see i know this boy at school. he is kind of cute, but one day he asked me to go out with him and i said yes maybe because i didn't want to hurt his feelings. now he is going to fast and i have to break up with him i know it is wrong, but he is making me feel uncomfortable. please help a sista out.
2006-10-24 10:50:18 · 21 answers · asked by ashley b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, i feel the need to address the idot named beefstrokinoff39...I am thinking the only reason you made the comment you did is because you needed an outlet for your ignorance. I just can't believe that you would come to the conclusion of someone being a racist because they use the word 'sista'. How about you log off of yahoo every once and a while and experience what most of us know as life in 2006?
Now, back to the question at hand. From one sista to another i have to tell you that is seems very strange that you would go from not wanting to hurt this guys feelings by going on a date with him to now having to break up with him. Why did you become his girl in the first place? You have to do better then this. A guy would be able to respect you more if you told him you weren't interested then you playing with his feelings. Since you are young you have some learining to do so it's not the end of the world. My advice would be to tell him that he is moving too fast for you, see what he says.
2006-10-24 12:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by goody 2 shoes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break it to him GENTLY, besides you will hurt him even more if you help him nourish the feeling more, I suggest a sincere conversation. This same situation happened to me, and to think the guy is my super crush! I have to admit I was the one who made the first move, when everything started to happen my way, I just realized one thing-->its not all about the physicals deARIE, and thats when I learned the difference between infatuation and like and love. see? even the most crushed guy could give you the feeling of "he is not just the one", i tell you, if you go out with him because you're concerned about this feelings, then nothing's wrong with that, in fact thats so nice of you. But to convince him that the feelings mutual by still Going out with him etc, is being unfair. You mentioned "break up" with him? so thats how you two are right now, hmm, lets say you're on the getting to know still stage, have you given enough time for yourself to think through things clearly? I dont want you regretting in the end, but listen to your heart. if you havent learned to love him, then give it a gentle quits honey....set both of yourselves free, it might hurt yes, but everything happens for a reason
have a blessed day
2006-10-24 18:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must strive to be a strong sista. You are in control of your life so dont waste it on someone who makes you feel uncomfortable. He will get over his hurt feelings. Everyone does.
2006-10-24 17:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Binky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say "yes" or "maybe"...it wasnt because you didnt want to hurt his feelings, if it was, then you really messed up because you set him up for an even bigger let down. Take the honorable way out, and just explain to him that you are not that into him. I have more respect for a girl that can tell me no up front than put me through an emotional hell.
2006-10-24 17:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by CJT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, that he's going too fast and making you feel uncomfortable around him. Tell him that you want to ve friends and if something else is meant to be later, than it is....
Good Luck-you're too young to be stressed out!
2006-10-24 17:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by njsueb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the perfect solution, but since you're obviously a skin-color obsessed racist, go figure it out yourself, "sista".
2006-10-24 17:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by beefstrokinoff39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him "you make me feel uncomfortable, i want to break up." and don't take no for an answer. there are plenty of decent guys to meet out there.
2006-10-24 17:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by SAChicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that it feels uncomfortable for you, but still be friends so you dont destroy the poor guy.
2006-10-24 17:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by The infamous bongblaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you made a mistake. If he's persistant, tell an teacher or parent. I know, that sounds lame, but he'll get the message.
2006-10-24 17:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Dirty Knees 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you aren't really into him, and you are feeling pressured. Just say you don't want a relationship with him.
2006-10-24 17:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋