I met a guy online on Sunday, we spoke a lot on Monday. He was already saying he would like to fly down and visit me, then later asked me to call him at 11:00 p.m., I did, he wasn't home. But apologized and said if I had given him my number, he could have called me at 1:00 a.m. I left him a cool message this morning rather non-comittal about being online. He hasn't tried to contact me ever since. I think he's upset about me not giving me my telephone number. We are in our 40's. I still feel it's too soon to disclose my telephone number. What do you all think? Am I abnormal for feeling like this? or Is he just being too pushy?
2006-10-24 14:26:45 · 12 answers · asked by Ready2hearthetruth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All I can say is Run, Forest, Run!!
Trust me on this one. I'm 40 and I have had more that my share of weirdos. Any guy who is already wanting to fly down and visit you after only chatting for one day is not right in the head. I mean, he would have called you at 1 am? What's that all about?!? Plus, he's the one that told you to call him at 11, it was his own fault he wasn't home, why should he think he has the right to wake you up in the middle of the night?
You're not abnormal, and yes, I would consider this guy a little too pushy. You don't even know this guy, so if he is upset about you not giving out your phone number, that's his problem not yours!
2006-10-24 14:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK sorry if i sound so rude it is not my point but you are very old enough to know when some one is playing you ....a man in his 40's will not a girl that is so weird and telling you that he want to fly down to meet you ...i think u should be careful with the people that u speak to and not is not fast to give ur # because u alredy talked to him by the internet is almost the same thing ...good luck and take care
2006-10-24 14:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ready to hear the truth? Forget him. First off, he is probably married with a bunch of kids. He could be a stalker or even go as far as being a serial killer.
YES, he is moving too fast. Why? Probably because his wife might walk in on him talking to you on the web or phone.
You have picked one of the worst and possibly most dangerous way to meet "someone". Wise up, act your age and don't be doing risky things. YOU already know the answer to your question......listen to your instinct. Good luck. Pops
2006-10-24 14:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would be uncomfortable about giving out my home number...If you had a cell phone, you could have given him that. But you are right--he was extremely pushy, just too soon to be exchanging numbers.
2006-10-24 14:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thing you are being very smart, use a lot of caution when dealing with someone you meet on the Internet. All he has to do is go on line find a reverse phone book give them your name and number and BINGO he knows your address.
I am very wary of people that push for personal information to fast. You never know what they will do with it or really what they want it for.
2006-10-24 14:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. once i got to the part about you guys being in your 40's i realized you were not in high school. up until then.. it wasn't clear.
no.. he isn't being to pushy. i mean.. its a phone number. One of the first things I do when I ask a girl out is ask her phone number so I can call her to find out where she lives to pick her up.
the whole.. "flying down to visit" is A LOT more of a reason to wonder wtf than the phone number thing.
i mean.. the phone number.. fine.. no biggie
but the "hey lets meet up" means "lets have indescriminate sex"
not that there is anything wrong with that if that is your thing and you eluded to it.. but WTF is he thinking there?
2006-10-24 14:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by MerryMortician 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is already saying he would like to come down for a visit then I think you have snatched up a psycho. If he is going to be upset for you not giving him your number then I think you best run as fast as you can from this one.
2006-10-24 14:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by k b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u met him sunday and is upset that u didnt give him your number yet...id be scared if i was u thats already signs of anger! dont get into it with him just ignore him besides its not like u will have your heartbroken from a guy u just met!
2006-10-24 14:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as to when you should give him your phone number,is your choice ,you should do what feel right for you. maybe he was being pushy.
2006-10-24 14:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR NOT ABNORMAL!!!
Maybe he's the one who is ABNORMAL,!
I have the same guy too
and I didn't give my cellphone/telephone no.
,when he asked it to me
Cause I don't know him yet.........
and were not that too close....
You don't have a reason to give ur No. with anybody...
If you gave it to anyoneIt means that your not
giving yourself SELFSECURITY
2006-10-24 15:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋