i really like this guy. We are friends. we hug and stuff. He has told people we are a couple. My friend asked him does he like me. He said im ok, but that we are just friends with benefits. is this good or bad.
2006-10-24 12:36:06 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bad. One person always has more feelings for the other, and it almost always ends badly. Plus, if one of you finds someone, the other is left hanging.
You have more worth than this, find someone who wants ALL of you, not just sex.
2006-10-24 12:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Deleted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is a little different than others. If you were truly in a "friends with benefits" situation where the two of you were having sex with "no strings attached" I'd tell you to be worried, because that never works out well for very long.
However, it sounds like this boy likes you and was just being a tough guy around your friend. I think that you should ask him yourself and tell him if you want to be a real couple or not. Take some initiative!
2006-10-24 12:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend with benefits does a lot more than hug and kiss. If both people know in advance that this is all the relationship will be and one side isn't expecting something more, then there's nothing wrong with it. But the problem with these relationships is that generally one or the other person begins wanting more.
2006-10-24 12:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how far it goes. If u guys are F....ing then u can't call that friends with benefits. Also if he says u are okay then u obviously don't need to be his friend because if he tell people u r goin out and then tell people u r okay that not good. he need to say u are better then just okay because the that probably makes u feel like ur not nothing much.
2006-10-24 12:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your personal feelings and relationship with this guy. If you want a real relationship with this guy, then Friends w/benefits is a bad thing, but if you just like hanging and making out with this guy for fun and not seeking a relationship then it can be a good thing. It really depends on you.
2006-10-24 12:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say good for him and bad for you. he is getting what he wants - sex. you are not getting what you want. someone who really cares about you and wants to be in a relationship. a lot of girls get caught up in this typoe of thing, hoping that the guy likes them, afraid to talk to him about it, or just hanging on hoping things will change. but im pretty sure it will not change. he has no reason to give you more, when he can jsut get laid whenever. it would be a good idea to end the sex and try to find a guy that repsects you and treats you how you deserve. i believe you deserve more than a "friends with benefits deal". ive been there myself, and in the end, the girl usually gets hurt and is angry for doing the whole thing. a guy that cares about you wont worry about getting you into bed anyway. when i met my husband, we were friends and dated for like two or three months before we ever did anything. and he treats me like a queen.
2006-10-24 12:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by faiths13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course your not a bad friend! microwave pizza is horrible and your friend needs to know that. if he continues to do that. he might even have a heart attack 20 or 30+ years before a healthy person does! have him be aware of the consequences. if you dont know what to do, ask for some help. if he has been eatting microwave pizza for a long period of time, really, just seek help. if its a short period of time, perhaps it could be a phase. anyway, it is very bad and i want your friend to live healthy too. because if one person is healthy, that means that we're one step closer to having a better world. really talk with him and if he wants to stop but cant resist it, think of ways to help him. like, go with him to the market when he's shopping and make sure that he doesnt buy any. or tell his parents to not buy any. "When people do not agree with us, it is not because they are stubborn. It is because we did not convince them enough"
2016-05-22 11:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay he is a friend but telling people you are a couple...um that is all I need to know to tell you to get the hell away from him...that is just wrong on so many levels...so basically he is just using you for what? Hugs? Creepy...
2006-10-24 12:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, here it is: If you're both single and just want to get together and have sex without any strings, go for it. But if one of you may be inclined to having feelings for the other person, just keep it at friends only.
2006-10-24 23:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD!!!!!!!! friends with benefits sucks! If you see him with another girl.....it'll kill you inside. & sooner or later he's gonna want more than just a few hugs. If I were you I'd tell him that I liked him & that you wanna be more than friends with benefits. If he doesn't like it that way you can do waaaay better!!!!!!!! GooD LucK
2006-10-24 12:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋