I had a violent break up with my boyfriend. I love him but he disrespected me. He yells and humiliates me. He disowns me. I disobeyed my parents just to be him. He even asked me to marry him the soonest time possible. I did have false hopes in the relationship. Now, I realized that I want to redeem myself. I want to recover. I dont know what I will do.
2006-10-24 14:59:42 · 8 answers · asked by just asking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
omg, that's awful.. is that a normal relationship? i dont think so .... he has serious issues, stay the hell away from him. Learn from someone who's "been there done that" ...
2006-10-24 15:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by darlene_tassone1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to learn from bad experiences or mistakes, if U move to soon without recovering and reflecting back on the situation then U might fall in the same hole again.
Redeem yourself by making sure that U learned something that will help U later in life, with future relationships. No one can take what U learn from U if U don't let them.
It's a good rule to wait a while before U marry because U never know what people will go through in their lives and how it will change them, the person U know now might not be the same the same person after life beats then up for a while (hardships, death, heartbreak, stress, religion) Ya never know, but time will tell all.
2006-10-24 22:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by dctrod225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back up. I think you have every detail out of order. He asked you, to marry him? Nothing wrong with that. You undoubtedly offeneded him and betrayed him, some how (perhaps you said yes, then later changed your mind. Or said no when he asked), to make him disown you. What can do is, 1. go back to him.
Or 2. Find another bf, to whom you'd be willing to devote youself.
Now to your main question- if you want to have children, the sooner the better, so in a sense, now's the best time. Or do it, before you turn 35. If you don't want them, then it's when when you're 35 or older.
2006-10-24 22:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on how mature you are! I think also that no matter how mature you are there are just certain things you never learn until you experience them which for some people it could be 20 and others 40, ok as a guess i'd say atleast 26 but what do I know i've never been married, Good Luck!
2006-10-24 22:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos for getting out of the relationship. The ideal age to marry is after you had time to be own your own and experience setting goals and accomplishing them. that way you know you are fully capable in life on your own and you choose to marry not have to marry.
2006-10-24 22:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Omni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those are wrong signs to be thinking about a getting marry. it's best to be safe than sorry later.
2006-10-24 22:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well get that idea of marriage out of your head and establish what you want to do in life
2006-10-24 22:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have been trapped, so get out of it .
2006-10-24 22:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by kingofuniverse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋