being silly.