continue to call them several times a day? or invite them to do things with you daily? or ask their opinion on serious life issues?
I am interested in this girl who says she doesnt like me quite the same way I like her......altho she does have feelings for me--of her own confession. Yet she calls me sometimes 10x a day. We share a lot and there is intimacy between us. So, is she shooting me a line of bull or is she really interested and just cant make a jump?
2006-10-24 13:33:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe I should add that YES we are gay.......and yes we are grown --in our 40's.
2006-10-24 13:43:48 · update #1
It sounds to me like she is just scared to take a chance. Also, if this is a same-sex relationship, (just assuming from your name) it's even more likely that she is nervous about making that decision. It can be a hard thing to take a chance on admitting that you really want to be with someone, because there is always the chance that they can hurt you. If you really like her, I would suggest that you try to be patient and still be a friend. Maybe if she sees that you are available for her when she needs a friend, she will come to trust your feelings, and her own as well and be willing to take a chance. Good luck!
2006-10-24 13:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by foxylady1_sl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, some girls are motivated solely by their love of attention. I am a girl, well a woman now, but I remember being a girl and my friends and I (though we didn't realize it at the time) often used boys that liked us to make us feel and seem desirable. And the intimacy you are sharing with your feelings is satisfying this girl on some level. She is pretty much using you. And if you really want to know how she feels about you, tell her you can't be as close to her as she wants to be because it is hard for you. And then back off. If she comes crawling back, hold your ground. It will eventually become clear what she was looking for from you, but you have to be strong. Good luck.
2006-10-24 20:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jen F 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well.... Id say you are more of a best friend/ back up. If she wont make the jump then shes only using you as a support and for intimacy. All u can do to find out your self is ask her and let her know if she cant jump for you then you need to jump for someone els. Good luck and take care.
2006-10-24 20:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by bitbaygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may really like you, but has a commitment issue. She may have gotten out of a bad relationship or is constantly getting hurt in them and feels that it will happen again. So playing it safe is her thing. Or she might want to get to know you as a friend first and if you have that much patients then you are worth the shot. Think about it and if you really want to find out, then ask her what's up.
2006-10-24 20:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way u saying it seems like she likes u as a good friend and may be more shetrust u and she know you will be there to listen to her. she might just be confused about this relation she dosent know what to name this relation all u gotta do is make her realize how she complets u and how u complete her if u know what i mean. just break the ice slowly
2006-10-24 20:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by mrdeeds_1983 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To call anyone 10 times a day is insane. Yes she loves u to death.
2006-10-24 20:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by wannabefree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a Tuffie! sounds to me like that she does like you and sounds like you really like her. she may be frightned about a serious relationship right now. give her time. there is no rush. just play it day by day. if she wasn't interested she wouldn't call that many times a day or even talk to you about intimate things. be patient. good things come to those who wait!
2006-10-24 20:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl may like you or she might just like your company or attention. Maybe she wants to take things a little slower thaen you do also.
2006-10-24 20:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by exhaling2day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she is infact a Lesbian and just playing with your mind, so when her girlfriend dumps her she will run to you. Sorry about your luck pal, although that will never happen so go find yourself another one! But give it to her good before you leave.
2006-10-24 20:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you wanted to be an inconsiderate pest...kind of like all of the darn pre-election crap in your mail.
2006-10-24 20:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋