international adoption?

Question

my husband and i are considering an international adoption. not because of any recent hype, but because we feel that God might be leading us in that direction. we have one child of our own and she is amazing! but my heart is tugged by children all over the world that will never have a mom and dad, a loving family or toys of their own. has anyone had any first hand expirence with and international adoption? pros/cons? what about raising a child of a different race? is this still an issue in our society? thoughts?

Answer 1

I am not someone who has adopted, however, I was adopted. When I was 1, I was adopted from Changsha, China by my two amazing parents. I remember from when I was little my parents telling me how much they wanted a baby and all the struggles they had to go through and all the papers they wrote just to get me. Which made me feel loved anymore.

Pros of being adopted

*You have basically 2 sets of parents your birth mom and dad and your adoptive mom and dad
*You know your parents love you and you are taught that all families are different but no matter how different they are, you are still love in some way
*It makes me value life more every day
*There are so few people that are adopted, if you tell people that you are they find it really neat and ask you questions so you can make some friends
*You are giving someone else a better chance at life.

Cons of being adopted

*You sometimes wonder why your parents gave you up
*You don't always know your history or background so its hard to do some school projects on (however you'll move around it)
*For some parents they worry that if the child they adopted decides to go back and look for their birth mom and dad, they worry that they'll love them more or take you away (No matter what, these adoptive kids will always love you and they can't take your kid away because of the documents you've signed)


Raising a child of a different race

just be sure to include some of their cultures into your life. For example my parents put me in chinese school for a few years and we celebrate chinese new year, and the day I was adopted. Be sure you tell your child that they are adopted and spend time telling them that their birth parents did love them and they always have loved them. And when the question comes up "who were my real parents" be sure you tell them the complete and honest truth, and spend as much time as it takes informing them and answering all their questions. Also, if tthey feel that they aren't good enough or they feel different in school, let them know that its ok to feel different and no matter what your family loves them. Also be sure that your current child is ok with this.

Issue in our society

From what I know there currently aren't that many issues in our society, I personally believe that people don't care what race you are as long as your a kind citizen to our country ad all that stuff.

Thoughts

I think that adopting is a very good thing. I love the feeling of giving an innocent person a greater chance of success at life.

Answer 2

I have not adopted myself but worked for a family that adopted 4 children all of different races and of course there will be people that will have issues and have things to say,but I can say for each of these children they did not suffer in any way they had parents that loved and nurtured them and taught them right and wrong what the meaning of mom and dad really meant. These children may not share their parents skin color but they have a family. Their parents also had 4 of their own children and they all grew up loving one another I feel very blessed to have been part of this and if your heart is pulling you in that direction you should do it our God will not direct us in the wrong direction!

Answer 3

If your heart is in it, just do it.
Your opinions should not be governed by the thoughts of others. You are already doing a wonderful thing. Do you really think the little person that will be impacted the most cares who, or from where, or what race, the people are that will be their Mon and Dad are?
Bless you!