Would you date a married man? LADIES ONLY PLEASE!!!?

Question

I think someone is trying to drop me a hint yet i dont get it yet!! Two nights ago i watch Jungle Fever a 1988 movie. Last night i watched some movie with Sanaa Lathan dating a white guy!

I am an african american woman and my question is this:
Would you date(NO SEX) a white guy or someone of a different race then yours, who is married, and your co-worker?

I have a list of positive and negative like (positive, -a companion) (negative,- office drama). But i cant make up my mind!

Ladies only

wow didnt think i was going to get a response that fast: but think of this.

if he dont respect his marriage why should I. Im the kinda person who thinks marriage is bullshi*. It would only be a fun companion. Not necessarily dating! Just friends with benefits. Thank you to all the LADIES that responded!!

Thanks Ladies i have taken your advice. I wish i could give 10 points to each of you.

Thank you so much ladies!

Answer 1

Okay, no. You do not date a married man, regardless of race. That's just wrong. Seriously, how many positives could you have come up with for this one? I'd definitely like to hear some of them.

Answer 2

I Have But Karma Is A ***** And It Always Comes Back To You.

You Are Better Off Finding Someone Who Is Single Weither Of The Same Race Or Not.

Answer 3

Date a married man? No way!! Date a co-worker? Probably not a good idea if that is against office policy, but I woudn't say a definate no! Date a man who's a different race? OH YEAH! I totally don't have a prob w/ that! I think we all should! HA!

Answer 4

Yes i would date out side my race, but no way would I date a married man no matter what color he is that just crazy, why have a man that you can only be with when he has time for you, plus he will never leave his wife, as far as a co-worker if you can handle it, sometimes it doesn't work out and you still have to work with this person.

Answer 5

Tami,

I personally would not date a married man...he might have a family...why should I break that family? Wouldn't you feel bad if your dating led to a sexual relationship? Also, try putting yourself in the situation....won't you get really upset if some woman started dating your husband? It all too much....think carefully how you go about this. Don't hurt someones family. Also, this guy seems like such a jerk...what if he does split up with his wife and is with you....there is no guarantee that you'll be his one and only...now u decide??

Answer 6

I have dated a married man before and I will never do that again. It was wrong of me and I thought I was differen to him only to find out I was not the only other woman he had.
I have dated a co-worker as well, but I have never dated outside of my race. I am also an African American female. Recently I thought of dating outside of my race for lack of finding a good man in my own race who was willing to commit. Luckily, before I found someone of a different race, I found a good black man.

Answer 7

Two things... I wouldn't date a married man because I wouldn't want some woman doing that to me if I were married. No matter how bad his home life is, it's not worth it to get in between them and wreck his home. That's a repuation that will stick with you, forever! And two, you don't s.hit where you eat. Meaning you don't date someone you work with, ever! 9 times out of 10, it doesn't work out. Believe me, been there, done that. And... if it does work out, there's still drama going on.

Hope you make the right choice. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

No. If this person is of good character he would not be dating another while he is married. Have empathy. Would you want your husband to date another woman? The only reason people can cheat is either because they lie about their marital status or because there is someone willing to date them.

Dating a co-worker is never a good idea in any case.

Answer 9

When it comes to matters of the heart, you can't help who you are attracted to or are compatible with, that's the good news.

Now, young lady, never ever date a married man. Married men NEVER leave their wives and if you like someone and it leads to sex, automatically feelings evolve and someone, more likely you will get hurt. It's not worth the risk. Remember our heart is not as reasonable as our brain, so listen to your brain now because your heart will overide it with emotions.

Next, NEVER EVER get involved with a co-worker. That is rule number 1 more than 2, dating the married man. First of all, most people at the office are so nosey they need a new word for nosey. They'll be in your business faster than you can say your name. If you start this fling today, upper management will get wind of it by 5 p.m. today. People love making others lives miserable and yours will be come just that.

If you and he get into one argument at work, then if you do one thing wrong or make a mistake at work, everyone will swear it's because of your personal life. You'll spend the rest of your days at that company defending yourself. Also, you'll cringe every time someone mentions his wife or you see him talk to her on the phone, not worth it!

I know people who dated each other while working together, when the male started chatting with other women, she got upset and tracked his every move. She was a mess at work every day. Eventually she left the job because when they broke up, she couldn't handle it.

Remember that when you date someone in normal circumstances, you don't see their every move. All men and most women flirt, it's just that you don't see it because you aren't around your significant other all day. Ever go to an office function and the very guys that joke around all day at work are walking the straight and narrow path when they're wives around, it's shocking sometimes!

Recently a friend of mine came to me sobbing. She let me listen to her cell phone voice mail message as a woman anonymously from her husband's job told my friend "the wife" that her husband was having an affair and gave details about lunches and dinners the two office lovers had arranged. My girlfriend took off work in one hour after getting that message, literally walked into her husband's office and demanded to see him and the woman he cheated with (who happened to be in management). She played the message on speakphone for the two of them and confronted them right then and there. There was so much drama this story could've won a daytime Emmy.

Furthermore, you may even get fired because most firms have a no fraternization policy.

Honey, this is a "no win" situation and the odds of you losing are so high, it's not worth the risk, please reconsider and don't even go there! One last thing, those that do it with you may do it to you-meaning that if he will cheat on his wife with you, his behavior suggests he'll cheat on you. Keep it at friends only. Date someone who is single.

Answer 10

uh i would personally date someone from a different race but not if he is married he probably just wants a fling and not another thing he will want sex eventually and if the wife finds out your dead you never know if he'll leave you for his wife or leave his wife for you most men dont think they can leave their wife's of many years because they consider er all they have been through and they cherish the moments but they dont cherish their wife's they feel like they've being with that person for so long it 'll feel weird without them please dont do it think of the others you will hurt in the proses!

good luck with your decision i hope i was help!