what would you do? i am really hurt with my friend,her b-day was last month and i gave her $100 gift certificate to help her get an ipod she wanted and now its my b-day and she returned the gift card back to me and said that we should not give gifts just take each other out to lunch,this really hurt because i really like her and wanted to give the gift certificate and i was not expecting for her to give me something back.
she did take me to lunch and gave me a card and the gift certificate i think the lunch and the card was great,
am i over reacting? should i say something? or just let it die?
2006-10-24 15:13:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This truly is a sensitive subject. I am sure she did not mean to hurt you. Obviously, she loves you. She genuinely cares for you simply because you are you. How blessed you are!
2006-10-24 15:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people take gift certificates to an offense because it shows that you really didn't 'think' about getting something 'special' to that someone. But for this person to actually return your $100 gift certificate and take you out to lunch on top of it says something may be wrong. Although you might be over-reacting I would talk to this friend and ask why she was returning your gift certificate. If you do not want any complications let it go and see what happens next time around (say Christmas is only 2 months away..) See what happens and take it as it comes.
2006-10-24 15:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that she was uncomfortable recieving such a generous gift if she is unable to give a gift of equal value back, even if you don't expect her to. Take the card back. If it is one of the type you can use anyplace, aske her to lunch and a movie and use the card to pay for it, but don't say anything. If it is a card for a specific shop, use it to buy her a small, personal gift (a journal, a cd of her favorite group, etc. ) and put it away for the next occassion (the holidays). Follow her lead and keep gifts simple..lunches to favorite resteraunts, movies, etc. I doubt it has anything to do with her feelings towards you, but is more about her own ability to reciprocate eqaully as she would seem to feel she should.
2006-10-24 15:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to become over-exuberant with birthday presents, but some people have difficulty accepting anything that costs over $20. $100 is a lot to give to someone. You probably would have done better by taking her out somewhere and giving her a card, just like she did for you. Don't feel upset. Just cherish the friendship you have and let it lie.
2006-10-24 15:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by ashkara2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rude and insensitive on her part. But, she may not know it. She may feel obligated to spend the same amount of money and doesn't have it. That's probably where it is coming from. You might express to her that when she did that it hurt you and that you don't expect anything like that in return from her. That you give with no expectations and that it is perfectly okay if she cannot reciprocate and if she would please accept it as an unconditional love gift from you to her.
2006-10-24 15:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ready2hearthetruth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not over reacting, because your feelings matter. it doesn't seem like she had any ill intentions at heart, maybe she got the ipod from someone else as a present. but the best thing to do is to bring it up to her and tell her it hurt your feelings, and see what her feedback is on that.
2006-10-24 15:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by lofeld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. I bought my daughter something small for Easter and she tried to give it back to me. That really hurt. Maybe your friend can't afford to give you something and so she is embarrassed.
I'd let it die -thought I don't think you are overreacting. Just let it go if your friendship is important.
2006-10-24 16:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If money doesnt count huge type for u then why u ought to ask the question right here? how lots money u could desire to spend for a radio? in basic terms one hundred or 2. which could be ur on a daily basis pocket money. If u easily need to grant her a present, it may be extra to what she expects. provide her a music participant with radio which suits on battery cellular. :) Regards...
2016-10-02 22:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by laseter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should have addressed this issue BEFORE your bday. It was very tactless and mean to do what she did. Just be happy to do the lunch thing and dont worry about any presents anymore.
2006-10-24 15:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, you may be disappointed that she returned it to you, but at least she was being kind and considerate enough to tell you, that she really enjoys spending time talking to you, being with you, etc, more than she does any material item, and to me that is true friendship.
2006-10-24 15:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by dahorndogd013 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋