do guys every feel uncomfortable approching girls? i ask because a lot of guys seem so confident and just go for it when u least expect it. like whenever a likes a girl he finds a way to talk to her, but when i like a guy i'm nervouse as hell and wont go near him!! so guys r u naturally just confident or what!
2006-10-24 15:11:58 · 15 answers · asked by char 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think women are supposed to 'woo'. For women, if they like a guy, it is going to be all over just for one guy. For guys, we know that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and if we fail, then maybe we'll have better luck with the next girl we approach.
Being confident though is tough for guys as well. What really detemines it is how confident one is in themselves, and how deserving they think they are, and how well they think they can carry on a conversation and work the magic. This also depends on how social you are, some are just really outspoken, others need to go to more social events to get more comfortable. Regadless, I think most guys find it hard to just appoach a girl. Usually there is no 'approach' but more of an intentional bumping into someone for the sake of conversation, but guys with an 'approach' always have either more serious or sexual intentions, but otherwise conversation usually just happens by people unintentionally bumping into each other and finding out about each other for one reason or another.
2006-10-24 15:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by hondapride67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do feel uncomfortable approaching a girl especially the one we really like. Maybe because we feared being rejected by her. I know that guys should make the first move but it would also be nice if girls would take the initiative. Especially to guys who are very shy. Most of the times they are the one for keeps. Hope Cupid can help too.
2006-10-24 22:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by George S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if we respect a girl and her well being is important to us, sometimes it's hard to approach them. I don't think we're naturally confident but if we want to go out but don't care about the girl, then it's probably much easier to approach the girl. Often there are groups of people and we get to know the girls in the group and it can then be easy to talk to them, but I also don't want to bother them when it looks like they aren't interested.
2006-10-24 22:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA! actually only some guys are like the ones you describe. I GET NERVOUS AS HELL WHEN I TRY TO TALK TO A GIRL FOR THE FIRST TIME! Me and most of my dude friends are like that but most likely its because we lack experience which is the best teacher. Be wary of man whores that just want to get in your pants.
2006-10-24 22:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by halloween_of_86@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just as bad for us as it is for women. Probably worse because unlike where you always have the option to just sit back and pick and choose amongst the guys who ask you out, we are expected to make the first move 99% of the time.
2006-10-24 22:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen. All guys feel uncomfortable when approaching girls, unless they are so desparate that they don't care, or so horny that they can over come their sense of forboding by hoping for a score.
2006-10-24 22:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no idea, guys look different on the outside than on the inside, sure they might appear to be confident, but it all relates to that machismo, when theyfinally do start talking to that pretty girl we be, all nervous, trying to say all the right things, trying not to be boring, ans trying to impress, in fact i think guys would bprobably be worse than girls
2006-10-24 22:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
most guys are not comfortable approching girls... some just don't care... if they cared, they'd be scared too...
you feeling scared to talk to this guy, is the same guys feel about going and talking to a girl their interested in...
so, muster your courage, and go talk to him... he'll be shocked!
2006-10-24 22:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always. we just pretend to be confident, when inside we feel ebmarassed, shy, and are fearful of being rejected
2006-10-24 22:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by gesswh0 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its societal roles. theyre ingrained into us, women should quiet, reserved, demure, and chaste, and guys should be loud, assertive, and testosterone-charged.
add that to the pressure on girls to also be assertive, sexual, and strong, and the pressure on guys to be sensitive and caring....
and youve got some screwed up mentalities
2006-10-24 22:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋