Have you ever felt like you have no right to feel so bad about things?

Question

I haven't had anything really bad happen to me but sometimes I'll get so mad at myself for something, or feel so stupid, and then I'll cut myself, sometimes lots of times in a row, and I do that almost every day now. And all the time I hear about people who cut themselves because they were abused as a child, or something else really bad happened, and I feel like I don't have any right to cut myself and it's not fair to people who have really suffered that I do it and like I'm just faking it. And that just makes me hate myself even more and want to hurt myself even more. And I guess I was just wondering if anyone else ever feels guilty for feeling really bad about something that should be no big deal compared to what other people have to deal with.

Answer 1

You're not alone, a lot of peopl feel this way.

I used to be/am recovering from being a self-mutilator myself.

It's been a hard process, but I ask you to stop before you get addicted to it. It sounds like you're doing it extremely frequently, but not very badly.

You need to tell your parents..and get signed up to see a therapist regularly..and maybe get on medicine.

Sometimes I feel so hopeless too, don't worry, you're not the only one. But cutting is a serious problem..

No matter if you have reasons or not. Alot of times I didn't either, I just did it because I wanted to, and things progressed from there.

I felt bad for not having a reason, because when people asked I couldn't explain. I wasn't abused as a child..I just changed while being a teenager.

So I ask you to do me a favor, as one addict to another..

Get some help. Please.

I don't mean that in a bad way, but I wouldn't be here today without that help.

And I pray you find the strength within yourself to do that.

It will be hard as hell, but you can do it!

Answer 2

I do felt like I had a reason to cut. I was a former cutter for a year. I've suffered excessively from emotional and verbal abuse., espcially as a child and a teen.

I think it's a way of releasing the inner pain you have inside because you have no other way to express it.
It helps make up feel better in the beginning because you think the pain is all gone.

It's hard to stop, yes, but instead of a sharp object, replace it with a red marker. at least you can wash it off.
If it gets outta control, get help. When i got help, i can tell you i had to find it myself because nobody read my signs, expcially ppl who saw my cuts, nobody helped me. I felt so lost and alone.
But somehow, i found the courage to seek some couseling for my issues.

Today now i felt guilty because i have leftover scars from cutting and when ppl ask me about that, and i do get asked a lot, i just say i didnt cut my nails properly, i felt ichy and i accidently scracthed myslef and didnt acknowlegde yo marks till afterwards.

Answer 3

yeah, i feel like that alot. I cut alot as well, w/ loving parents and a great life and no abuse, so i'm in that same boat. And i often feel like my probs are no deal compared to ppls like my friends so i never tell them anything. But i should point out, even if you weren't abused that doesn't mean your pain is any less real. All that means is that you didn't have a trigger so much as they did. i would guess you are chemically imbalanced then (that's what i am) and just feel crappy for no reason or whatever. And you aren't faking, as you said yourself you cut because you hate yourself, and that's as real a reason as any. Everyone feel depressed for their own reason, but they are all the same in that they feel depressed. My point is, you may be low and cutting for a different reason, but you are still cutting so you are like them in that and have just as much of a 'right' (well, not that anyone really has a right to it in my opinion, even though i do it as well) as any one else. i don't know if that made sense. Wel, i know your pain and what you are talking about, so atleast you know you aren't the only one. If you ever want to talk emial me at [e-mail] . anywyas, i hope things get better, and good luck to you =)

Answer 4

I don't cut myself but I have felt that way. Like I got depressed from this relationship I was in but I mean, there's always that feeling that things could be worse and you feel stupid for being sad. Like people having bigger problems than yours and stuff like that. I remember i was being all weird and depressed over this girl who i had dated and then a friend of mine's boyfriend died in a car accident. It made me feel like a bad person that i was sad about something that to many would seem so meaningless. I'm not trying to put you down but I think with the cutting yourself and everything, it's probably a good idea to see a therapist. 2, possibly 3 of my sisters have gone or go to them for other reasons. They can really be a help. also, don't judge yourself by other peoples standards, it's not wrong to be sad for your own reasons.

Answer 5

That's a tough cycle to get out of. We all have ways of dealing with pain, and for some people, I guess it's cutting themselves. Pain is pain regardless of how bad it is. Although I never cut myself to deal with pain, I've done and do some strange things as well when I'm mad, hurt, or just feel bad for some reason. Short of finding medical help, try to find other ways that let out your anger. Maybe it's a matter of trying out different things, and when you find something more constructive, the one advantage would be that when you're mad or feel stupid, you'll do that constructive activity instead of cutting yourself, and you'll feel better about it instead of feeling worse.

Answer 6

I used to be a cutter. I also felt well I didnt have a bad childhood so why would I feel the need to express my anger and sadness in such a way. I used to feel that when I would cut that it was like crying or that it would get me high. I went to a psychologist and learned where all the anger was coming from. You have every right to express yourself you just need to learn how. Like all the other answers say go see a psychologist or tell someone you trust to help you take the first steps.

Answer 7

sorry about what happened bro. I'm guessing he thinks he can approach your twin brother more. It probably makes him feel that he can't do stuffs with you because of the way you, i don't know, act when you're around him? So I guess you should spend more time with your dad, you know be the kid of son that most dads expect us to be. Help them with construction and all that. I'm not judging you or anything bro, but I think you probably need to act more masculine? Good luck. :)

Answer 8

Been there, done that, but ive learned that life is too short, and life is about experiencing and going thru things, that we may become stronger and be all we can be. Thanks be to God, I no longer focus on the sad things, but enjoy what is good and know that all things happen for a reason. I know that i cant change a situation, but ive learn how to not ,be affected by the situation. I use to get so upset at myself because i felt like i disappointed someone, or offended someone, but all one can do is apologize, we all have faults, if they dont wanna let it go, its their problem.

Answer 9

You have a compulsion and can't seem to express yourself properly. It's not your fault, it's a problem with your body, the chemistry, not you. Please tell someone near you right now, so you can get to a doctor that will help you.

Answer 10

Since I'm no counsellor, I'd urge you to seek professional help .... you do need it, and I'm sure with her help, you will get out of this trauma in no time.