Everytime I go to my meeting he tells me how stupid I am for living with my boyfriend of 5 years. How Im going no place in like with him...how he is never going to want to marry a criminal like me! He just goes on and on in a way that makes me feel uncomftorable. My boyfriend has nothing to do with why i am on probation, so does my PO have the right to say things like that all the time?
2006-10-24 13:24:49 · 17 answers · asked by jessica j 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I am afraid reporting it will get me in more trouble somehow...that the PO will say it's not true
2006-10-24 13:30:57 · update #1
OKAY, I NEED TO ADD ONE MORE THING. ALL HE TALKS ABOUT IS MY BOYFRIEND AND I. THATS IT. NOTHING ELSE. NOT MY CRIME! EVERYTIME. FOR AN HOUR OR MORE. I DONT THINK THATS RIGHT.
2006-10-24 13:37:07 · update #2
Like above answers, I would report him. Not in a nasty way, but tell them how uncomfortable it makes you. And they do not have any business being up in your private life. It's different if you are on parole. Or if he is, but otherwise, he's just being nosy and really infringing on your privacy. You can report him anonymously.
2006-10-24 13:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by GiGi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am afraid he does have the right to ask about your boyfriend because you live with him. Now if you didnt live with him it would be different. The probation officer has the right to know who is living with you, their record if any, where they work etc. because you are affected by this person. The PO's job is to make sure you do what you need to do so if he is making it hard for you to do what your PO wants then he is detrimental to you.
2006-10-24 13:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Amberlyn4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR probation officer can talk to YOU about pretty much anything. Your life is not your own when your on probation. However....this hardly seems like an overly bright approach on his part. Anyhow......it's really not worth worrying about....just get through the probation even if you have to grit your teeth and hold your tongue. It is the only way. Be the bigger person.
2006-10-24 14:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he does. But that part about him not wanting to marry you because you are a criminal is really cruel. He's a bully and he's using the system to do it. I think you have a right to talk with his supervisor about it. I think he's just abusive and some men in those positions tend to mistreat women. You did your time and apparently keeping the rules of your parole.
2006-10-24 13:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by goldielocks123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Probation Officer has no right to ask questions that are not linked to the case. It is an abuse of authority and must be reported to his superior.
2006-10-24 13:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he had a first amendment right to talk about whatever he wants. Part of probation is recovery and getting you life back strait. he obviously feels your boyfriend is a problem. How many times do you need to be reminded of your crime?
2006-10-24 14:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup! YOur probation officer is concerned about you going back to jail, so even if hi/she is waaaay off base and talking about something that has nothing to do with you, that just might be the way he sees it and you get to listen to his opinion.
2006-10-24 13:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That is an invasion of your personal life. I would complain to the proper authorities about this behaviour and request a different p.o. preferably a woman given your situation
2006-10-24 13:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by tigerlilliebuick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has nothing to do with the case, and he is not doing his job right. Report him to the courts.
2006-10-25 03:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you bring your boyfriend to the next meeting?
2006-10-24 13:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Rick C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋