Death......?

Question

My grandma died on Sunday and my Aunt died 2night, im 15 cant stop crying and just looking 4 sympathy

Answer 1

That's a heavy load on your shoulders. It's gonna be a hard one to carry for a long time. I'm so sorry cry all you want too.
I found this for you hope it helps just a little.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there.
I do not sleep

I am a thousand winds that swiftly blow.
I am the diamond glint
on newly fallen snow.
I am the sunlight
on ripened grain.
I am the soft and gentle autumn rain

When you wake from sleep in the early morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft, starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there.
I do not sleep

Answer 2

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of those you loved so dearly. I do know how you feel. Six years ago my mother died then, the following month, my husband died. I thought that I would never get over the grief and pain. Oh, and I kept going over and over how, if I'd just done this or that differently, maybe they wouldn't have died. It took me more then a year to realize that I wasn't God and didn't have the power to keep them alive or make them die.
I think you should cry now as much as you want and for as long as you want. You loved them and they are gone. This sounds like an excellent reason to cry to me. Don't let anyone tell you that you should get over it, either. They just tell you that because they are uncomfortable with death and don't want to be reminded that it is there for everyone.
Find a friend who will let you talk to them about your Grandma and aunt. Tell your friend everything about them that made you love them. Tell them stories about what you did together. Even mention the arguments so you can get over the guilt for those.
You owe yourself some grieving time and, if it makes someone else uncomfortable, that's tough. You will start feeling better and you will feel like crying less and that's OK. It doesn't mean you disrespect you grandma or aunt. You will be doing what they would want. Remembering them fondly but getting on with your life.

Answer 3

Death is a difficult thing to handle and can consume you. I would suggest talking to someone close to you. Doing something in thier honor may make you feel better as well. My father passed away on Dec 19th 2005 suddenly of a heart attack. This was just 5 days after his brother, my uncle passed after a struggle with complications of a stroke. My son's birthday was the 15th, the party on the 17th and he was there for that and it was the last time I seen him. It has been 10 months since his death and I still cry sometimes about it. Sometimes deaths happen so close that you don't have time to grieve one before another dies. I found comfort in reading a Sylvia Brown book called "The Other Side". Also the Bible brings great comfort as well. If you ever need to chat, please feel free to email me or add me on YMessenger. My sister was only 18 when our father passed and she too is having some hard times, so I have some experience in being a great listener. (((((HUGS))))

Answer 4

My dear what a big load for a 15 yr old. You go ahead and cry all you want, it's the only way to get your grief out. I too had a bad youth when my dad died when I was 9 years old. It was the 1st time I dealt with death. Time will eventually heal the wounds, but right now you don't believe that, I know. There will come a time when memories of those you lost are the sweetest. My favorite memory of my dad is his taking me fishing, just him and I those moments only he and I can share. You will be okay, dear and yes I feel sorry for you, chin=up dear.

Answer 5

Oh, Sweetie. I am sorry for the losses of your grandmother and aunt. It's hard to loss someone you love. You go on and cry. But hold on to all the special times that you shared with your grandmother and aunt. The tears will dry. I hope you can feel the sympathy. I will pray for you and your family during this difficult time. It's gonna be okay....

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear about your family members. It's alright to cry
just remember they will always be with you in heart and soul.
After you cry use a cold pack on your eyes to heal the swelling.
If your able to go to the cemetery go visit them there. Stay awhile
think of the fun thing you use to do with both of them. Let them know how much you miss them. My father passed away March
22,2006 and it devastated all of us. Saying good bye was the hardest thing to do, but I had to tell him and reassure him that we
would take care of my mom and each other. He passed 30 min.
later. And We cried, my 9 yr. old daughter was there, my sisters,
of course my mom and brother-in-law, my other daughter was
at work, which I had to call my son-in-law and ask if he could go pick up my daughter from work because he passed. My girls
didn't grow up having a father a round and he was the only father
figure around and I can see how you young folks can be so
devastated. Just knowing how much love they showed us as
we were all growing up. The place we use to go as a family.
Now that is what you need to remember. The songs, their
perfume, their humor. That and many more. As you sit there
thinking of them, in heaven they are thinking of you too.
My father was buried in Los Angeles and I live in Fresno CA.
and I promised my self that I would try to make it every month
to the cemetery to visit him. so far I missed one month, which
is this month. I will go nest month. Believe me it will make you
feel at ease cause your there by thier side. If you have anything
to tell them keep a journel.

Answer 7

I think I can do sympathy. I understand how hard it is to lose a loved one... my great grandmother died a few years back, and it took me quite a while to get over it. Just let the tears fall. Watch a few sunrises, and some sunsets too. Read poetry. Drink hot chocolate, and get plenty of hugs and cuddles from your family and friends. They're probably feeling the same way.

Amelia

Answer 8

I am very sorry about your grandma and your Aunt.I know it is very tough to i lost my dad on December 22,2005 right before Christmas eve i never go to spend my time with him on Christmas eve tho and still not have got over it yet and i am just 14.i know how you feel.Well i been told that we all can not do nothing about it all you can do is take one day at a time and as you go on try to remember of all the stuff you done together that made you soo happy in life.i know it is hard.But you do have my sympathy tho.But i will pray for you and your family.And it will be okay.

Answer 9

I am very sorry sweetie,please remember this,Don't be hard on yourself. This takes a long time. You will get through this,I know that my words can't change what's happened...but when I read your story it touched my heart,I can see that you are still struggling, I pray for you to be uplifted and your joy restored.Grieving is such a hard process, sometimes it must feel like 2 steps forward and 3 steps back. Be kind to yourself, take little steps and give yourself permission to feel bad without doubting whether you have the right to feel that way.Everyone reacts to loss differently and while we may share some feelings and thoughts, there is no right or wrong way to experience this. Grieving is a process, one with no set time frame for "progress" or "success". think of it as a journey that is long and difficult, with bumpy spots and smooth ones, hills and valleys. Sometimes we need to travel alone, other times we need friends and family to help us through. But I don't think the journey ends. Rather there may be points where we stop to rest, to recoup and gather our thoughts, but I don't think we ever come to a complete stop.Sometimes we want to confront God and demand an explanation, an apology, ask Him why He took someone who meant so very much to our heart's.I lost my step father when I was a young child,I still cry years later because I hurt so bad from missing him.I have heard people say that time heals all wound's,I beg to differ....I know this is harder on you and your family then it is on any of us, and for that I am so very sorry.Your Grandpa was a lucky man to have you standing beside him till the end...Pat yourself on the back for caring so much about him...my personal belief that the dead have down time. Call it 'the big sleep', call it 'asleep in Jesus', call it what you will. But I believe that upon death, the spirit removes to some other place. Perhaps it spends time recovering from the world's grievances, perhaps it is not at all aware of the former life, death, loved ones, etc., perhaps it isn't aware of anything. But I believe that when Jesus returns to our world, and yes, I do believe He will, the dead in Christ will rise first to be with Him, then the living in Christ shall be with Him. It's my opinion that at that point in time,You will finally see your father again.don't give up in yourself or in God.Go ahead and cry. It's okay Don't fight your feelings. Guilt can be a normal part of grief.Each day may seem like a burden,sometimes it will be hard to face.I offer you my sincerest condolences on the loss of your father.although there are no words to ease your grief at this difficult time I do hope that my words will offer you some kind of comfort.Understanding the nature of grief can help us better cope with loss. Grief is a natural, healthy process that enables us to recover from terrible emotional wounds.If you need someone to talk to you can email me...Im up to listen and offer any advice that I can...Good Luck

Answer 10

Oh Honey I am so sorry, Death is a very had thing to deal with at any age but being only 15 it is really hard to cope. Especially when 2 close relaives die so close together. I hope you have other family to lean on and get through this bad time. This is a time when families can really get close....