my husband is a muslim and drinks aswell but does not want me to have a drink
2006-10-24 11:28:53 · 43 answers · asked by angie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your husband's a muslim and he drinks, and he tells you not to drink? what the hell is he doing? He has absolutley no right to do that, you go out and enjoy yourself girl, you deserve it, everyone deserves to indulge themseves every once in a while! Remind him that he's a Muslim and you are not and that "Allah" forbids muslims to drink alcohol. You're not wrong to have a drink, I'm down our local when I finish work at 2pm (I start work at 6am) and I'm there for a couple of hours at least. You go out and enjoy yourself, as is your right and entitlement to do so!
2006-10-24 11:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having a drink. Its only when Alcohol costs you more than money, then it becomes a problem, so go for it have a drink if you want one. What your husband wants is control even the big man upstairs had a drink so whats wrong with that.
2006-10-26 04:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought it was against the muslim faith to drink, but then i have to admit to knowing very little about it. However, if your husband enjoys a drink, then what's good for him is good for you too. There should not be double standards, you are both individuals in your own right.
I was interested to see a clip about a forthcoming programme on some muslim women wishing to go inside mosques. Muslim women on the whole seem very independent, inteligent and confident.
i'm not advocating you start drinking, but i would never allow a man to tell me what to do. I still manage to have immense respect for my husband without being controlled or controlling him i hope.
have a drink if it suits you.
2006-10-24 11:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by brainlady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah girl just because you have 4 kids doesn't mean that you can't sometimes just have a sit, relax and have a nice drink it aint like you harming anybody and about your husband sit down with him and make him understand that there's nothing wrong with having a drink once in a while.
2006-10-24 11:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know if it's against your religion to drink. My Christian faith teaches I can have a drink now and then (in moderation), but not get drunk or tipsy. However, what bothers me is that your husband has a drink now and then but will not allow you to do the same. Like you are his child or something inferior to him! I don't like that way of thinking, but maybe it's your religion again. It's not for me to judge. But I don't see why a glass of wine once in a while is wrong.
2006-10-24 11:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as the kids are being looked after - and I'm sure you are a great mum - nothing is wrong with sometimes having a drink. I have four kids too and believe me you need a break and the chance to relax a bit.
2006-10-24 11:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first, its not fair that he can drink, but doesnt want you to drink. thats not right. and second, drinking is okay if its not hurting anyone. Example: if you get a babysitter for the night, go out to dinner or dancing or something and have afew drinks then SAFELY go home, i think its okay..noone is hurt, your kids are fine, and your making sure that YOU get home okay. BUT if you get drunk in front of your kids, or stay out all night, or drink too much that you cant go to work the next day, then its not healthy for anyone. I would talk to you husband and tell him that you are equal... what he can do, you can do. GOOD LUCK=0)
2006-10-24 11:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by thatgirluknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats good for the goose is good for the gander!! Why should he be the one to drink, how unfair!!
I know what its like looking after four children exhausting you need to have a drink sometimes to unwind!! If I was you I would carry on drinking by the sound of things you only drink socially!
2006-10-24 11:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
My husband is a Bahai, and we don't drink either ,
I have 3 kids and my husband doesn't drink EVER-
What I say is just make sure your careful, and responsible- and hide it from him
If you feel like a drink put it in Cranberry juice, he won't notice
If he says where is this booze say you needed it for cooking
and if you wanna drink when he's there wait until later take a sip and say your going to bed
If he's been drinking he won't even notice
Go for it!
Meg
2006-10-24 11:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as sometimes is not more often than not, you're just fine. With a muslim husband, wasn't the drinking thing covered before you were married?
2006-10-24 11:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋