I'm 31 years old and my wife is 24. We have four children including twins. Have been married for six years.
I have 3 sister in laws and one brother in law, out of which one of my sister in law is married and my brother in law is also married. My other two sister in laws are 17 and 15 yrs and they have been living with us for the past six years. We speak arabic at home.
I treat my two sister in laws as my own daughters and they call me dad in arabic and I am fine with that. Well as we speak arabic at home, they call me dad. My wife's parents died when they were 3 and 5 yrs. They have been living with us for six yrs and they have called me dad all this time. My wife is happy about it and says I am great.
I treat them like my own daughters from my heart and have done everything to them from all their expenses. I have even bought two houses for them, for their marriage. They say that I am like their own dad and even kiss me, when going out. Is it okay for them to call me dad?
2006-10-24 12:13:17 · 14 answers · asked by Mr Business 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-10-24 12:18:46 · update #1
Of course. You have been wonderful to them, better than some real fathers.
2006-10-24 12:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not. There is not such thing as "too much" love. It's obvious that you are a caring and generous person to welcome them into your home and helping to raise them as you would hope someone would do for your own children should you be unable. It shows the bond & gratitude you have for them and they have for you. So long as you and your wife remain on the "same page" about it...who cares what other people think. If only more families would take care of their own like that...this world would have fewer problems. Good for you.
2006-10-24 19:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by punchie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have stepped up and acted as the father figure then yes it is okay for them to call you "dad" as long as they are not being forced to do { and do not feel obligated}it and you and your wife are comfortable allowing it. But my question is who cares what language you speak at home does that really matter? And wow you married your wife when she was 16! Way to go cradle robber
2006-10-24 19:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are such a wonderful husband and your sister in laws love you for that reason ..you wife must be very proud of the way you treat her family....losing parents so young they have looked to you for guidence and love and you should be proud they call you dad..your generosity is overwhelming and you are a SPECIAL HUMAN BEING ....bless you and your family sureilll
2006-10-24 20:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Your culture is different than ours, American. Do not be discouraged by what others may think. I am an American, and I think what you have done, raising your young sisters-in-law is a very commendable thing. Keep up the good work!
2006-10-24 19:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Robert A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all of you are comfortable with them calling you dad then there is nothing wrong with it. You have been like a father to them after all!
2006-10-24 19:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Allah'u'Abha!
Absolutely,
Bless you and your Family,
You are a wonderful Father Husband and Brother In-Law,
You will be blessed in the after life and I hope that you will continue to have a great relationship with your daughters.
Bahai Writings Say:
family,
to welcome you in the home of our beloved Master and to share with you the eternal outpourings of His Grace in and around His blessed Shrine, he deems it of greater importance for you to keep up helping the young boy whom you have undertaken to educate. This he would advise you with a deep realization of Baha'u'llah's most pregnant utterance that he who educates his child or another's it is just as though he is educating a child of Baha'u'llah Himself. ...
Best wishes to you and your Children, Please keep it up! It truly gladdens my heart!
Bless You!
2006-10-24 19:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as they know who their real parents are, which I'm sure they do, them calling you 'dad' is like a sign of affection and thanks for all you've done for them.
2006-10-24 19:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I UNDERSTAND YOU REALIZE YOU ARE NOT THEIR FATHER AND THAT THEY KNOW IT, BUT YOU ARE NOT TAKING THEIR DAD'S PLACE, YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON FROM WHAT YOU SAY, I THINK IT'S OK FOR THEM TO CALL YOU DAD WHEN YOU ALL GO OUT. AFTER ALL YOU ARE BEHAVING LIKE ONE TO THEM. I THINK YOU'LL BE ALRIGHT AND IT'S OK ENJOY IT.
2006-10-24 19:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by DRLE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, be proud...... its alot for kids to call someone that isn't their biological father DAD.... be happy that they trust and confide in you.... its a wonderful compliment.
2006-10-24 19:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋