I know ultimately it is my choice - but I am not the one that is going to be wearing the dress and I want them to feel comfortable. If one of my bridesmaids doesn't like the color (I am letting them pick the style) should I tell her too bad and make her wear it anyway?
2006-10-24 15:40:51 · 34 answers · asked by bustylaroo99 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If its just one then yea, tell her to get over it! I say give um a few choices you like and let um vote...whatever wins goes. You can't please everybody, and sometimes, some people just have to sacrifice. Its very cool of you to let them pick the style, maybe she should keep that in mind! You are a far more lenient bride than I am, I had mine picked out a year before I got engaged, and basically gave my maids no other choice (except wear it or don't be in it!) I would be careful giving them too many choices tho, it could cause confusion....narrow it down to 2 or 3 that you love and roll with the winner! good luck and congrats!
2006-10-25 02:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is actually VERY RUDE for a bridesmaid to say ANYTHING concerning the dresses. The dresses should be based on the wedding colors, and that is you and the groom's choice - no one else's. It is very generous of you to let them pick the style, actually. The only time a bridesmaid should have any say is if there is some reason they cannot wear what you would like, or if there is another serious concern (like she has a tatoo that you didn't know about that would show). That is not to say you shouldn't be a little sensitive, but the dresses should be what you want, not what they want. If they don't like the color, too bad, it is not their wedding.
2006-10-24 15:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! It is great that you are being so considerate of their feelings, but it is ultimately your day. It is becoming a huge trend to let the bridesmaids pick the style of dress that they look the best in, as long as they all get the same color. Remember this, the more bridesmaids you have, the more opinions they are going to give...don't make it more stressful for yourself than it has to be. Go with the colors of the wedding and have them pick the style...if they don't like it, tough. If you want though, you could put your Maid/Matron of Honor in a different color so that she/they stand out even more...however, just make sure that the flowers you pick go with both colors so that they don't blend with one color or the other...
2006-10-24 16:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she the only one who doesn't like the color? If so, I would explain that it's been very difficult to find a color that everyone likes, and finally you've found one that most everyone accepts. Point out that you are being very accomodating in letting them pick their own style.
Is she refusing to wear a dress in that color? In that case, you need to decide which is more important, that color or having her in your wedding.
Do any other bridesmaids not like it? I suggest changing the color if two or more bridesmaids are unhappy.
Are the bridesmaids collectively choosing one style to wear? If so, I highly recommend taking this bridesmaids preferences into consideration when finalizing the style if you're already making her wear a color she doesn't like.
2006-10-25 02:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let my girls choose the dress color between the 5 colors that I liked. We actually ended up with chocolate brown AND cornflower blue -- 3 dresses were chocolate with blue trim, and 3 were blue with chocolate trim! (So everyone was happy -- and it looked GREAT!)
Then I gave them 6 dress styles to choose from... and then 10 types of shoes to choose from. So, ultimately, while I choose the options, my bridesmaids got to do the decision making! This way they felt more a part of the whole wedding planning AND they got to choose a dress and shoes that they can wear again!
2006-10-25 03:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sweet it is of you to be worried about your bridesmaids looking good and wearing something they like. Don't be overly worried about it, though. It's your day and if they're true friends, they'll be willing to wear whatever you want. Most brides usually have more than one color in their color scheme though, so maybe you can give them a choice from your two main colors. Either way don't sweat it- if they're any kind of friend, you can all work it out together. Best of luck and congratulations!
2006-10-24 15:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by MissNeen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a bridesmaid for two upcoming weddings, I have minimal input for my sister's wedding. She picked up here theme and I helped her choose the colors for bridesmaid dresses. She chose two colors and I got to choose which of the two I wanted to wear, but I am the matron of honor and the big sis! In my cousin's wedding she had it all picked out.
I have also been to weddings wear the bride chose the color, but we got to choose the style. I guess is it all depends on YOUR opinion. It is after all YOUR day!
2006-10-24 15:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by alicia0821 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely YOUR choice. If she is a close enough friend to be a bridesmaid then she is a close enough friend to want YOU to be happier on your wedding day than she is. She should feel honored to have been asked to stand up with you on YOUR day and your wedding should reflect your tastes and considerations and that includes the color of everything including the bridesmaid's dresses.
2006-10-24 15:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why she doesn't like it? Some colors just don't flatter certain skin tones. Maybe if you find out what bothers her about it you can figure out a way to get what both of you want.Once she knows that her feelings are important enough for you to hear her out,you can explain why that color is so important to you and she may be more flexible.Is there another color in the pallet you've chosen that you and you're girls will be happy with?And I know you feel selfish saying it,but this day is about you.Is she willing to sacrifice on this one thing to make sure you're happy on your wedding day if nothing else works?
2006-10-24 19:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by madame_emperess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much the color of the dresses means to you.
If you don't care or are open to suggestions- then let your bridesmaid choose.
If you have your heart set on a specific color - then tell your bridesmaid that choice of color is not at option.
2006-10-24 16:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by AutumnLilly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋