what is a good way to pick up a girl although i am shy and have been turned down for the past 10 years of my life, work on cars as a hobby, and love having romantic evenings?
2006-10-24 14:44:48 · 15 answers · asked by yankee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well this is a nerve racking question to say the least. Learning how to ask a girl out isn't as easy as it sounds. How can a simple question such as "Will you go out with me" be so hard to do?
Well let's take a look at one simple, and also the best technique when learning how to ask a girl out.
First of all, obviously when learning how to ask a girl out, there is a girl involved and one that you probably like as well.
But how on earth do we know if this girl likes you or if she will say yes. The easy answer to that, is you don't, unless you over heard a conversation she was having with some saying that she likes you, then you will never know and don't listen to any of her friends either.
Second hand information when learning how to ask a girl out can be twisted and manipulated in a circle of friends, and when it reaches around to telling you, it's completely wrong or definitely over exaggerated.
So we are going to use the only method that I would suggest to you, and that is the direct approach to asking a girl out.
Firstly though when learning how to ask a girl out, do you know what this girl likes, movies, walks on the beach, alcohol or drugs. When you ask her out, ask her with a gift in your hand or something that you can offer to her that she will like. And no I don't mean that thing in your pants either.
You want to impress the girl at the same time that you are asking her out. You need to do some digging around her friends to see what she likes, or if you are talking to her then discreetly slip that into a conversation "So what are you into or what do you like" and remember this.
Once you have gained this important information when learning how to ask out a girl, we can then gather what we need, and then we are ready to ask this girl out.
Dress up nicely and let her know that you have something for her, and ask her if you can drop it off. When you get around to her house, give her that important piece of information you got about her, like a book that she may like, and as you are giving it to her ask her out then, she is already fazed by the fact that she has something that she likes from you, and she just cant say no to the fact that you are asking her out. You have trapped her. She is in your web and you have her in your arms, and now you can both go out and enjoy an evening together, and hopefully she is still around for breakfast time as well.
Something to remember when using this technique on how to ask a girl out. Not all girls are going to say yes, so prepare yourself for the answer "No". Don't mope around either, move on quickly and remember that is only one girl in the whole world, there are still 5 billion left to ask.
I'm sure you're a great guy. Good Luck
2006-10-24 14:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Selena Jade's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this should be an easy one for you. Your question made me chuckle. I was late for my first date with my husband because I was replacing a rocker arm in my firebird (eons ago). My husband thought that was the coolest thing. And on our second date, we rebuilt my carburator (that car was quite the piece). There are women out there who like to do these things, or women who like to watch men do them (as I do now). There is no good way to "pick up" a girl without coming off as weird or creepy. You just simply need to start striking up some more conversations. Be around people...let them get to know you. If you are getting desperate, or feel like it's never going to happen, try joining one of those dating sights. E-Harmony.com has a great reputation for finding someone compatible...try that. I know being shy has been the norm for you, but it's time to step outside of your shell and shine a little. Show the world what you have to offer(that does not mean running around the block naked, although it would get people talking) And be yourself. You sound like a good guy, it'll happen. I wish you luck!
2006-10-24 14:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake is you don't "pick up a girl". That sounds like a one night stand, and that's the biggest turn off I know of. If you are looking for a long lasting relationship, it usually doesn't happen when you are looking. It happens when you least expect it. You meet someone at work, school, or church. You get to know them, and their interests (visa versa). You find a friendship beginning....and before you know it, you are dating! It doesn't always happen that way, you could run into someone at the grocery store, while you are out buying a part for your car, or at the local burger joint while on your lunch. When you least expect it, remember that!
2006-10-24 14:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your look.....change your hairdo, beard(if you have one). Get contacts if you have glasses. Places to meet women....the gym, bar, bank, supermarkets, etc. You need to get out more. Having romantic evenings is great, however that's not going to get you a date. Once you have a date, you can make it a romantic evening. You need to ditch the shyness, which is hard to overcome, but you need to lose it b/c we like guys who are outspoken, funny, and charming. If you are at least funny, everything else should balance out. Don't be afraid of rejection, it should only make you stronger. You have to be dressed nice and smell good and you might get a maybe.
2006-10-24 14:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know what all girls think but what attracts me is when a guy is really tan and muscular, and has a good personallit and pretty eyes. But go for someone who likes you for the way you are.
2006-10-24 14:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tera W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be romatimic to any said girl , i love shy boys that are romcatic use it as your advantage ,you can do it just try . hate to say it i know it you probaly know it rejection is a part of life .
good luck
baby
2006-10-24 14:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading that to me makes you adorable right off the bat. Cars...(a passion), romantic evenings...(perfect)...
2006-10-24 14:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by mercy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, im not a lady, but if u walk up to her like u know u WILL get her number, then girls like confidence in a guy (i got 4 older sisters btw)
2006-10-24 14:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself, show interest in them. be polite, sweet, funny. and don't be shy. take a chance, don't be afraid. because you never know, they just might be the love of your life.
2006-10-24 14:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by ShyGirl_87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To pick up a girl for what? Just get closer to the girl you want.......
and make her fall inlove with you or just make her to like you/ to know you better until you get closer to each other...............don't spend your time on anything..............Give yourself suprises (GIRLS) lol...........If your a boring person..........well, I guess you should change your style or fashion if you want girls to like you.......change your look, your bad attitudes.......and you behavior, be gentle and brave.........make you body look nice (MACHO)......cause girls like that.............
2006-10-24 14:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋