what can be done about a three kid who are bullies. my child was jump at shool, by three girls.?

Question

My child was jump on school ground,by 2 sister and cousin. Because they didnt like how she look and because the talks to a friend Krystal, She new to the school. I wasn't call about what happened. She came home crying. I call the school and have been waiting for a call back, I called the police and was told nothing well be done because they are 12 yrs.and the DA dosen't due anything about cat fights, with teens. If the school just change the kids around schools and don't stop these3girls from bulling and the police don't feel they can due anything to help,where or what can i due because the girls are steel telling my child their not done with her,to watch out. I called the district they can't help.But they well talk to someone at the school. So my child got in house because she tried to get the girls off of her,one sit on her will the2girl pulled her hair and hit her. she not to hit bacause so he got in house also, now she has swollen face,hair pulled out they want me due nothing.help

Im sorry to those who think i don't english, but i was very upset when i wrote and i don't spell very well. but i've been to the school and to the police and most likly nothing well been done to these girls because this a problem the happened to offten. But what i don't under stand is why the keep moving these bullies from to school to school and not deal with these kids. When i'm trying to rise my grandkids right. Know i feel that she should protect herself. If these girls hit her again. Because These girls keep telling my child she isnt done with her yet, that there more to come. brenda

I want to thank some of you people for your answer and i well look into talking to a lawyer. Because the school well not due anything but give them in house suspension and it seams the law dosen't matter if your 12yrs of age and under. Because this is call a cat fight even if it was 3 on 1. thank you all brenda

Answer 1

Butt out mom. Kids will be kids. We all made it through and grew up just fine. DO NOT be one of those parents who never allows their kid to develop the skills necessary to handle life's tough situations.

Tell your kid to take care of it and watch her figure out what she needs to do. If you continue to live her life for her, you will have a kid that is incapable of anything without you. And that 'aint good.

Answer 2

You know, to here about something like this really ticks me off. It's obvious that the schools have not changed in 30 years. You would think with all the school shootings they would get a clue. I would go to the school and talk to the principal and your daughters teachers. Let them know what is going on, and also advise them that you will be there all day every day, as is your right, to make sure nothing happens to your daughter again since they are doing nothing. Your daughter is a minor and it is your right to protect. I would file a police report, and if need be go file a report with social services. Something has to be done, because this is the problem, the school board does not take things like this serious until something horrible happens. Don't give up. Keep on this until you get answers and something is done about it. I would call the parents of the other girls involved, just so they know you are not giving up on this. If you get no response from them, well, parents are responsible for what their under age children do, let them know you mean business. I am with you 100%

Answer 3

I'll give you the same answer I gave to another Yahoo question of the same subject area:

Bullies ! Bullies ! Bullies!

How I HATED the bullies!

My dad is a bully, so that didn't help, but I did learn how to deal with them. People in general need to understand that this is a part of life - bullies are EVERYWHERE. But what's funny is this:

When they grow up; when they finally mature, guess what? They DON'T REMEMBER that they did bullying. They did not know that they hurt people. Is that not something else? I've seen shows of people who confront the bullies some 10, 20 yrs later on a television show, and the bully was totally CLUELESS that they created such pain in another student; in fact, the show I watched had the bully as not even REMEMBERING the person at all!

And of course, I've attended reunions, and most of the bullies have had rough lives, unhappy, looking years older than they should, so now I feel sorry for them.

Chances are, a person during their lifetime will probably face alot of people like that, some to be mean, some are just ignorant of what they are doing. We need to focus on having empathy for others, and show people who have afflictions that they can be loved, too. There are kids who are crippled, blind, deaf, health problems of all kinds that are also picked on. It's unfair, but it is life. We can learn to be sympathetic and develop a deeper understanding of peoples feelings, so that maybe, when we become adults, there are careers in counseling, nursing, becoming a doctor, physical therapist, or some other occupation that will help a person feel like they are a part of the community of mankind; that they are loved by giving of onself to others. This runs contrary to the Bully's Purpose in Life / Mission Statement.

Bullies are miserable people.
Ignore them.

Answer 4

Though I was bullied, it was not to that level of violence. The ones that did it to me have matured, died, or moved away. I hold no grudge toward them now. However, today is much different. Kids are not punished by authorities as severly now. They are given excuses for exhibiting bad behavior. The courts are clogged with crime. Parents cannot or will not control their children because of legal and civil consequences. The children too late are trained in the use of proper behavior. From the time they are born, they need to be told right from wrong until they leave home. I knew not to use a weapon to get even or to bully was acceptable. My dad would have disowned me and spanked my bottom severly. When I did deserve it, he gave it a good whipping that made me realize that my actions had painful consequences. Today, I respect authority and no record of violence to be ashamed of. My mom said that she would have me locked up in jail if I had done what these had done when I was just a teen. Fear was a good tool. It was them who scared me more than the police. I love them for it more now than then. Though my family had guns for hunting or protection, I knew to leave them alone no matter how bad the kids treated me. There was no excuse for touching them. unless supervised by an adult. Today, I cannot stand to be around them when they go off. The sound hurts my ears. My parents taught me to value freedom and life. Sadly, that is not taught today because parents do not know the way to descipline without damaging the psyche or the body. I have no scars from the discipline my parents gave me when I deserved it.

Answer 5

Go right to the source. Talk to the parents of the girls involved in the scuffle, make an appointment with the schools principle and teachers as well as the guidence counselor. Remember to stay calm. Acting with anger will make you look like the bad-guy. Staying calm will help to find a resolution that you can live with and most importantly will allow your child to continue at school without undo peer pressure and retaliation. Your child must be allowed to keep her dignity, if she doesn't it could make the matter comtemptable. So get to the authorities by opening bell at school. Consider walking or driving your daughter to school and while she goes to class ask politely for a meeting with the principle.

Finally when talking to the parents of the students involved be sure to let them know you only want the brutality to end and know they would never allow anyone to hurt their child. Since most people would never allow violence and would fear law suits you will be complimenting their ability to reason, while acting with a cool head and soft voice (of concern). You can be sure to resolve the issue, protect your daughter and maintain your child's dignity by calm reasonable behaviour.

Answer 6

Police won't do ANYTHING to children anymore unless they damage school property or kill someone....

3 different households witnesses 3 kids break ALL the damned windows out of my house and police wouldn't do anything...

The kids learn "they can get away with murder" until they actually do kill someone then those untouchable 12 yrs olds get tried as an adult.

Only thing you can do if contact some attorney's to see if they would sue. Some will take the case on a basis that if you don't win you don't pay them...

Answer 7

it is an assault, no matter what their age. if i was you i would sit my butt down at the school, and wouldn't move until it was taken care of, if fighting in school happened in my area, the kids would all be suspended.
I would get ahold of a local TV station, and tell them the story. also in your local paper, usually there is a section for ordinary people to write in about anything.
I would also see an attorney. it shouldn't cost you anything for a first time visit, and a small fee to have them type up a cease and desist letter to the school. good luck...but don't let them brush you off.
alot of schools have peer mediation also. even in my daughter s school (she is a teacher), a grade school there are severe consequences for fighting.

Answer 8

you need to go to the school and talk to the principal. don't sit and wait for a call. You take the initiative and go there. You explain to the principal you are concerned for your daughter's safety. Many times the principal will get the 3 kids and tell them to stay way from your daughter, if they don't they will be suspended. You daught needs to be strong on telling a teacher that she is scared. Nowaday's kids need to say something without feeling that they are being tattle tales. There is a big difference here.

Answer 9

Don't bother taking it to the principal. Take pictures of your kids injuries. Ask if anyone if they saw the 3 girls doing this to your kid and get witnesses signed letters in righting. What they did was assult. To be honset if someone touched my kid I'd ******* kill them. But to be honest you need to hit these little bitches where it hurts. Through a party and put exlax in their brownies. Through rocks at them when no one is looking. Get the neighborhood perve to start hitting on them. Anything. Just make those bitches pay. And no matter what you do to them never admit fault.

Answer 10

The school has to do something about it the main thing is You try to remain calm because if you flip out and take matters into your own hands then it is like you stooping to their level. Be yourself and demand your respect. Go to parent teacher meetings and set up a one on one meeting with the principle. They have to listen just remain calm and think before you speak so you don't come off like an aggressor. God be with you>

Answer 11

oh my god! TELL THE POLICE that if they DONT do something about these nasty girls, your going to take THEM to court. Those stupid a@@holes. they are so goddamn lazy sometimes.. your kid getting JUMPED is NOT a catfight. call the police TONIGHT and tell them that if they dont investigate this and ARREST somebody, your going to file a "wrongful actions' on them...what freakin town do you live in that they think that this is ok??? screw the school....deal with the cops....these girls are not going to stop...Didnt you see the thing on the news about the 12 YEAR old who got in trouble on the bus?? she got taken to COURT!!! seriously tell the police you will "TAKE ACTION AGAINST THE DEPARTMENT IF SOMETHING ISNT DONE" please email me if you need any [e-mail] GOOD LUCK =0)