2006-10-24 11:51:38 · 31 answers · asked by Windsor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
pretend to go senile and let them look after you!
2006-10-24 11:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to insist that each one pull their weight in helping with the house work, food preparation and laundry. You shouldn't have to lift a finger with three grown people taking up much of your space. Lean back and relax while they earn their keep. Read a book. Leave the house when you need to get away; after all, they will be taking care of the chores. Ask them what time you can expect that dinner will be on the table. They are adults and should be able to plan which one of them will cook, clean, and do laundry, or if they will alternate. You should not be critical of their efforts if they try to do their share adequately. Of course you have a say about what kind of food and drink is brought into the house if you are footing the bill. If they do not try to be adequate with their share of the work, then out they go. Call the police if you have to.
Especially, if you are buying the food, you shouldn't have to cook it too. Lay down the rules. There is no law that says you have to support your grown children. There is a family code that requires you to protect them as much as possible, which means they must protect you as much as possible. You have labored for them during their youth, now they can labor for you in their adult stage. That is, if they expect to live under your roof. Tough love is called for here. Have a good time letting them wait on you for their privilege.
2006-10-24 12:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seems to be becoming a more and more common problem. You life should not be hindered by your grown children returning home. Simply lay down the laws. If they are actaully living with you again they need to be respectful of you . You should be in no way responsible in cleaning up after then or providing meals for them unless you wish to do so. Plan a certain evening for them to give you a few hours to yourself in the house, as your privecy should not be lost completely either. While charging you own childer rent seeems abit harsh you at the very least should not bu financially burdened by them living htere. They should be provivng their own food and if the utilities go up then they should split the increae amongst themselves.
2006-10-24 12:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by pinkyduh1377 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Make them pay you rent. Like $200 a month each.
2. Make them get jobs. If they don't have jobs and can't pay rent threaten to kick them out. Unless they are sick the military will take them. Right? Don't get soft. The military builds character. Tray the navy or marines they don't get stationed to much active duty as the army.
3. Make them do house work. The more house work they have to do for you the more they will wish that they had their own houses to put forth that musch effort into.
4. do not let them use your car with out bringing it back with a full tank of gas or make them pay you $30.
With these kids out of your hair you'll have a life and so will they.
2006-10-24 11:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by evilive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the house and move. Is'nt there somewhere that you've always wanted to live, like a lake, river or mountains? Now's the time. You won't get another chance. What's with your kids? Mine are both graduated from college and doing well in the workforce...
2006-10-24 11:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the lucky one, being on my own for 8 years I would love my 3 to return to the fold if only temporary.
Good luck
2006-10-24 12:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by poetrygirl on line 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they're grown up then they can see to themselves and pay their own way. Set down some rules, it's your house. You have to resolve this rather than worrying about it. My kids live with me but I have a life!!
2006-10-24 13:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have finally realized that my sons are now 21 and 24 and not moving too fast but I need to let them grow so Mama is going to move out!
2006-10-24 11:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know that feeling..... 2 grown up sons in scotland n im in essex.... guess who is driving a 900 mile round trip to glasgow to collect their 20 year old this weekend???
love him to bits but also love the quiet life with me and the 4 younger ones...my bonus is a live in babysitter so i can get out but downside is my baby has to come into my room to give her big brother a room to himself..
lay the ground rules n if they dont like it they can house share.....
2006-10-24 11:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by JACQUELINE D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are grown up it's up to you if you go out or whatever they can't stop you,you've spent all your life doing things for them now do something for yourself(go on enjoy life a little)
2006-10-25 00:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick them out, refuses to do their cooking cleaning etc, draw up a rota of household duties and mask they pay rent
EG, do your own food shopping? pay £50 a week rent| each? do your own laundry - with your own tablets, do your own ironing, keep all unironed clorthes in your bedroom, - you could get them a cheap |Iron and rnong baord from argos/asda - one for each of their rooms-im serious, wash pots pans after theyve used them - immediately, dont have friends call around, or use the shed for seeing your friends, dont ask me to lend you money, clean the bath after every times its used, rotas for cleaning the toilet every day, thats a start and make it clear its your house not theirs, tell them if they break the rukles - theyre out, seriosuly and for the workshy give them household cleaning duties/gardening to helppay their keep, also they could have your tea ready at night
2006-10-24 13:49:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋