i am 16 and she is 15 but her parents have rule that stops her from going out with anyone so i am trying to find a way let her parents let her go out with me. any suggestions?
2006-10-24 13:12:07 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go and talk to them, respect their oppinions and rules and they'll respect you for making an effort....
Yes going out with a younger person doesn't always mean that you're wanting to go further.... It really annoys me that people jump to these conclusions without even knowing you.... Yes having a sexual relationship with a minor is illegal. But I'm sure you're aware of that....
If you talk to her parents and let them get to know you they might feel comfortable in letting their daughter out with you... Try and be polite, curtious, respectful... Tell them you'll have her home by 8pm and make sure she's home by 7.50pm... They'll start to realise that you're responsible and might change the times and allow you both to go and venture out for long periods plus different places to go to and spend more time out....
Maybe on your first date, tell them you'd like to take her to the cinema and invite them too... They might turn you down, or come and realise that you're intentions are noble and see how kind and sweet you are to their daughter.... Letting you take her out next time on your own....
Invite her and her parents to your parents house so that they all meet up and see you in your home environment... This might allow them to have her at your house and then from there you can go out and about....
Make her parents realise that you're trustworthy and care about their daughters welfare as much as they do.... If you go there all cocky and push demanding this and that, it'll only make it worse for you and their daughter....
Be confident and as their permission to take her out, maybe on a Saturday afternoon down to the shops or for a coke somewhere, out to the park and make sure it's with your parents or hers to start with... Involve them and you might be shocked that the rules might change....
2006-10-24 13:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her parents wishes first of all. Secondly, let them get to know you. Go visit her and make nice conversation with her parents. Maybe you could all watch movies together and stuff like that. Show them you are a nice guy and you will treat her right, (hopefully you are and you will!!!!) that is the most important thing to parents. Don't try any trickery or trying to talk them into changing the rule, that will only count against you. It may take longer than you want, but if you really care for her, it'll be worth it.
2006-10-24 20:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mo the treehugger! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there an age where she can go out with you. For now be her friends and respect her parents. That will go along way for you. If you try to push the issue there will be even more concerns as to why you want to date their daughter so bad. I couldn't date until i was 16 and then it had to be group dates. So i understand what her parents are thinking. Just be her friend and stay by her side and support her and obey the family.
2006-10-24 20:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by mostgenuine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, what is the rule? Is it because they are very religious. You must gain some kind of trust. Maybe, you first, try dating at her home. Maybe watching movies and etc. Maybe they will trust , you if that see how you act in their home . If, for a last resort ask to double date with the parents to the movies. Good Luck
2006-10-24 20:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you make her parents a deal......ask them if you can HAVE a date with their daughter, but before they can answer tell them that you are willing to have a date at the house. Bring/make her dinner and bring over a movie. then maybe have dinner out on the patio, or in the living area, and watch a movie after dinner. And if it all goes well ask them if you have gained their trust/permision to take her out on a date but you promise to have her home at a decent hour........that way you will slowly gain their trust and you may even get to like the parents and vice/versa.
2006-10-24 20:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck trying to convince them because it probably won't work. Ask if you guys can do something together, not just you and your "girlfriend" but something that can include her parents (i.e. going to a theme park, zoo, miniature golf, movies, etc) so that they might see that you are a person of your word.
However, her parents have rules for a reason and if you can't convince them, then just give up and move on.
2006-10-24 20:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, spend time with her, at her parents. Once they get to know you, and can trust you with her I'm sure there will be no problems. It took me about 3 months to earn my girls parents trust. But after that if was great knowing there family, and even going places with them. If you are serious about this girl, You will want to learn to like her family. Good Luck
2006-10-24 20:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find a way to hang out at her house. If you hang there for awhile her parents will not only get to know you but they will get to love you and trust you then you will be able to go out with her. Plus if you have a good relationship with the parents it will help your relationship with her. Good luck
2006-10-24 20:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by elainecynthia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound stupid to you, but ask her parents if you can bring a movie over with them and watch it with them to give them the chance to get to know you. If they say yes to that, then be on your best behavior and next time see if they want to go OUT to a movie with you. This will really let them get to know you and build their trust. I have a daughter and before she is going out with any boy I WILL GET TO KNOW THEM FIRST. I would definitely have to trust the boy as well as my daughter.
2006-10-24 20:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Psych Major 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called the LAW, don't date a 15 year old, you could end up in prision, if anything ever happened.
Just remain friends with her until she turns 16.
2006-10-24 20:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋