i know it is the mans job to buy dinner, which is stereetype now, should girls ever buy, to make a change or should they just simple say thanks, and be done, i hate people paying for me in the first place cause i dont always eat a lot, so i feel bad
2006-10-24 14:47:03 · 18 answers · asked by flirtinbabe286 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
though it is good that the guy pays, it would be nice if the girl returned the favor once in a while, not that the guy should expect it, it should come out of her...the guy shouldnt always have to pay and nor should the girl...make it even!
2006-10-24 14:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by ξℓ Çђαηφσ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, I don't like anyone doing anything for me, I'm pretty independent myself. However, what I've learned is that sometimes we as women have to let a man do what come naturally to him (although I run into men who act like a woman is supposed to pay).
In this day and age where women can do everything for herself, men are a little confused. Some men say they don't know if they should hold the door, pay for a date, etc. because they don't want to offend the woman they are with. Follow the man's lead and let him appreciate you for the woman that you are, just relax and enjoy dinner. You can buy some other time after you let him feel like he's doing the right thing.
It's not about him taking control, it's about letting him feel good for taking care of you. Men enjoy that more than anything, they like being the hero. I'd sure like to find more heroes, maybe I wouldn't feel the need to be so independent!
2006-10-24 14:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by indepwman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time I do all the paying. For example, movie ticket cost $10 per person. I do appreciate if she could buy the popcorns and drinks, but she didn't want to eat or drink, and she didn't ask me whether I want them or not. It's kinda, you know, it's a bonus for us guys if the female knows how to love us in return in small little ways instead of us paying all the time. Unless, I am a super rich kid.
2006-10-24 14:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by HeiglLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer to buy but will let a girl buy, but never, ever, ever on the first-third dates. Youre' right, it is a guy's job to buy, but when I feel I'm with a person exclusivley, why not? As long as she doesn't do it with an attitude, or she's not doing so she doesn't owe me anything I don't mind.
2006-10-24 14:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach it carefully, or you can talk about it *before* the dinner. ("Hey, let's go out and let me treat you this time.") The gentleman is trying to be just that, and it can be unintentionally hurtful if he reads your insistance upon paying the wrong way. If he wishes to pay, then there really isn't anything to worry about. Just be polite and thankful; he's doing his job.
2006-10-24 14:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Freak Of Nurture 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is traditional for the man to pay, but in this day and age, i would suggest going 'dutch' in the begining of a relationship... then later, take turnes... if the guy is more traditional (like me), he'll still end up paying more often... but even i will agree with the woman if she says she wants to go dutch, or if she pays some times...
2006-10-24 14:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how much you eat, guys should always buy on the first date, always! After that, it's whomever asked the other person out that pays.
2006-10-24 14:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Omni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think women should pick up the tab after a few dates. I don't feel it is always the man's responsibility to pay.
2006-10-24 14:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept it and go with the flow. Let her know next time it is your turn to pay. Relationships are 50/50 and seems like she has her share already under control.LL.
2006-10-24 14:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I met we always went dutch. That way he didn't have to be a statistic and I didn't have to feel obligated like I "owed" him anything. Then as we got more steady. He would treat one weekend and I would get the next. Now we are married and we never go out so.... we don't have to worry about it. haha.
2006-10-24 14:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by cabinfeverjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋