I have meet a guy on da internet. We have spoken 2 each otha only on the fone, & we hav feelings 4 each otha. At da beginning it was all 4 fun, but it has grown n2 somethin special. I have sent him a fake picture telling him dat I am a Dancer. Time is counting down and he wants 2 meet soon. I have been dieting and xercising just incase I change my mind 2 meet him. We do have a connection and he has accepted this & wants to b n my childs life. He is an awesome person, and he inspires me 2 become a better person. I have told him about my feelings 4 him & what we want n our future, but havent told him what I really look like. What should I do? How would you react 2 this?
2006-10-24 14:42:28 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should tell him the truth because he has feelings or whatever for someone who is not you! Send him a real picture of you and tell him what you really do. You'll just have to see what happens after that. Remember he might be a creep so be careful. Meet him someplace that has a lot of people around. Good luck and remember to be honest about every thing.
2006-10-24 14:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guuuuuuuuuurl........
Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. From my experience, most Internet relationships do NOT (I repeat, do NOT) translate well into real life relationships. Your imagination and loose expectations always make what you have seem better than it winds up being. Over the phone there's all this passion and concern, but then reality hits and y'all meet and it's never quite the same. But that's 9 out of 10 times... who knows, y'all could be different.
On the chance that you guys ARE on something different... I would definitely tell him. You might want to ease him into your current day look by showing him older pictures of you when you were a hottie. That way he will have an idea of what you look like. Later on you can spring on him that you are a bit thicker now...lol.
Quietly though, if dude hasn't shown you himself via web cam, do not be surprised if he doesn't look like what he says he looks like. You two might be foolin' each other...
Let me know how it turns out though.... I wish you the best!
2006-10-24 14:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by 444 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that you should of sent him a real picture of you, and not some dancer. Are you uncomfortable with the way you look? And now you have some feelings for him, and he is picturing you look like someone you re not. You should tell him that you only did what you did in the beginning for fun. You had no idea that your relationship it was going to go this far. And send him a pic of really you, and if it was meant to be, take it from there.
2006-10-24 14:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by Diva Dana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off it is scarry to meet people on the net. Be careful! Not just any mn will pick up a child that is not his. And be real with him! Tell him the truth now before things get worse. You already started to lie to him an he is going to loose your trust even more the longer you wait to tell him! Be yourself and no real man that actaully loves you will deny you because of your looks. Trapping a man is not good. Dont be one of them women that do that, you are just living a lie and harming yourself. Just let him know, what is the worse that can happen? If he stops talking to you based on your looks then it was not meant to be. That will be the first step to figure out if his feelings are real
2006-10-24 14:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing is based on a lie. How could you wait so long? Men are visual creatures, he's into it because he thinks your hot besides the connection you have in correspondence. I think your a mean b*tch and I hope he dumps you. Imagine you showing up to meet some hunky six packer and some fat sloppy pig guy showing up. Would it be OK because he has said he wants to spend his life with you and conversations indicate he is an awesome guy??
Doesn't it take so much effort to type like an illiterate?
2006-10-24 14:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by On ur @ss & in ur face 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough, because if you lied to him, then you are betraying his trust. A relationship starting off on lies, is not one that is likely to last. He will probably be disappointed that you kept it up this long. What you need to do is, before you meet, come clean with him, and show him a picture of the REAL you. It would be better to do this before you meet him, so that he doesn't have a big shock when he sees you. In the future, please try to remember that if a man is worth being with, then he will like you for you, and not just your appearance. So be honest in the beginning, so that you don't have to deal with the drama caused by your lies later.
2006-10-24 14:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by LibraT 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would come clean. First of all I wouldn't have allowed myself to keep such a secret from him like that. Before anyone get's totally involved in the other person. There must be honesty so that you don't have to come to something like this. If he truly cares about you and you have a connection than I would be honest with him. He may or may not like what you do. If he is any kind of man he should admire you for being honest with him. Perhaps he may even support what you do. I would try being honest. You shouldn't have allowed your heart to be out on the limb like that to begin with. I hope all works out for you.
2006-10-24 14:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love this man, and you think he is the one. Then a simple thing of lying about what you look like shouldn't really matter to him. I mean a lot of it starts with physical attraction, but if you are clearly falling in love over the internet then looks isn't what he's looking for. If he loves you he will understand. Talk to him one night, and tell him the truth, send him a picture of yourself( your true Self)... and if he drops you because of a simple thing like that, then, he's not worth it.
Honestly if i started to fall in love with someone that i've never met in real life weather they sent me a real pic or not, it wouldn't matter to me, because its the person inside that i'm looking at, not the outside. Good luck with your endevers, and let me know how it goes.
2006-10-24 14:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by mercy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fess up, the longer you wait, the worse it will be. Someone should want to be with you for who you are and what you look like shouldn't really matter to him, but the fact that you lied might, so better be honest. Just tell him you were scared, and hopefully he will understand, but he may think if you lied about that, what else may you be lieing about. Not a great way to start things out. Sorry
2006-10-24 14:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(FIRST LET ME START BY SAYING GOODBYE TO BEST ANSWER)
He thinks you are a DANCER? Ok this is a man that you met over the net and he wants to be a part of your child's life??? Why would you tell a stranger (a potential predator) about your child. On top of that you LIED about what you looked like and deceived him, what makes you think he isn't deceiving you. Wake up you have much more serious problems than lying about your looks.
Best Wishes, and in the future, leave your child out of your net romances.
2006-10-24 14:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋