I went to the store and bought a crapload of pregnancy tests. I bought 1 of every kind there, I'm looking at them all and there is 11. I KNOW it only happened yesterday.. so why is it that they all say positive for pregnancy? I'm REALLY being serious for this one, I've never been so completely freaked out in my life. How could this HAPPEN to me?? And I would think that after 11 of them telling me that I am, I would have to actually believe it... I must be a month or two along, who knows... But read my other questions! I GOT my period 2 days ago, it was only for a day and a half, then I had sex with my bf and it stopped. I know it wouldn't show I was pregnant from yesterday, so yeah... I made a doctor's appt to find out exactly how far along I am. I'm shaking... I don't know what the heck to DO... I was brushing it off like it was nothing, but I have a big important JOB! I MANAGE, for crying out loud! He wants to keep it.. I won't. I won't have this ruining & stifling me. Tips??
2006-10-24 15:15:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh, and I do NOT need to hear about being irresponsible again, this is serious and I'm really upset, so that wont help me. Thank you. And I am against abortion too. Thats about it...
2006-10-24 15:16:54 · update #1
OK, take a big breath.
No, you didn't plan for a baby. At this moment, you may not even want it.
OK, breathe.
You will get through this, you will survive it.
Plenty of female managers have children. They don't lose their jobs over it.
Seriously -- you will get through this. Lots of us have unplanned pregnancies. It doesn't have to ruin your life.
Tips for right now? Breathe, try to calm down, try not to assume the worst. (Not just "Don't assume you're pregnant", but "Don't assume that IF you're pregnant, it's the end of the world.")
I know that's hard right now... So much harder than it sounds.
But one thing at a time. Go to the doctor's office. Take it from there. There's help out there if you need it, folks more than ready to help you with whatever you need. From adoption to childcare to parenting classes.
As for your job, it is ABSOLUTELY against the law (Federal and EVERY SINGLE State law) for your employer to discriminate against you in any way for being pregnant or having a child. In fact, they are REQUIRED BY LAW to provide any reasonable accomodations you may need (such as, for example, being able to spend time off your feet, later in pregnancy).
And to have your job waiting for you when you're back from Maternity Leave.
You can get through this, sweetie.
You can.
2006-10-24 15:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine Blackthorne 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, firstly, even though you are scared, I want to congratulate you on your pregnancy.
Some women find that they have their periods during pregnancy, and a lot of others do have some unexplained bleeding...so maybe that's what you were experiencing.
Having a baby need not cause you to lose your job, and it certainly won't stifle you if you don't want it to. You can take maternity leave and return to work afterwards.
If your are so against having a baby, adopt him/her out, or let your husband be a stay at home dad while you go back to work.
Just think, in two years time, you could be coming home from work and having a cute little toddler running up to you saying Mommy!!!! and giving you an amazing little toddler's hug and kiss...there's no feeling quite like that.
Stop worrying and fretting. You only just found out you are pregnant, you have to come to terms with it first!
2006-10-25 02:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously this is ruining and stifling you. SO take a breath and calm down. it's only a little one, what did your mom think when she found out that she was pregnate??? She was probably just getting her life in order as well, you could just have the child with your ?bf? and try to manage but before even thinking about that, just go to a walk in clinic, see a doctor, he'll arrange a test and a ultrasound and go from there, I saw a toll free 1800 number call that to get more info. If you can manage a huge company, I'm pretty sure that you'll be able to manage a little one, plus it's a good thing that your ?bf? is staying, shows that he's a good guy. Good luck!
2006-10-24 22:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a period while you are pregnant. I had period during the first few months of both my pregnancies. A baby doesn't have to stifle and ruin your life. You need to calm down and think long and hard about this. Talk to other parents, read the questions on here and listen to what people have to say about kids. You can keep your job, you may not have to take more than four to six weeks off from your job. You will be able to find daycare and usually, you can even breastfeed while working. You are a parent now, even before the baby is born, you need to think about your child and what is best for him/her not just you and your bf (although these are important considerations).
2006-10-24 22:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It bothers me that you says that you "won't have this ruining and stifling" you. If you are against abortion (which I am glad to hear), then your option is to consider adoption or buck up and be a real parent. Children do not ruin or stifle a person. It may not be what you planned in your life, but this is what it is and you have to be a grown up and deal with it in a grown up manner. If you are unable to get past those feelings, you should consider adoption, or let your boyfriend raise the child (assuming he is responsible enough), because your negative feelings will be felt by your child and make them miserable and feel unwanted/unloved. Your "big important job" now is to make decisions regarding the healthy future for this child. Lots of managers have families and do just fine. Stop panicking and make some decisions that you and your sweet innocent child can live with. And I can almost guarantee you that when you lay your eyes on this beautiful creature for the first time you will fall madly in love.
2006-10-24 22:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but in reading your question I can see that it is all about you. You don't want it "ruining and stifling" you? You "manage" and have a "big important job"? So what is your child (who didn't ask to be conceived, by the way) going to do while you're off not being "stifled"? I'll tell you what he'll do--he'll be scraped out of you and stuffed down an industrial strength garbage disposal. You're son or your daughter, ground up like left overs off your plate.
Well, good, don't be stifled, but I'm glad its not me that has to live with this.
2006-10-24 22:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be cool until and after the appointment. It sounds like your life and maybe relationship is going to chnge either wy. B/c if you are pregnant you have choices to make. And if you are not then you might want to figure out whether you want to be in this position of stress ever again and how can you prevent being in this position of stress.....Oh and if you are pregnant you can look it as a blessing rather than ruining and stifling
2006-10-24 22:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Double GEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1–800–537–2229 www.itsaboutlove.org The decision to place a child for adoption, while loving and unselfish, can be difficult to make. A single woman dealing with an unplanned pregnancy needs information and resources to help her decide what will be best for both her and the baby. Many factors, including fear and embarrassment, may make birth parents reluctant to reach out. Birth parents interested in adoption can get to know prospective adoptive parents by viewing online profiles of couples throughout the United States who have been screened and approved to adopt. Birth parents can also e-mail their questions to the agency until they are ready to talk with someone.
2006-10-24 22:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Summer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u are 8 weeks pregnant or more. i got my period and didn't think i was pregnatn but my doc later said that during that period i was already pregnant. 11 tests can't b wrong. i didn't know i was pregnant until i was 14 weeks. let the shock sink in, i swear it will b okay. dont' panic and do anything stupid. not that u would but i was surprised to find myself in my second trimester and i actually considered abortion or adoption even though i wanted a baby.
2006-10-24 22:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by confused mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont freak out until you go to the appt. Although if 11 tests say yes you might want to put the doubt to rest
2006-10-24 22:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Oops! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋