I told ya'll advice and broke up with my boyfriend.. But I can't seem to get him out of my mind every night about the nights we spent together! His touch, kiss! Argh! What to do? Even though, he got another girl, he teasing me talking about," Are you still think about those nights we have togethers.. Hours of pleasure?" At the same time, I want to hurt him, bang his head into the sidewalk but yet I love or lust for him! Is this love or lust and what to do about it?
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2006-10-24 12:17:54 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Chamillitary Amberleé♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not love it is lust. You are still trying to get over him. He made you feel good. But love is more than just sex. It is a serious emotion. One that keeps you with this person, even when they no longer have the same zesto in bed as they once did. Even when they get bald, or gain a few pounds. You stay because you love them. You don't want to be with out them. They make you feel whole inside. You are committed to them. Do you feel this way for him? He is with another girl, maybe he is just trying to keep you as an extra on the side. This man is in another relationship, you need to move on. Find another man to spice up your life. An adult, Your ex is acting like a teenie bop-per, a child who wants two lollipops at once.
2006-10-24 12:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust, and comfort.
I've been there, its hard to get that comfort feeling gone for good. It will always be a part of you cause you were with him physically and mentally. Its something you shared. But it will go away in time, let yourself think about the past, and cry or whatever you need to do, but IT WILL go away.
2006-10-24 19:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WILL TAKE TIME TO GET OVER HIM THAT IS FOR SURE. EVERYTIME HE COMES TO YOUR MIND, TELL HIM TO GET OUT! ONLY YOU CAN CONTROL WHAT YOU THINK. IF IT IS LOVE, YOU WOULD KNOW AND YOU WOULD NEVER HAVE TO WONDER. HE ALREADY MOVED ON? YOU NEED TO TOO. AND THAT DOES NOT MEAN FINDING SOMEONE ELSE. TAKE THIS TIME TO FIND YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU WANT. IF YOU JUMP INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP BEFORE FIGURING OUT WHAT HAPPENED IN THE LAST ONE, YOU ARE BOUND TO FIND YOURSELF IN THE SAME POSITION AGAIN, WONDERING IF IT IS LOVE OR LUST. I'VE BEEN GOING THROUGH THE SAME SITUATION FOR A LONG TIME NOW ALSO. I KNOW ITS NOT LOVE OBVIOUSLY, BECAUSE WE ARE NOT TOGETHER. I THINK, DREAM, AND WONDER ABOUT HIM ALL THE TIME. IF HE IS RUBBING IT IN YOUR FACE, KNOWING THAT IT HURTS YOU THEN IT FOR SURE IS NOT LOVE. SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU WOULDNT DO THAT TO YOU. WHAT I'VE BEEN DOING IS SAYING NO! NO MORE INTIMATE RELATIONS WITH MEN UNTIL I FIND THAT ONE PERSON WHO WAS MEANT FOR ME. ONCE A WOMAN HAS SEX WITH A MAN, SHE BECOMES EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED. THERE IS NOTHING A WOMAN CAN DO TO STOP HER EMOTIONS FROM BUILDING UP. A MAN CAN BE WITH A DIFFERENT WOMAN EVERY NIGHT AND NOT BE EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED, WOMEN CANNOT!! AND THE MORE WE TELL OURSELVES THAT WE'RE NOT GOING TO FALL, THE HARDER WE FALL AND THE HARDER IT IS FOR US TO GET BACK UP. SO MY ADVICE IS TO SAY NO TO MEN, UNLESS HE IS YOUR MAN!!! AS GOOD AS THOSE "HOURS OF PLEASURE" WERE WITH HIM, THEY ARE NOTHING COMAPARED TO WHAT YOU WILL FEEL WITH THE MAN WHO WAS MADE ESPECIALLY FOR YOU. TRUST ME ON THIS!!!
2006-10-24 19:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by jaylove209 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the definition of lust was "not thinking clearly"..lol
It will have to go away on it's own. In my experience the more I fought it...the more I wanted it. Indulge until you are sick of him just like Halloween candy.
2006-10-24 19:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a d.i.c.k. junkie. Don't feel bad, I don't know any woman who hasn't mistaken hot sex for MORE. Usually when we are young...or repressed.
Just like anyother junkie, you're gonna have to deal with the withdrawl and find something more MEANINGFUL to spend your time on.
And yes, it can be another guy.
2006-10-24 19:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's lust u just horny. U need to get your mind off sex with him and try something different.
2006-10-24 19:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Precious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him out of your head and move on. If he has another girl already he is obviousley not thinking about you that much.
2006-10-24 19:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to leave you alone if he has a gf what kind of azz hole is he any way forget him if he's doing this to his gf then he'll do it to you
2006-10-24 19:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to grow up!are you actually this nieve?if so email me and we will hook up.
2006-10-24 19:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by porkchophaynes0206 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋