should i hire a nanny i have 3 kids?

Question

i have a 3 year old a 13 month old and a 2 week old and my husband is always at work

i can afford it money is no problem at all and i dont work but we also have a big house it has about 17 bedrooms but it is my dads house but he and my husband are not home very often so it is just me and my kids and some people from my dads company stay here a lot

Answer 1

As a nanny - I know MANY people who work for stay-at-home parents. There's nothing wrong with needing some time for you - with 3 kids 3 and under - you deserve it. How much time you want someone else to be there is up to you - the people I know do 1-5 days/week. Having a nanny there also offers you the opportunity to get to go out and do fun things with your kids and the nanny that you may not have been able to do otherwise (day trips with an extra adult are FANTASTIC). My employer is home 1 day that I work, and sometimes we all go out otherwise she uses the day to clean the house and run errands without two preschoolers chasing her around making things difficult.

So, really - what I'm saying is go with your gut. Only you know what you need. Parenting was never meant to do alone - get the extra help if you need it. There's nothing shameful in that.

Answer 2

Well, how's your budget? Can you afford to hire in-home help? If you can, then it might be a good idea, because that could enable you to spend more "quality time" with your kids, rather than always running after them, doing nothing but drudge work, and constantly solving crises.

If you can't afford to hire a nanny, and if your situation is driving you batty, then all that I can tell you is that SOME women find a good trade-off in putting their kids into day care and getting a job outside of the home. (Other women will tell you that that's a terrible thing to do, that you should be raising your own kids. All that I can tell you is that I was raised by an angry, stressed-out stay-at-home-mom, and it's not ALWAYS the ideal experience that those "family values" types claim it to be.) Sometimes the best way to be a good mother is to take care of YOUR OWN needs first.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Definitely! Full time or part time, you may be pleasantly surprised at how nice it is to have a consistent pair of extra hands around. You could even find a nanny that is willing to help out around the house, not just with the kids. And another good thing would be that you could hand off 2 kids to the nanny while you get some special mommy time with the 3rd child or you can have a chance to get some rest...3 kids under 3 is a handful!

Answer 4

if you think you just can't handle It, I would. I have had a tough time raising five kids, and still am. I considered it last month, but I am a super mom. Not many people have to chase around a six year old, four year old twin girls, a three year old, and a two year old, not to mention being 7 months pregnant! I have a routine, but they seem to slip out of it. I really am considering a nanny, but I can still hadle It on my own. I probably will once i have the baby. For now, I can tackle the little rascals, even though a couple weeks ago I almost lost it when all five had the stomach flu. So, try to take the challenge, but you may need a nanny's touch, hey, maybe we all do!

Answer 5

Sure if you can afford it why not. Talk it over with your husband. If your able to choose a nanny together. You have to be comfortable with someone being around your kids as much as yourself or maybe even more than you. Need to weigh a few things. Male or female nanny (yes men are starting to get in on the nanny racket). Like a live in or live out nanny? Age of the nanny someone older or younger? Experience and background checks should give you a good way to narrow down people. Be on your guard make sure they are legal to work in the U.S. Ask plenty of questions. Especially about discipline toward the children. Good luck on what you decide.

Answer 6

That would depend on several things.
You didn't say if you worked or not, so I assume you don't.
If you can afford to get outside help and you husband is no help, a nanny or sitter, at least part time, would give you some down time. I wouldn't get a full time nanny unless you work. Time spent with your kids is precious, even though it is a lot of work.
If you can't afford outside help, consider swapping baby sitting with a friend, neighbour, or family member. This way you can still have me time and they get some too.

Answer 7

That is a hard question. My guess is you are extremly tired. How about for just a couple of mornings a week. Or if you can afford a nanny maybe hire someone to do the housecleaning instead so you can spend more time relaxing when kids nap.

Good luck

Answer 8

Yes. If you can afford it, do it. Maybe not 5 days a week, but 2 or 3 would be great for you. I have 3 under 2 and I wish I could have just a day or two off. One to clean the house the other to do my errands. good luck!

Answer 9

If you can afford it, go for it. I have 3 kids and one on the way and my husband is away for 3 to 6 weeks at a time at work. If I could afford at least a maid I would.

Answer 10

A great nanny could make yours and your kids lives a lot easier. Even if you are there while she is and you get to take a nap or run to the store without all the kids in tow. I think it would excellect for your well being right nowshuga.