What I would like to know, is why do some people say " you have to wait to have sex with them, its no fun if the guy has no chase" Why can't people just be upfront and honest, "I like you, you like me" GREAT. Not everyone agrees with you have to wait to hold onto him. My sister met her husband and slept with him the first day they met and they're happily married for 4 yrs now.
Are people that messed up that they have to play "hide and seek" to make someone fall in love with them ? If the chemistry is there ITS THERE. if it's not then you just have a prolonged screwed up relationship. Find out right away, saves wasting time RIGHT ?
Does anyone else agree with this ?
2006-10-24 15:06:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously its about not being a hoe.. lol.. I'm not saying sleeping around with guys is a good thing, but you meet them, you both like one another, why shouuld you have to wait months or even weeks ? of you both like whats there ?
2006-10-24 15:11:06 · update #1
everyone is getting it wrong, I'm not saying i'm sleeping around or take my sisters advice on sleep with someone the first date... lol... I'm just wondering on peoples thoughts on this, im quite curious about the way people work.. Although some very good answers :O)
I say eveyone to their own....
2006-10-24 15:34:07 · update #2
I agree that people shouldn't have to play games to get to the opposite sex, but the vast majority of the time it seems one has better luck doing so than not. Everytime I try to keep it real and not play games, I get screwed...
2006-10-24 15:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by prettytiger23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comparing yourself to anyone elses relationships in my opinion will seriously just confuse you, you;ll probly find that things never will work for you like that when you are able to look back anyways you have to learn lifes lessons on your own and besides when the right one comes along wether you sleep together on the first date for the 50th he wont be going anywhere either way. I think the thing with waiting to sleep with him usually pays off and its not really about playing games its more like building a foundation of trust and that way you know if you both like more about one another than just sex anyways. Some guys really do leave after they get what they want but if thats all they wanted anyways it wasnt going to last either way. Also if you want a relationship like a friend wbenefits i've found just say that and believe me he'll probly take you up on the offer, and if it goes somewhere it does and if it doesnt oh well as long as your understanding what your doing and playing games instead of being honast will get you in trouble even if your not the jerk, Good Luck!
2006-10-24 15:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most people would rather not be known as a hoe and sleep with a guy the first night they meet him. If the chemistry is there...GREAT, but it will still be there months later. It's not about playing games in that situation. It's about not being a hoe.
2006-10-24 15:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree. Men and women have sex differently. Women have sex with their emotions while a man can have sex with no strings attached. Sorry, that's just the way women work. As a woman you have to protect yourself and your feelings. Besides I won't feel good about myself if I put out too soon. If you sleep with a guy on the first night what would make him think that you won't sleep with every guy on the first night. Your sister lucked out you may not be so lucky.
Try sleeping around and see what that does to your self-esteem and self-respect. After you sleep with a guy on the first night see who calls who first. Will he call you or will you have to call him? Write your feelings down once you put out on the first night and you'll have your result. Be safe.
2006-10-24 15:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because deep down the games are fun? I finally just caved in to the fact my sorta girlfriend was playing games, and started playing her back and making up my own rules. And although it just turned into a power struggle, it's actually really fun, and I have to admit that life over the past few months has been REALLY interesting...
Good luck!
2006-10-24 17:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Arbor Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of this, of course, i'm a guy:)
but on the other side of this... I wont have sex unless i'm in love with the girl...
i'm not saying i would wait till marrage or anything, but for love... Love could happen quick, or slow... depends on the couple...
now, if i were to have sex to soon, the relationship would be more about sex for me then anything else... at least for a while...
I also don't like the idea of sex on a first date...
2006-10-24 15:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok sweetie i really dont understand someof that myself .. how peopl can just met oneday a nd be married the nexted.. but i believe that love takes time and its earned .. it can be bought nor can it be rushed for it to last.. most peopel dont have the one thing that makes relationship work. thats may friend is TIME!! no one wans to take the time to get to know someone and etc.. they are too busy with there lives to care .. playing games i believe that people who play games try to hide with realness that they will never find love cuz they dont love themselves... i have a moto.. i know what its like to be cheated on, hurt, lied to, and crushed .. but i will never do it to anyone else.. cuz i know what its like!
people who play games and cheat, lie, etc will have it done to them .. history repeats itself .. so sit back and enjoy when it happens to them..
good luck!
2006-10-24 15:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 05:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by farha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont support sex before marriage
2006-10-24 15:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by The King of Games 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋