Was it wrong of me to do this....?

Question

Guys if an ex-girlfriend whom you hadn't heard of in awhile contacted you by msn, how woud you feel? My situation is that I dated my ex-boyfriend for one month, it was ony kissing, (cuz he knew I'm saving sex for marriage), and HE was the one to end it. But after he ended he would always say hi to me on msn, but that has become less frequent. Then since September he has said hi to me twice on msn. So cuz of that, I decided yesterday that I should put my ego and pride aside and say hi to him even though he dumped me and broke my heart. I just wanted to see how he was doing and I only asked him questions about school. He was responsive and he asked me questions too. Was it wrong of me to say hi? Was it desperate of me? Should I just delete and block him from my msn and try to get over him, even though he contacts me very rarely but still does? I know no one is a mind reader but what could he be thinking now about yesterday? I'm sure he was surprised but whatdoya think?

I know I just asked this but I wanna hear what other people have to say:)

Answer 1

Its not wrong of you contact him. This doesn't apply to every situation, but if the break up was kind, and by kind I mean he was trying really hard to let you down easy, then no its not wrong to contact him. He may be very interested in being friends. Deleting him and so on might actually be a bit excessive.
Look, its understandable if there is some hositility on your behalf, a broken heart takes time to heal, I have certainly had my share. As long as you conversations with him are civil, you know polite conversations, "hi, hows school, etc."
Maybe, talking to him will give you a chance to try saying whats on your mind, tell him how your feeling, better yet, try doing it over the phone or in person. Personaly I find conversations that important and are done over the internet, to me is disrespectful. Don't be afraid to to sit down with him, say for a cup of coffee and just talk it out, tell him or even ask him the very questions you asked. No harm can come of that.

Answer 2

I can't exactly say but maybe he just wants 2 be friends and I don't see anything wrong with that. He might be thinking of u, and he might not. It's almost impossible 2 tell. However, don't block him out, it sounds like he's just trying 2 be friendly so go ahead and talk 2 him.

Answer 3

No, that wasn't desperate of you. Just because you are no longer a couple doesn't mean you can't be friends and therefore have friendly chats online. Thats perfectly fine. I wouldn't block him but maybe getting over him would be the best idea.

Answer 4

What, people aren't allowed to be friends after break-ups?
I never understood why people get all freaked out when an "ex" calls or writes them.
I carry on friendships with some of my former girlfriends. We may not have been meant to be lovers, but were meant to be friends.

Answer 5

Well it wasn't "wrong" of you to do so. You were just being polite I realy wouldn't look to much into this situation because it doesn't seem all that serious unless he starts talking about making out and **** like that. Continue to "do you" and move on, if he says hi then say hi and keep moving.

Answer 6

Naw, saying hi isn't wrong and it's isn't wrong to stay in touch with your ex. No, it isn't desperate of you unless you feel desperate. Maybe he's revised his behavior pattern. (I'm assuming you've included the reason for the breakup.) Ask him how he sees the world and you.

Answer 7

What does it matter? Are you going to marry him? Do you have to have a motive to talk to someone? His motive could be a "Hi long time not talk whats up?" I don't see a problem, if it hurts to talk to him then don't talk to him. I don't see why it would hurt you, it's not like you were engaged or anything like that.

Answer 8

you did what you wanted to do. theres nothing weird about that. if you get back together(and you want it like that) good for you!

Answer 9

let sleeping dogs lie.cause if you wake him you may get bit

Answer 10

beeeeeeeeep