I've finally decided to break up with my boyfriend. He's a low life and I don't need him! Does anyone know if guys still like girls even if they have a child? I'm sure they do. Have you ever met someone after having your child? Is sex still good after having a baby? I'm so excited to start dating again! It's been almost half a year! Tell me all your experiences.
2006-10-24 14:49:21 · 17 answers · asked by CeCe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.there`s the right person out there for you,and will love you & your child.sex is what you make-of-it.i think if you are with the right person,sex won`t be a problem(period).enjoy life & pray that god will lead you to (Mr.Right).Good-Luck!!!
2006-10-24 15:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by doris t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend met and married her now husband while she had her 1 year old (the son is now 3). So yes - there are guys out there that will date and marry a woman with a kid.
Sex after having a baby is still good. I just found that it took me a while after the birth of our daughter to get back into the "wanting" it thing. But I came around. . .
My advice would be to concentrate right now on the little being that is in your tummy. You may not realize it (God knows I didn't), but your time will be very limited for anything, and all you will want to do is be around your little one. The last thing that will be on your mind will be dating. But it will come around, and you will do fine.
I am glad you didn't have the mindset that too many have of "staying together for the baby". It is more healthy for the child if the parents are fighting and stressed all the time. Having a stable home environment is the best thing.
Good luck with everything!!!!!
2006-10-24 21:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of the breakup. Too bad it didn't happen before you got pregnant. However. It seems that you are rushing things a bit here. You haven't even had the baby yet and you're concerned about dating and sex? You need to take some time off. Firstly, to get aquainted with your baby and get your life back into some sort of order. And secondly to decide what you plan to do. Are you going to keep the baby or put it up for adoption? How are you going to be able to work and look after the child, if you decide to keep it.
Rushing into another relationship isn't going to help anything. You'll just wind up with another kid when that bf leaves you. And there are better souvenirs.
So give yourself some time, and don't rush into another torrid affair that's just going to end up with more of the same.
2006-10-24 22:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, men will still like you. A lot of men actually *LOVE* pregnant women. I got hit on a lot when I was pregnant...a lot. I'm married, so I don't have personal experience with dating as a single mom, but have plenty of friends who do. I can think of at least five fairly close friends who are not with the father's of their children, and are in beautiful, healthy relationships with great men. My mom was a foxy single mom who always had guys falling at her feet. She is now remarried to a wonderful man and has a 9 year old with him (BTW-my mom will be 53 next year!)
For me sex was (and still is) very different after having a baby (and I had a cesarean!). During my pregnancy, sex was great! With all the extra (natural) lube, and swollen genitalia you can't go wrong! I breastfed my daughter for 2 1/2 years. Nursing a baby will dry you out...everywhere. So if you plan on nursing (I highly recommend it: for the health of your child, your body and your mind) just remember to bring lube!
Nursing helps your uterus shrink back down to size, helps fight postpartum depression, and *really* boosts your child's immune system. My daughter will be 3 next month and has only had 2 minor illnesses (short-lived cold type viruses). They also say that breastfed babies are 11% smarter than they would be if they were formula fed. Ok, so I realize your question was not about breastfeeding. Sorry, it related a little and I wanted to share the info. Congrats!
2006-10-24 22:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! Trust me you'll be a lot better off-- and yes I do know several beautiful gals who ended up finding a much better man after breaking up with their child's father. Sex is still good post baby-- the only thing is you may be too tired at first and also after having a child you may at first be freaked out about the possiblity of getting prego again. But good luck and just remember now that you have a child you not only have to find a good man for yourself but someone who will be a great father for your little one. There's no more settling for "low lifes" because now you'll be letting more than just yourself down.
2006-10-24 21:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by tessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is more important you having a date for Saturday night or your child? You should put men on the back burner because honey that baby is going to take up all your attention. You won't have time to go out with a guy. You want to know if sex is still good after having a baby, did you forget how you got in this fix?
2006-10-24 21:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19. When I was 21 and 4 months pregnant my husband left me. I truly thought it was the end of the world - but it WASN'T!!!! I had my baby ALONE in July and our divorce was final in September. In November I met my current husband & we got married in January. We have had 2 more children and he adopted my first baby. We have also adopted 4 children together. We've been married for almost 24 years. I can tell you that if a guy you are interested in isn't interested in you BECAUSE you have a child then you don't want him anyways. Good luck to you!
2006-10-24 22:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my b/f when my girls just turned 6 and he is a man that has no kids of his own. He has been wonderful being a part of my girls lives. He told me that he had been one of those guys that never wanted to date anyone with kids. He now jokes that he must be crazy to date a woman with twins (my girls are 7y/o twins). But he is the most patient and wonderful man that I have dated since my divorce 5 years ago. I think most men are a little intimidated by a woman with kids because they don't want to become attachted to the kids only for the relationship to not work out and then have to watch as the kids are hurt when they try to understand why they had to leave.
My advice to you would be to let those lovely hormones get back to normal before you start trying to date again. This does two things, it allows you to get acquainted with your new baby, establish child support to make that low life accountable for his baby, and then you will be a little bit more accustomed to life with a baby to start dating again. There are plenty of men out there looking for a woman to settle down with. Just be patient and make sure you are the sort of woman that can be settled down with!!! Good luck.
2006-10-24 22:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by hopestar23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a baby when i was 17 and my ex fiancee left me 3 months later. he's now a dead beat dad. after 8-9 more mjonths of coping and learning to be a single parent and getting over the whole breakup, i met a great guy. we were friends first and then we became an item. he likes my son alot and he understands my son comes first. he even let my son come along on our first date! he is more involved than my son's real father is. i got really lucky. one thing i did notice though was that my vagina was a little less tight after i had my son, and my body looks horrible. i have bright red stretch marks even a year later, and alot of loose skin. but my hips are wider. one thing about my bf though... he's 31. that may be why he is so accepting of my son. he has dated a few women with children and someday wants his own. i love him so much. i am so lucky. good luck babe an i hope you get as lucky as me!
after you have the babe... go on birth control asap and use condoms. one baby is hard enough. two... forget it. don't take any chances.
2006-10-24 22:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by 1 Hott Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It scares a lot of guys. I dated a couple women and I'm not proud to admit it but yeah, their having a kid made me nervous. My biggest complaint was that on both the dates the woman brought me over to her house to meet the child. I like kids, but I'm trying to get to know YOU first. So be honest with guys that you have a kid, but at least wait til the 3rd date to introduce them.
Sex is still good for most people. I wouldn't worry, some people even say it's better afterwards.
2006-10-24 22:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by Chance20_m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you take it slow and not start dating or having sex any time soon. You are obviously not mature enough since all you can think about after having your baby is not how to take care of a baby on your own but dating and having sex again.
2006-10-24 22:03:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋