i always punished by little thing i did or something i dont have to do, and i helpd but i just didnt do that all the way. for example, today i help mom for washing dishes, i washed all the dishes we have, and clean the stove, i just didnt put every thing up because they are not dry. then mom go to the kichen and put the dish up, (it is her job). my step-dad see i was working in the kichen and now my mom pick up my work, and im watching tv, he punishme for no tv for a month!!!
the thing like that happend at least once a week. he think every thing others do is not good they should be punished. not only to me, in his compeny he always complain the worker is not respecful.
i dont have much freedom. i cant hang out with friend, (by the way im 14) im not even alowed to have a boyfriend, or send mesage to boys, even though i got a A plus on every subject in school. the way he act affect my mom too. now my mom is much picker than before, but they are so good together.how to deal with him???
2006-10-24 13:57:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Speaking as a father Nikii, I understand why your mother and step-dad wont let you have a boyfriend or send messages. However I do feel that they are rather harsh with the punishment. Sit down and talk to them about how you feel. It's no guarantee, but it will show that you're willing to work with them. It might also get them to lighten up with the punishment.
2006-10-24 21:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for the fact that he is always punishing you, when you are done and something is wet or can't be put up at the second tell him your reason. If he does not care talk to your mom bout it she might say your reason in a polite way so they wouldn't argue or get mad at each other. That way they don't break up.
2006-10-24 21:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by sexyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't your Mom correct him for being in the wrong?
I think if you are a good student, you have earned to do a few things. If you Mom isn't backing you up, talk to her about it and ask her why she isn't seeing things the way you are. Make sure you let them know how you feel.
2006-10-24 21:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by talk4now2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all im 11 and i email guys 24-7 try 2 compromise with ur step-dad! u seriously need 2 get mor freedom! compromising helps most of the times
2006-10-24 21:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by gcoco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to try talking to someone at your school. Someone like a counselor. They might be able to help you. Also I dont know how the relationship with your mom is but you might want to talk to her about how you feel. Let her know whats bodering you. Its always good to talk about your feelings. Its not good to hold things in. Dont worry... everything will be better one day!
2006-10-24 21:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by i know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is an overbearing control freak. Nothing is ever good enough. Your parents are not "good together". Your Mom is kissing his butt to keep from getting yelled at. You all need family counseling, mainly him.
2006-10-24 21:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to your step dad, see how he feels about it. if that doesn't work talk to your mom. if that doesn't work try getting used to it you only have four or five years anyway. then you leave get married and don't treat your children that way.
2006-10-24 21:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by Coke-n-Snickers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that sucks...just try finishing everything all the way and try to explain to ur dad b4 he starts giving u ur punishment....hope that helps
2006-10-24 21:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't your mother stick up for you about the dishes?
2006-10-24 21:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋