Does your boyfriend/husband/fiance/ child's father ever refer you you children as "your" kids when the kdis are getting in trouble? I HATE that. I just sort of need to vent sorry. I was eating dinner earlier and my youngest got into the fridge. Instead of my fiance going to get her, he told me to go get "my" daughter. I can understand if he was doing something but all he was doing was sitting on the couch. So, am I alone here?
2006-10-24 12:14:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
your children...sorry, I have a wireless keyboard and the batteries are going dead...again
2006-10-24 12:15:29 · update #1
Oh, I say the same thing sometimes. That's not the part that botheres me. What annoyed me about it was that he was doing absolutely nothing. after going to work today, coming home and cleaning the kids' mess, cooking dinner and dealing with 2 children going through the terrible two's, I wanted to relax. His excuse was, "I cleaned while you were at work and have to work tonight." Soem people just don't think before they speak...lol
2006-10-24 12:23:44 · update #2
lol, my husband does it all the time!!! "your son is crying" "your son just knocked that over" "your son is hungry" "your son has a dirty diaper" I get mad too because he only says it when he doesnt want to deal with it! I've confronted him with it because I know he loves OUR son, but I can't do it all alone. He laughs about it so I just turned the tables. Our son will do something that doesnt need immediate attention (otherwise i'd b there in a second) and I'll grab a magazine, plop on the couch, and say " OUR son needs daddy...NOW." he'll laugh and get up and say "yes dear, your son needs me" Its frustrating for sure but try and let him know that it might hurt your childs feelings to hear "your daughter" instead of ours. /it just might work : ) good luck, and if it doesnt work, join the club lol
2006-10-24 12:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by htmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but it's very irresponsible. He's not taking responsibility for his kid. You ought to tell him how you feel. But do it in a loving manor, or He'll just get mad. The father should help when at home. it's not like you down time otherwise! He obviously is!you should set down some guidelines of how He can help and when would be good for you both to have personal time.
2006-10-24 19:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Larissa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has done that so many times it is not even funny. If either one of our kids are doing something wrong they are "my kids" I can not stand it at all. If they are doing something wrong and you see it go and get them and do something about you don't need me to do it. When he is just as capable as me.
2006-10-24 20:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit I tell my husband that sometimes, I don't know why but I do it isn't when I am mad I just say it allot like if he just gets home from work I will say your son is hiding from you, stuff like that.
2006-10-24 21:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do it when my kids are frusterating me or if they are being bad. But it is more of a oke then a bad thing. Like if we are at Mc. Donalds and they are being rude, I say go take care of your kids, or something. And he does. I love him. (I asked him, he just said that he does not mind when I tell him that. )
2006-10-24 19:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....i would correct my boyfriend (we live together and have a 9mo old) we are 27 and 30.. ...its our daughter and you need to get off the couch and do something....if she is only mine then, i can take her and raise her myself... ...now, i work and can say this to him and mean it....so, whatever you decide, make sure you can back it up but, he can not continue to do this...he has to be a dad and be involved.
2006-10-24 19:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Carmen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has always claimed my oldest daughter (whom is the only of OUR children that isn't "his") as ours. Never as mine.
2006-10-24 20:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactually where your coming from.I started doing it right abck to him and now he doesn't do it anymroe because it made him have to do things .
2006-10-24 19:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by KIM L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like Silverbirch, when we do it, it's just a joke. Never serious. However if it were serious, I might reply, "and why can't YOU get OUR child?"
2006-10-24 19:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to do that more than he does, but we are seperated and he can't see them without supervision, so it may be more understandlable in my case. I know it bothers him though.
2006-10-24 19:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋