I am a soldier and miss my girlfriend?

Question

I am on CADRE for five weeks in British Army.
Havent seen my girlfriend for ages now because of my work and hers.
Last weekend we spent a lot of time on phone and i felt jealous for the first time about a girl. Jealous because i couldnt be with her... she aint cheating but i dont like thought of other guys hitting on her when i am not there.

How can i deal with this??

Answer 1

Visit the local cat house and get rid of your frustrations.!!!
Jealousy makes people nasty.!!!

Answer 2

I can only answer this from the opposing point of view. I am a sailor's girlfriend and we spend weeks at a time apart. I wonder what he is getting up to in foreign ports (ie a salior has a girl in every port) and I feel deadly jealous when he says he has been to so many bars and had such a great time.

The only thing that reassures me, is when he phones and tells me he loves me, or occasionally sends me a card or a letter saying he misses me.

I think what you are really afraid of is that another guy will hit on her, and because she is lonely and misses you, that she will go off with him. Rest assured, women aren't as shallow as men. Most of us who have men in the forces miss them dreadfully, and would not even look at another guy. We go out in the evenings so that we don't have to face the dreadful loneliness of an empty house, and the thought of having to get into a cold bed, without a cuddle or a kiss. The thought of having someone else fill that gap leaves us cold.

Your girlfriend is probably just as jealous of you and worried about you when you go out with your mates in the evening. Will you find someone else? Will you take someone else for a night (meaningless but better than nothing) and destroy all the trust she has placed in you?

In short (or long), keep in touch, keep phoning, send postcards, letters and flowers occasionally - there is no way she will go off with someone else.

Answer 3

ok lets check into reality land what makes you think other blokes wont chat her up when you are there. it happens all the time. the point is that it falls on deaf ears cos the the girl is not in the market for another bloke. 5 weeks is nothing my old man can be away for weeks or months at a time and the worst of it is a lot of the time i dont know where he is. if you really want to know what the best part of having a relationship with a serviceman is its the homecoming it makes up for every minute they are away. so stop flapping keep in regular contact by phone e mail and letter. but most importantly keep your eyes peeled and your head down and if you should happen to come across my old man tell him I put petrol in the car (diesel) its costing him £100 i've decorated the kitchen and the dogs had its booster. you see everyday life is what is important to your gal.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

5 weeks - I have spent longer in a NAAFI queue!

My wife and I have suffered a lot of seperation since we have been together but the reunions are always worth it. Just think that if she is happy to wait for you it must be the real thing. Just try and keep away from the hoo-ahs when you are foreign.

Answer 6

Just have faith in her that she will do the right thing. When someone hits on her that just means that u r a lucky man and you got a cute girl. Just give her attention. I am the wife of a soldier. We get lonely and miss our husbands and so on and just need an email that say something like you are the love of my life and i miss you. Its hard time now just be strong.

Answer 7

hey archie mate weve all been through that you got to keep telling yourself ill be home soon its only 5 weeks mate.
wait to you do a 6 month tour then you can worry if shes a decent girl mate keep in contact it will soon pass i been through it but you took the choice and im afraid you pay your money you make your bed so get the cadre finished and youll soon see her all the best tony

Answer 8

im a navy wife, and i miss my husband. people that have strong hearts and good souls go through what we are. like other people have said, there are a bad few out there, but no matter what the distance is between the two of you, im sure that she loves you more then yesterday, and will continue loving you for the rest of your life. dont fill your time away with negative thoughts, that will only make it go by slower.

Answer 9

5 weeks, my mans in Iraq and has been since april, its been bloody hard, hes due home around November, if its meant to be it'll work, , be greatful for the calls etc i get 10 mins a week, sometimes no calls at all for ages. The distances has made us grow stronger, im 150% behind him and waiting, you have to be able to trust each other.
Talk to her, if its getting too hard end it, if your in love then it'll work.
Good luck mate

Answer 10

Five weeks is nothing! I went out with a marine years ago who was away for months at a time and he cheated on me, wish more soldiers were loyal like you. It must be hard for you but if she cares (like I did for mine) you will be fine. Good luck x

Answer 11

Mate,
If she loves you, she 'aint going off with nobody. You're a squaddie and most girls love that.

When I was doing BMT at RAF Halton I felt the same thing tho. You have to convince yourself that all is fine because it will be!