I have been dating this girl for the past three years. We have had our rocky times and both have made mistakes. She cheated on me 6 months ago and then we worked out our differences and now I found out that she has been talking to the guy that she cheated on me with on gay myspace. (i will also add that she dated him for 2 months. told him she loved him,and talked about getting married.) So I bring it up to her in a calm mannor and ask her about it. She got all butt hurt and started throwing things out that i do wrong and that im not being fair becuase i make her feel like "Sh**" What do all of you think am i being controlling? Do i have reason to be concernd? Also this all happend on Friday and the Tuesday before i had a dream that she was still talking to him and it felt real. I thought that it was weird that i had that dream and i told her on that tue. and she made me feel better saying she would never do that. Is it truth or coquincidence i had the dream? I hate this crap.
2006-10-24 11:55:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you are. Want to know why she cheated on you? Because you didn't respect her and she found someone who did respect her. I cheated and for the same reason. You have a reason to be concern and if you believe this is getting out of hand end the relationship or put up with it.
2006-10-24 12:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by missdontgivafukusa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she talks to him then you should be concerned. In my life it happened that I was right that she was still telling stories instead of the truth. I told her that she needs to tell me the truth but she only lied. But if I good go back and do it again then I would of left her sooner. You might be wrong but how happy will you be with doubts eating at you. If she truely loves you then she would leave him alone and show you that she loves you. The best thing I can tell you is trust your gut if something is wrong it will tell you. Good luck and find happiness with or without her.
2006-10-24 19:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once trust is broken its pretty hart to trust again.. i suggest that is she cheated on u then she is not the one for u... hey 3 years is a lot of time but if u look at it its enough time to get to really know someone and like they say "once a cheater always a cheater" and since she did it already then u guys are always going to be fighting casue the trust is gone between u guys..
2006-10-24 19:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you are not being controlling. Asking her to not talk to Any guys Ever is being controlling. But she has history with this particular guy....dated him for two months, tossed the idea of marriage in the air with him, broke up with him.....then got with him again , and even said she would Never talk to him behind your back. I think you are justified in your feelings of concern.
2006-10-24 19:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by birdie247 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please do urself a favor..move on without her.. i can sense that ur relationship with her a complete mess.. find a girl and start with a clean state.. ya know.. where there's no cheating and like this and like that.... you may not be able to trust her coz she cheated on you one time.. and you can't trust her anymore and there are times that you would like to know her activities... that' s why probably u have had asked this question...that is emotionally draining.. .. you need peace..
2006-10-24 19:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by weakest Link! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being controlling,,SHE is the controlling factor here, she is a nut and you will dirve yourself crazy trying to figure out this crazyness..do yourself a favor..DUMP HER.
2006-10-24 19:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by dr.pepper106 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋